https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 03:30:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210842 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 14:59:57 +0000 Mrs. Mousie 210842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sloaneandpuffy: Thanks! I think I'm just generally frustrated with our home/property search (I was ready to tear my hair out even before we found out about LO!), and now I feel this extra pressure. Moving 2 weeks before labour does NOT sound like fun!</p> <p>@artbee: LOL! I like the idea of the board for someone else! I might try that! Absolutely agreed that the important part is everyone being happy and healthy. A home is made up by the people in it rather than the house itself. That needs to be my new mantra! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210816 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 14:22:53 +0000 heffalump 210816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Mousie: sometimes when I want to pin things in secret I just make up a name for the board. Like for that I'd make something like "nursery ideas for Kate" and tell people your friend Kate asked you to help with ideas.</p> <p>Your situation isn't ideal but its life. Everything about babies is unpredictable and this is just the start. I moved into a house when I was 8 1/2 months pregnant that needed a good amount of work done. Lo is almost a year and we're still working on it, there's no time with a baby and dhs and my health issues. Would I rather have my dream house all ready for when lo came? Of course. But lo and we are no less happy with life. In the end, it's just a house and all that matters is a healthy, happy family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210798 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 13:54:44 +0000 mamimami 210798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're going to get a new place (or build) in the next year or so, this time with the baby in your current place will be a blip on the radar. We started looking when I got pregnant and moved two weeks before I gave birth, and trust me, the house was definitely not in the shape I would have liked. The baby stayed in our room for six months and we finally did the nursery, which turned out pretty cute. BUT I have to say I am much more looking forward to doing my babe's "big boy room" which is the thing he will enjoy most and remember most!</p> <p>A nursery is really for the parents. It's fun, but it's just a detail. You'll get past it and feel better soon!</p> <p>CONGRATS on the baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210788 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 13:46:22 +0000 Mrs. Mousie 210788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Thanks sweetie! It's nice to know I'm not alone in these feelings! I'm trying to let it go/shake it off as best I can. You're right, he/she won't know the difference for quite some time! Here's hoping we find a property ASAP and maybe we could get busy on the permits and maybe get far enough to just have the interiors to work on over the winter. Always the optimist... LOL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210777 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 13:35:55 +0000 regberadaisy 210777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're actually in the exact position you fear! It's annoying, frustrating but you make do. I completely understand the frustration of wanting to set up a beautiful nursery and not being able to. LO is almost 10 weeks and she still has no nursery! But really at this point it's more for me than her. She's just starting to see in colors and can barely see farther than 18" so she doesn't know the difference!</p> <p>We started house hunting while TTC. Got pregnant and found our dream home shortly after. I really really really watered to bring her home to her forever home. But with being pregnant, my hysband working full time and doing a practically gut renovation DIY. It just didn't happen. Then I wanted to be in before my maternity leave ended. Here we are 3 weeks after that and still not in.</p> <p>I know my husband is doing the absolute best he can and sacrificing valuable time with our daughter by working on our home. So I really can't complain. We'll move in when it's ready and she really won't be none the wiser besides from pictures.</p> <p>Feel better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210774 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 13:34:02 +0000 Teachermama 210774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs mama! It will work out, be grateful for what you have now, things will happen. Try not to stress...babies will,, feel the stress in the womb, research shows that a stressful mom= stressful baby. Breathe, and know that your baby could careless about the nursery or how you decorated it and whether or ot everything is perfect, all baby will care about is eating/sleeping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210733 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 12:06:56 +0000 Mrs. Mousie 210733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Fair enough. Thank you for your kind words. I guess the pregnancy took me by surprise, and I realized our ducks weren't as lined up in a row as we expected them to be when the time came! I'm so very thankful to have this unexpected joy in our life, I guess I just want to celebrate it in EVERY way, including having the home we pictured. </p> <p>Re Pinterest - I so DESPERATELY want to pin a million nursery ideas, but we haven't told any family or friends yet (I'm 5 weeks), and I don't want to give it away!! LOL! I wish I could have a secret board with crazy privacy controls so I could pin in private and unlock it all later. I think that would be an awesome outlet for my frustration, you're absolutely right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210728 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 11:51:27 +0000 rawrasaur 210728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am right there with you. We are not in the type of place I envisioned raising a child, but honestly it will work and we are saving a lot of money for when we do buy a house in two years (when we move). It doesn't bother me as much as i thought it would, but maybe that is because I'm just so darn excited about having a baby. Just remember that the nursery is really for the parents and not the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210727 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 11:48:54 +0000 betsyboop 210727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also dont think a completed nursery is necessary when the baby arrives. You still have plenty of time to give your lo a dream room!<br /> We are in somewhat of the opposite situation, where we decorated the nursery and had it ready for when our lo arrived, only to receive an offer on our condo the day after i delivered. We dont even spend much time in the nursery at all yet bc our lo is still sleeping in our room and now we're moving in a couple weeks (lo will be 2 months).<br /> So please dont be too sad, i'd suggest dreaming of your perfect nursery and keeping yourself occupied via pinterest, as i know it's hard to NOT prepare for your little bundle of joy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210724 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 11:39:40 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 210724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I think the fantasy of life is so different from the reality. For us, we found ourselves pregnant after our honeymoon and in the midst of some huge life transitions including a new job and a move to a new city.</p> <p>For 4 months we lived with Little One in our tiny one bedroom bungalow in Seattle. We were crammed, it was messy, and it was frustrating. </p> <p>But things change and we moved, I got a new job, life moved on and eventually we got our dream nursery (a little later than ideal). And I look back on those crazy days when we were tripping over each other and the baby fondly.</p> <p>Little babies really don't need much. The nursery was much more important later on. A bassinet in your bedroom and a plastic container for clothes could suffice right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/house-hunting-emotional-pregnant-lady-disaster#post-210717 Wed, 04 Jul 2012 11:25:38 +0000 Mrs. Mousie 210717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last night I was exhausted, but couldn't fall asleep for a while because I'm just feeling really emotional and scared. DH and I have been wanting to build a house for a while, but it's been a long process of looking for the right piece of land with no luck. Our plan was to wait until after the house was done to have kids, but after two years we still haven't found the land, and now I'm pregnant. </p> <p>Honestly, this is probably the push we needed to start really moving forward and figuring this out, otherwise I think we would have wound up putting off having a family for even longer. It's not how we planned it, but we're both excited (with a healthy dose of nervous). </p> <p>But now here we are. In a house I hate and don't want to have a nursery in (our nursery would be in the basement which I don't like the idea of). Even if we found the land to build our new house on tomorrow, it wouldn't be done by the time the baby came. I have this vision of living in a lovely home with our perfect nursery and having everything 100% settled and ready by the time baby mousie comes. However, this just doesn't seem like it's going to be a reality in the slightest. We've looked for homes that may suit us, but there hasn't been anything on the market that we're really drawn to, and I know DH has had a hard time coming to terms with living in another house rather than the dream home we designed with our architect.</p> <p>I had an absolute sobbing breakdown about this the other day (my first pregnant lady emotional moment). Bless Mr Mousie and his patience, he rubbed my back and told me it would be okay, but I don't think he "gets" it, my desire to have a gorgeous nursery and not be in this state of transition. I just want to be settled and ready when baby time comes! I want to design and decorate the nursery, pick out the crib, have it perfect before little mousie comes. </p> <p>How do I reconcile this in my mind? I'm so thankful to have a healthy pregnancy so far, but I want to give this baby the future we dreamed of. I know our home is where our family is, not the house we're in, I'm just having a hard time figuring out how to be okay with modifying the "vision", or how to at least come to terms with this and get a good night's sleep! LOL! </p>