https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 20:37:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-are-your-parenting-styles-different-from-your-mom#post-2610797 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 13:27:33 +0000 Mama Bird 2610797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm more hands on because we don't have help 99% of the time. I'm struggling with not yelling like her and right now I feel like I'm failing, but I've been living on very little broken sleep and hopefully that's temporary. </p> <p>I know what you mean about the need for control! My parents have trusted me to take care of myself like forever. I wouldn't say their trust was misplaced, but it sucked knowing that if I go somewhere alone, no one will worry if I'm alright or come rescue me if I'm not. And also I'm pretty sure the worst things I could have gotten hooked on were drink and cigarettes... there wasn't an easy source of heroin and synthetic pot and ask that stuff you can get in NYC these days. So them stepping off the brakes early gave me a lot less possibility to screw up my life forever. Yeah :bummed: I'd love to strike a balance between helicoptering and the kids knowing that I've got their back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-are-your-parenting-styles-different-from-your-mom#post-2610689 Thu, 25 Aug 2016 12:15:00 +0000 BSB 2610689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was hands off and distant emotionally but also very strict with chores and schooling. There was also some forms of punishment and verbal abuse that would not fly these days. </p> <p>Right now, I know I'm going to be more emotionally engaged . I'm not a perfectionist but there are things I want to be done a certain way. My mom (and dad) pretty left me to do my own things once I hit high school. (I got my own cell phone at 17 and have paid for it since.) Which made me very independent but because of that I think the need for control is part of my personality. I am afraid that that need for control will be negative for my kids. </p>