https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 10:02:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hony-consent-story#post-2593159 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 19:03:03 +0000 maddyz 2593159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been thinking about this a lot. I think one of the most important things we can do when teaching consent is to ask our child wherever possible before touching them once they are old enough and to listen very carefully to when they say no. This means stopping tickling right away and saying somethingring like "I heard you say no so I am going to stop now".</p> <p>We have to model and also empower their voice. It's hard because sometimes you just need them to put their PJs on so you do it, but it's important to figure out how to empower their voice when it comes to their bodies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hony-consent-story#post-2593086 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 16:26:05 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2593086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is 4 and we already have rules that when someone says stop it means stop. So if we are rough housing and she says stop, DH and I stop immediately. She often then yells "more more", but we want her to know she's respected. Same if she's tickling me, I'll say stop to turn the tables. I know they follow this at her preschool. I've been on the playground and watched kids chase each other till one says stop or no, and they move on. The teachers lay down a lot of ground work about how this is being kind/respectful. </p> <p>Check out A Mighty Girl on Facebook, they may have book suggestions regarding this. I think and hope that by addressing these issues as young as we are, the message will get through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hony-consent-story#post-2593014 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 14:31:16 +0000 LuLu Mom 2593014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this, and it broke my heart reading it. A scared, young girl who was too young to make such an adult decision. I plan on explaining very strongly how my girls have the right to say NO and to always come to me if something were to happen. I've been a friend to a sexual assault and she had the strength to go straight to hospital, but I know many others are not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hony-consent-story#post-2593005 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 14:23:01 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2593005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Very strong story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hony-consent-story#post-2592874 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 11:37:03 +0000 Maysprout 2592874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This story on Humans of NY got me thinking a lot about how I want to talk to my kids about consent.<br /> <a href="http://www.humansofnewyork.com/post/147915173276/it-was-the-summer-between-8th-and-9th-grade-we" rel="nofollow">http://www.humansofnewyork.com/post/147915173276/it-was-the-summer-between-8th-and-9th-grade-we</a></p> <p>My oldest is going off to kindergarten and I've heard In play language both from her and her friends 'well then you're not going to be my friend anymore'. I know it's typical kid behavior but I want to start talking to her about other people's choices to start laying a good foundation about consent.</p> <p>Also how to make sure she's OK with saying no boldly to something when she's uncomfortable, whether it's sex, drugs, or whatever other activity. As much as I want her to only interact with great people she's going to interact with people that are manipulative and try to discount others feelings and opinions, so I want to start having conversations to prepare her for when it happens.<br /> So I guess does anyone have any insight, phrasing they use, books they read to help these conversations develop from a young age? </p>