https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 11 Nov 2026 22:18:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298433 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 16:37:29 +0000 Vegmama 1298433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I LOVE this idea. Our friends went on a honeymoon to Europe &amp; their Honeyfund included things like: "Tickets from London to Paris", or "A night in Barcelona" ... Tickets to concerts, soccer games, etc. It was great, and we loved contributing. They had already lived together for years, and just didn't need all of the typical wedding registry goodies. I wish we would have done this, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298378 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 16:10:06 +0000 littlebug 1298378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: @looch: Agreed! We had a Honeyfund and a Bed, Bath, and Beyond registry. We put the link to our wedding website in our invitations. We did the BBB registry only because people would have put up a stink if we didn't. We basically registered for, like, "ultimate wish list" things - stuff that we liked but wouldn't have bought for ourselves. We'd already been living together in a house that we'd bought together for 3 years. The honeymoon registry allowed us to schedule excursions and a limo to the resort - stuff we definitely would not have been able to do without the registry! When a hurricane interrupted our honeymoon and we weren't able to DO those excursions, we took the money and used it towards home improvement projects. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298375 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 16:08:35 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1298375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: @looch: In those cases, cash would be perfect! If there is a small registry or no registry, or nothing that pops out at me I'll give cash or we've even give a gift card for a fancy dinner out in the City (for a foodie couple that like you said had been living together for years and didn't need "stuff"). I totally understand not wanting to register for "stuff" I just don't like the idea of fees and would rather give cash directly. And in that case you could totally include a note that says something to the extent of "enjoy a dinner out on your Honeymoon!" or something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298359 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 16:00:44 +0000 JoJoGirl 1298359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Exactly! I get not putting the registry in the invite, but that aside, different people have different needs. I also didn't have a shower or bachelorette party (just a luncheon for girlfriends the day before the wedding in lieu of both). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298337 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 15:49:48 +0000 looch 1298337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: totally agree. I think the norms are changing, as will the understanding of what is is good or bad taste. I really dislike it when people make generalized statements about something being tacky or distasteful. </p> <p>I was 33 when I got married and was moving abroad. Not really going to be able to take that Kitchenaid mixer with me, so we didn't have a registry or a shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298330 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 15:45:46 +0000 JoJoGirl 1298330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to add - I was 33 when I got married and my husband was 37. We'd already lived together for 2 years in a relatively small apartment and had both been living on our own as adults for over 10 years... We really did NOT need anymore stuff. We registered for china and some appliances neither of us had, but honestly, as 'annoying' as most people find honeymoon registries, the idea was sort of a lifesaver for us :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298279 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 15:23:16 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1298279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think including registries on invites is poor form -- everyone will give you a gift of some sort, no need to spell it out on the invite that you are asking for stuff/money.</p> <p>I wasn't a fan of Honeyfund because they DO charge fees (e.g. PayPal). I would rather write a check or give cash and know that the couple will receive 100% of what I'm paying (and I don't have to pay a fee to give them money). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298260 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 15:14:29 +0000 shopaholic 1298260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've contributed to 2 similar honeymoon themed registries in the past, but neither were on the invite. The info/links were on the wedding website. I understood for both times though. 1 time, we were all so young, it was a way for them to have a nice honeymoon. The other time, the couple had been together for over a decade and they didn't need any house stuff. But paid for the wedding themselves and could use help with a honeymoon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298166 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 14:38:21 +0000 kjpugs 1298166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like that it was included with the invite. Shower hosts can include it, and it can be on their wedding website, but that's it for "acceptable" IMHO.</p> <p>However, we registered for our honeymoon. We had lived together and I did not feel right asking people to get us new silverware, or towels, etc- we already had some that were just fine. It seemed wasteful. We felt that doing a honeymoon registry (through our travel agent) helped give people a "thing" to "buy" (people seem to like that!) as opposed to just throwing cash in an envelope, which some people dislike. It also was nice for thank you notes to be able to thank them for gifting towards our honeymoon, and then tell them a bit about what we did/saw while we were in Jamaica. So I think that's fine as long as the registry is done tastefully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1298131 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 14:22:17 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1298131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, my husband and I looked up how HoneyFund makes their money. We decided just to send the couple a check. I will enclose a lock and blurb about Love Bridge since they are visiting Paris don the tail end of their honeymoon.</p> <p>The couple did not register anywhere else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296356 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 10:24:05 +0000 mamimami 1296356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: ditto for our wedding! It was one registry option along with BBB. We live in Mexico and got married in Mexico so it was a good option for us rather than having to schlep stuff. We also registered in Mexico for our Mexican guests, including it in the invitations because it's customary here. Our US guests could find out about our registries through out website or our parents and wedding party.</p> <p>We had a lovely fancyish dinner on our honeymoon and toasted the people who have it to us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296247 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 07:41:41 +0000 looch 1296247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem with it for reasons that a lot of people already have mentioned, especially already having established a household of stuff, single or married.</p> <p>So, if you don't have a shower but you do have a wedding, where is the proper location for registry info ? Is there none? You can't assume everyone is Internet savvy, especially the older generation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296100 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 21:23:11 +0000 mrsmate 1296100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think any references to gifts belong on an invitation for anything other than a shower. Dislike! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296090 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 21:04:25 +0000 sunny 1296090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really care either way since we usually gift people cash or a gift card! </p> <p>We didn't ask people to contribute to our honeymoon but many people gifted us cash as it is a pretty traditional Chinese custom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296060 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 20:31:09 +0000 Greentea 1296060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't like it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296047 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 20:18:24 +0000 Sapphiresun 1296047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have an issue with reference to gifts on the invite, but not necessarily the honeymoon site. I just feel like... it's not rocket science that people like cash, and the whole middle man thing about a honeymoon registry annoys me. Why can't I just write a cheque and say "dinner's on me!" in the card.</p> <p>I was once invited to a very fancy destination wedding that we spent a considerable amount of money to attend and their invite said "donations accepted". I clarified that they meant "give us cash" which I thought was a little rude on a lot of levels... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296045 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 20:10:39 +0000 Mae 1296045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a fan of honeymoon registries because they're just a creative way of asking for cash. I also don't get putting registry info on wedding invites because IMO registry gifts are for showers (Everyone I know just gives cash for weddings regardless). That being said, I'm never like--"omg" when someone does either. I don't care enough to be offended or spend more than 10 seconds thinking about it. Regardless, you invite me to your wedding, you get a check. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1296027 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 19:38:44 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1296027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys have convinced me to gift an actual experience. Not just "chip in." This should be fun after all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295976 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 18:18:41 +0000 JoJoGirl 1295976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: At the time of our wedding, we had only paid for the flights. Everything we did there, we paid as we went - hotels, meals, activities. So technically we did use the money to pay for 'extras' we may not have otherwise spent.. Although we obviously had budgeted ahead of time to be able to cover what we wanted to do. I wouldn't have felt comfortable depending on gifts for the chunk of our honeymoon and then not being able to afford it if we didn't hit some target. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295975 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 18:18:24 +0000 Boheme 1295975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The idea of Honeyfund is great, since so many people have established a household on their own prior to getting married - many people don't need more stuff. I'd rather contribute to an experience than buy someone a duplicate toaster! </p> <p>But a registry on a wedding invitation is always gauche in my book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295958 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 17:47:49 +0000 owlteach 1295958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also had a honey fund and younger people used it. My brother and his wife, my mom's co-workers and a few of our cousins, I think. It did help us to be able to enjoy our honeymoon, but we are also recent college grads that were relatively broke ;) However, I think you should get them something that you are comfortable and and leave it at that!</p> <p>I have tons of volunteers and sponsors that make my job possible, and I know how much I hate it when someone gives time or money to our organization and then I hear them complaining about it in one way or another. If it's not a gift you are happy giving, don't give it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295949 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 17:32:57 +0000 lawbee11 1295949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a Honeyfund registry but didn't put it on our invites. We were able to do so much more on our honeymoon because of it (we went to Paris and London), and I prefer experiences over material things. We took pics at each place we went and included the pic of us in our thank you cards...so for example someone paid for us to go on a dinner cruise in Paris so we sent them a pic of us on the cruise. I think it worked out really well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295945 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 17:26:39 +0000 mrsjazz 1295945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem with Honeyfunds (I've contributed to two) and I loved that I helped provide them with an experience. I also have no problem with registry info on an invite. Things like registry info on invites don't bother me. It usually makes my life easier to have everything in one place. I don't think it's tacky (and I really dislike that word). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295941 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 17:16:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 1295941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem with a honeymoon registry, I have a problem with it being in the invitation. </p> <p>I would rather give them cash that they can then use towards their honeymoon, because I don't know which honeymoon registries take a cut and I'd rather the couple get the full amount I want to give them. I'd put a note in the card saying I hope they can use it on their honeymoon or something like that. </p> <p>But putting it in the fancy, formal attire, invitation is just tacky to me. I'd do the same thing I would have (give cash with a note) but would side eye them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295922 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 16:49:32 +0000 Elderberrygin 1295922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually prefer contributing to a honeymoon than buying something from a traditional gift registry. I really like the idea of giving an experience and a memory rather than stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295910 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 16:39:36 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1295910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've gotten used to registries with invites - I've actually grown to appreciate them. A friend of mine used Honeyfund and I may have been the one that tipped her off to it. From my understanding, they get no cut and the couple gets the entirety of the money. I like how they can designate funds (even though it's basically just adding a name). </p> <p>I think I helped get her an over-water bungalow and a romantic dinner. But both items were set to unlimited, so it's just everyone pitching in. I like that my gift was put to use :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295908 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 16:37:15 +0000 luckypenny 1295908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me to give to a honeyfund or see registry info on an invite. I think it's convenient to have the info there - unless they are super rich. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295891 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 16:24:27 +0000 mrs. bird 1295891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: hahaha, i could have posted the same answer. we had a honeyfund, one at BBB, and one at amazon. people had options &amp; the info was on our wedding website under the registry section, nothing about gifts was mentioned with the invitation. </p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: ours had info for each item and the real cost- so we had already paid for the cruise, but we put things on there like excursions we wanted to go on- drinks onboard, dinner at the fancy steakhouse on the ship, transportation from the airport to the ship, massages, and photos from the ship photogs. i had it linked to a paypal account and people picked out what they wanted to gift and they could transfer the money online or print out what they wanted to gift and put it in a card with a paper check or cash. then i used the money to pay for the items they gifted. it was awesome &amp; i love that everyone made our honeymoon so special- those memories will last so much longer than a blender &amp; they were things we might not have done had we been paying ourselves. we did have other registries for people who wanted to give boxed gifts and plenty of other people gave cash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295884 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 16:09:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1295884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I think I would be more comfortable knowing that wether we give or how much would not prohibit the couple from having a great honeymoon. Did your honeyfund defray the costs of your already scheduled and paid for honeymoon? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/honeyfund-registry#post-1295879 Sat, 21 Dec 2013 16:04:54 +0000 JoJoGirl 1295879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a Honeyfund registry along with our BBB registry so people could also get us a gift if they weren't comfortable with the honeymoon thing. We didn't put it in our invitation, though - we had a link to our wedding website, which had a tab for registries. </p>