https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 19:51:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-968081 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 20:27:28 +0000 littlek 968081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great update!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967766 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 17:25:33 +0000 Ree723 967766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's a great update!!! So happy to hear she is adjusting and doing well now! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967358 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:29:56 +0000 rsp213 967358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Such a great update! Glad to hear she's having so much fun with her little friends :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967321 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:19:07 +0000 Smurfette 967321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Fabulous news! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967308 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:14:56 +0000 edelweiss 967308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh that's great news! what a relief. that is very reassuring that the teacher spoke to you about what she's seen in the past and that your LO is experiencing normal transition emotions. yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967296 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:11:23 +0000 sorrycharlie 967296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: yayyy so glad to hear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967294 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:09:42 +0000 BlueWolverine 967294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: That's great!! So glad she's doing better. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967287 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:08:01 +0000 travelgirl1 967287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: aw that's great news! Sounds,like she's having a fabulous day! Yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-967238 Fri, 26 Jul 2013 13:46:38 +0000 yoursilverlining 967238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE :) :) :)</p> <p>I spoke with E's main teacher Wednesday afternoon and she assured me that E is behaving totally normally with the transition. She was an infant teacher for 5 years and has been a toddler teacher for over 10 years so she has experience with seeing all sorts of transitions. She said E only cries for a few minutes at drop off, but usually is pretty quiet throughout the day.</p> <p>She just called me about 10 minutes ago to tell me that E is having a GREAT day today! She only cried for less than 1 minute after my husband dropped her off, and she is playing a lot with the other kids today, and initiating play! She "shared" at lunch (actually, she helped herself to her friends' cheese after E finished her own cheese, haha my kid lurves cheese) and she sat with everyone during circle play time and passed toys to the other kids, and they passed toys to her.</p> <p>And she used 7 words this morning! She has about 10 words now, and the teacher said she was talking up a storm to the kids in her class, and also the teachers. </p> <p>I feel so much better about this whole situation!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-960841 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 19:17:15 +0000 littlek 960841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: How did the conversation go? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-960110 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 15:02:43 +0000 KayKay 960110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: good luck! :) our morning drop-off teachers constantly comment on how my LO "pretends" to be so quiet and shy when i drop her off (holding onto me for dear life, not looking at them, not saying anything) because the rest of the day she flits around like a little social butterfly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-960101 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 15:00:46 +0000 plantains 960101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: I hope your talk goes well! The daycare LO is going to be attending told us that 13 month is a rough time for tears. My DD is at home with a nanny she loves and used to cheerfully wave me off every morning. She is walking and has been for a few weeks. The last two weeks she has started crying bloody murder when I'm leaving. So it might just be a developmental thing, sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-960012 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 14:40:01 +0000 yoursilverlining 960012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sammyfab: @KayKay: @littlek: I think she mentally is ready for toddlers - especially since she was the oldest infant and many were very young (3-4 months old). I just wish there were a couple of others around her age in there with her; they all seem so "old" and "advanced" compared to my little gal. She's very social and was very attached to one of the infant teachers, which also might be impacting this transition.</p> <p>Small update: I am going to speak with her teacher when I pick her up and find out exactly how long she cries after drop off, and if she cries any other times during the day. And my husband and I talked and agreed that if she's only upset at drop off, we will give her more time to transition into the new room. We are also going to speak with the center director and toddler program director and see if they have any suggestions. </p> <p>Thanks everyone for your input; it has really, really made me feel better about everything!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-959932 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 14:24:12 +0000 littlek 959932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: My son is still in the infant room and he's bored. I'm really disappointed our daycare has not transferred him to the toddler room. I actually think most of his biting issue stems from still being in the infant room. He's the only one that can walk and he's been walking for 3 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-959897 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 14:15:53 +0000 KayKay 959897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds relatively normal to me. LO (15 months) has been in the toddler room for 2 months now and had a loooooonng slow transition before that because she was pretty attached to her infant teacher. The first couple weeks weren't too bad, then it got better, and now it's probably worse than it was at the beginning! But like prior posters have said, she apparently is fine soon after I leave and has a great time, plays well, eats well, and naps well.</p> <p>Even if she's not walking, I bet she's mentally ready for the toddler room? It's so much more stimulating and fun with older kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-959840 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 14:04:30 +0000 Sammyfab 959840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ahhh...transitions are so hard! My personal preference for my LO is for him to be around older kids and the youngest in the class rather than the oldest...but that's just my preference. :happy: </p> <p>I agree that 2 weeks isn't a lot of time to adjust and that if she's fine throughout the day, then there are ways to hopefully manage the drop-off process. I like a lot of @looch's suggestions. For my LO, he has this little brown bear at daycare that he became attached to on his first day at the beginning of May. He cried at drop-off 75% of the time up until last week when I started telling him to go look for his bear as soon as we walked into his classroom. Now he walks off to find his bear and waves bye to me. Having that comfort item helps him a ton and he hasn't cried for a week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958938 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:56:35 +0000 littlek 958938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, I'd keep her in daycare unless you plan on keeping her with a nanny until she is in preschool. Adjustment between rooms is rough. I think the fact that she's happy during the day is a good sign. If she was sitting by herself crying all day, I would be more concerned. Being a parent is really hard. I'm so sorry you are going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958829 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:33:32 +0000 brownie 958829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 2 and still cries and fusses every single morning when I leave. It comes and goes as worse and better. The daycare is great, he just wants us all the time. He is supposed to want us. </p> <p>2 weeks is a bit early for a real pattern. 2 weeks was the amount of time a Wonder week or teething. I would definitely give it a bit longer but I would also hope the daycare could work with you a little more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958790 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:22:35 +0000 keiki_mama 958790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice but big hugs to you and your family. What a rough patch :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958780 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:20:07 +0000 rsp213 958780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: That sounds within the range of normal behavior to me based on my LO's daycare experience. She gets upset during drop-off and wants to leave with me as soon as I come, but she has a great time during the day. I think she remembers that she has a Mama and a home and is anxious to get going!</p> <p>In your case, it sounds like another meeting would be helpful to give you both more information, and hopefully peace of mind to make the right decision for your LO :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958765 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:14:04 +0000 yoursilverlining 958765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rsp213: @MamaMoose: The teachers said that she has fun during the day. The daycare sends pictures every day, and E is always in them and participating in activities, or sitting and reading, etc.</p> <p>When we pick her up, she is so happy to see us (like always), but immediately wants to leave. If I stay, holding her and chatting to a teacher, she will point at the door and start crying. </p> <p>I don't think she is that close to walking. She doesn't cruise a lot, and when I hold her hands to get her to walk a few steps (which she used to do), now she just tries to sit down and refuses to take any steps. </p> <p>I'm thinking we should have another meeting with the head of the toddler program, and her teachers and then decide. It's hard because it is such a 180 personality change! Gah, why is parenting so hard?!?! Thanks guys for all these viewpoints and information!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958738 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:09:22 +0000 matador84 958738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would see if they could possibly move her back to the younger room. Our daycare moves kids at age OR when they are developmentally ready. Having a non-walker in with so many walkers would be really tough, and the developmental milestones between 1-2 are huge! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958732 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:07:25 +0000 MamaMoose 958732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: how long do the teahers say the crying lasts? Does she seem happy at pick up? If she's miserable all day I'd pull her out. If she's unhappy for 20 minutes in the morning and then does well the rest of the day I would wait it out until she can walk and see if things improve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958712 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:03:05 +0000 rsp213 958712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Is she crying only at drop-off or all day as well? My LO was the youngest in the toddler room when we first started daycare (non-walking, non-speaking) and it took some time to adjust and she loves it now.</p> <p>However, she's about to turn 2 and she goes through weeks where she really resists drop-off and cries a lot. In her case, as soon as I leave and she gets distracted with someone new she stops crying and has a great day. Can your teachers confirm if this is what happens for E? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958703 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 10:00:25 +0000 mediagirl 958703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>M went through a crying/screaming/holding onto me for dear life phase at daycare. It lasted two weeks. I was pleased that she seemed happy to go today. I would give it another week or two and see if it gets better. If it doesn't, then I might do something about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958698 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 09:59:37 +0000 looch 958698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some stuff that worked for us when we had rough drop offs in the morning included (my son was 2, so it might not be directly applicable, but it might spur someone to think of something):</p> <p>A daily task to bring something to a teacher or the director<br /> Eating breakfast or a small snack upon arrival<br /> Having a routine with a certain teacher, to bring in the backpack, hang it up, etc<br /> Having something set up at the table for the kids to play with, either crayons or a special toy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958687 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 09:57:04 +0000 Bluebonnet 958687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The daycare won't work with you and move her into a room with younger toddlers? Will there be other infants moving into the toddler room soon? Do you think LO is close to walking? How much is she cruising?</p> <p>Its a tough call. Transitions are hard at this age. I'd talk to the school first and discuss the rough transition and see what they suggest. They have likely dealt with this in the past. If they aren't willing to work with you, or the situation is not improving, then pull her out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958656 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 09:46:46 +0000 LulaBee 958656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing. My DD will be 1 next week, and is the youngest and only non-walker in the toddler room at daycare. She cries at drop off but has only been going for 4 weeks, so I'm guessing she's just adjusting. Her teachers are all super sweet and look out for her (especially because she was bitten 6 times during her second week). But I'm curious what you decide to do, @yoursilverlining. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958654 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 09:45:27 +0000 autumnlove 958654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: It's so hard to see them so upset! My husband had to do the drop offs! :-(</p> <p>Good luck and I hope things improve quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/horrible-transition-from-daycare-infant-to-toddler-wwydis-this-normal#post-958650 Wed, 24 Jul 2013 09:43:43 +0000 yoursilverlining 958650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she does feel left-out, because she can't really play with anyone else yet. The other little girls bring her toys and are very sweet to her, but (while I'm there) she will just sit and cry harder. :( </p> <p>She just gets SO upset at drop off, when she's never done this before.</p> <p>I asked about her not walking being an issue, but they said that they move up nonwalkers into toddler. In her infant room, she was the eldest and the rest were much younger, so there was no "role model" for walking. The hope was that being surrounded by walkers, she would watch and model behavior and start walking. She is cruising some. </p> <p>If we pull her out, it will be short term. Honestly, my gut says to pull her out, but I don't know if we really should - - or if I'm just feeling horrible about her crying and being so upset. KWIW? </p>