https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Jul 2026 07:59:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949699 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 17:09:51 +0000 erinpye 1949699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I brought my youngest home when my oldest turned 22 months old. My oldest was insanely jealous, and it was really difficult- but I promise, it gets better. Have some special things for your oldest to do while you feed the baby, and try to spend some special time with your oldest, even if it's just cuddling while watching Frozen, while your baby sleeps. 9 months in to having 2 LOs under 2 years apart, my girls now giggle and play together. So much awesome is headed your way, but in the meantime hang in there, don't push yourself, and ask for and accept help. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949595 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 16:09:32 +0000 littlejoy 1949595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sophs Mama: Do you have the resources for a postpartum doula?! I cannot imagine the stress of doing anything (but resting) at 4 ddp. </p> <p>Where are you located? I'd be happy to spend some time looking into pp care options in your area!! Or, if I have a friend in the area (long shot), I'd be happy to gift a little baby sitting/housekeeper time for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949581 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 16:00:34 +0000 78h2o 1949581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have premonitions of this! Sending you lots of support and hugs. The early days are hard, no matter how many you have, but especially with more than one. I'm sure I'll be posting the same come June! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949562 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 15:45:39 +0000 rattles 1949562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh mama, I'm right there with you! My 4 day old is cluster feeding and my 23 month old is thrilled to be allowed to watch Daniel Tiger while eating her snack on the couch (double treat). Leave the housework, order dinner, and try to be kind to yourself! If nothing else, picture me right there with you with the same messy house and crazy new life :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949529 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 15:28:19 +0000 .twist. 1949529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anything your daughter likes to do that keeps her occupied for hours? Let her do it, even if you wouldn't on a normal day! </p> <p>Do whatever you possibly have to do to get through the day. You can do this. This is a small period of time in the grand scheme of things and you are going to make it through! </p> <p>and yea, take it reeeeeeeally easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949520 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 15:23:35 +0000 blackbird 1949520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't even bother cleaning and laundry and cooking! Cereal, microwave stuff, and take out FTW! </p> <p>Your husband can do some laundry when he gets home! You have fresh stitches, for goodness sakes! Hang in there :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949481 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 15:00:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1949481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is so hard, and hormones don't help! But as others have said, just take it easy, take it one hour at a time, and you'll get your groove. Other things can take a back seat to just surviving right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949461 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:46:17 +0000 Greentea 1949461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there! I don't think it is easy for anybody, but you are strong and you will survive moment by moment! Screw cleaning and get takeout! Survival- just the necessities and try to be kind to yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949454 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:43:16 +0000 Tidybee 1949454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PPs. Order a pizza for dinner, put a movie on for your toddler, and just get by these next few days. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949449 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:40:50 +0000 snowjewelz 1949449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: Hugs! I have zero experience, but just do what's absolutely needed and nothing more!! Cash in all the favors and just ask for help, period! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949429 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:28:37 +0000 Raindrop 1949429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others have said .... Um ... you should not be doing any housework or cooking! :)</p> <p>Take it easy lady. </p> <p>Is there anyone you can call ... a good friend? family? That can swing by and help with some chores? Or even pick up or drop off take out?</p> <p>For the first few months I think we ate off paper plates and plastic wear so we wouldn't have do dishes and just reheated pre-made freezer stuff. So you are definitely not alone there.</p> <p>When your little one gets a bit older it will definitely be easier. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949420 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:23:41 +0000 MapleMoose 1949420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You should be resting not cooking and cleaning and doing laundry! You'll figure out how to manage everything but Rome wasn't built in a day and these things are often a work in progress with lots of trial and error. I've heard it countless times before from moms that it gets easier. You'll get a routine down pat eventually. But right now rest up!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949419 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:22:28 +0000 cyndistar3 1949419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea, I have a nearly 4 week old, a 2 year old and a nearly 6 year old... at this point it's all about survival. Today I've been locked out of my house in 19° weather, found my 2 year old eating sugar out of a bowl with a spoon, been peed and pooped on by the newborn and it's not even noon... but hey no one is dead and i got my oldest out to the bus so I'm going to call it a win :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949417 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:20:53 +0000 Little Misters Mom 1949417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Deep breaths. You can do this, you will do this, you ARE doing this. 4 days pp you need to keep yourself, the baby, and the toddler alive. End of list. If that means sibling gets to binge watch netflix all day and eat cheetos for dinner, fine. If the house is a mess, fine. That awful drowning overwhelmed feeling is likely a small amount attributable to your hormones dropping. Emotionally this is going to get easier soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949415 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:19:24 +0000 meredithNYC 1949415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take it easy (as easy as possible, that is) and if/when help is offered, take it and don't feel bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949410 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:15:16 +0000 avivoca 1949410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely suggest taking it easy, especially because you are newly pp and have a head cold. The house can wait. As for your milk, the pharmacist told me that Mucinex with the D in the name will dry up milk, but you'd need to make sure you can take that with any pain meds you may be on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949408 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:14:42 +0000 swurlygurl 1949408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness &lt;3 hang in there, it does get better!</p> <p>I was pretty miserable for a while (K is now 11 weeks, and L is almost 2) because I kept thinking about how long this was going to go on for. Try to just think about finishing the day. Look forward to naptime, look forward to bedtime, and don't feel bad about bribing the toddler with TV! You'll get used to your new normal soon enough, and it will all be a distant memory!! One day at a time &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949403 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:11:40 +0000 rachiecakes 1949403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart:<br /> some days there are things that just won't get done. and that's okay.<br /> is there a friend or family that would like to visit and help you out, maybe take your 2 year old out for something fun? I was always too proud to ask for help, but especially in the newborn days, you should ask for it and accept it when offered.<br /> be good to yourself! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949402 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:11:35 +0000 autumnlove 1949402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take it easy the first few weeks! You can definitely find a groove and cook, clean, care for your kids! </p> <p>Congrats on your new baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949401 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:11:27 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1949401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It gets easier. </p> <p>I've got a 3yo and an 11w old. There are still days I literally scream and cry. </p> <p>And there are days the angels sing and the heavens shine down on me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949396 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:09:49 +0000 Lindsay05 1949396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no :( please don't clean, do laundry OR cook. Relax and survive mama &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-am-i-supposed-to-manage-this#post-1949391 Tue, 18 Nov 2014 14:07:56 +0000 Sophs Mama 1949391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 4 day old baby and a 2 year old toddler. My oldest is rambunctious and opinionated and has been throwing mini tantrums and acting up. </p> <p>I have some sort of head cold, which isn't helping my stitches when I cough and my milk just came in yesterday so it feels like I have two throbbing baseballs strapped to my chest (I am formula feeding). </p> <p>I am so overwhelmed. Today is my first day with the two girls on my own and I don't know how I can do this every day and still manage to clean, do laundry and cook. </p> <p>Someone please tell me it's doable. </p>