https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 18:02:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2825727 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 10:19:53 +0000 Stardust17 2825727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all!! So I promised an update and here it is:</p> <p>I had CD12 ultrasound today post round 1 of Clomid. Good news....2/3 eggs matured into “beautiful follicles “ 🤗 but my uterine lining was thin at 4.8mm</p> <p>I did a trigger shot and now we will do timed IC. </p> <p>If I don’t get pregnant, we will do the next cycle with femara and see if that helps with the uterine lining. </p> <p>Guess I don’t really know how the thin lining affects getting/staying pregnant but time will tell.</p> <p>That’s all for now.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824932 Fri, 25 May 2018 20:45:44 +0000 Dahlia 2824932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: @Stardust17: My SIL also got and stayed pregnant with NaPro after 10 years of unsuccessful trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824930 Fri, 25 May 2018 20:15:04 +0000 Stardust17 2824930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for all the hope!! I’ll kerp you all posted! Hugs to all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824687 Thu, 24 May 2018 16:55:18 +0000 Stardust17 2824687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: thanks for the input and info!! Ahhh, I remember the early months and being perfectly content with just one....and then I was reminded by Facebook, that exactly one yr ago today, my DD started walking 😭😭😭 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824686 Thu, 24 May 2018 16:53:59 +0000 Stardust17 2824686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: that’s very interesting. I’m anxious to see what they will find next Friday after doing Clomid. Thanks for the update! What’s the next step for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824674 Thu, 24 May 2018 16:07:26 +0000 LAZB 2824674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Stardust17: Just got back from another ultrasound, and interestingly I only had one mature follicle this time (2 last time) even though I started out with a whole bunch more immature follicles at my initial ultrasound I asked the doctor, and she said that the number of follicles at initial ultrasound doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll have more or less mature follicles </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824567 Thu, 24 May 2018 11:43:34 +0000 MaryM 2824567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I weren't interested in IVF or IUI. I strongly felt that if we were meant to have children, there had to be a way to fix the underlying reasons why I was having miscarriages (I had one early loss, a stillborn girl at 22 weeks with no cause found, and a 13 week loss due to trisomy). </p> <p>I ended up working with a NaProtechnology provider to assess my hormone profile. I'm not sure I ever even had AMH or FSH tested. They were confident I could GET pregnant...it was just a matter of figuring out what would help keep me pregnant. </p> <p>I went through a full cycle of testing (blood work nearly every other day) so they could assess how progesterone and estrogen rose and fell in relation to where I was in my cycle. Both ended up being low. </p> <p>I was diagnosed with PCOS and took metformin. Because of the PCOS and low estrogen pre-ovulation, I took femara to help induce ovulation. Post ovulation, I took HCG shots to help raise my hormones. My estrogen didn't raise enough, so I took estradiol orally too. When I did that for several cycles and my levels looked good but I still wasn't pregnant, we added in low dose naltrexone (<a href="https://www.ldnscience.org/resources/interviews/interview-phil-boyle" rel="nofollow">https://www.ldnscience.org/resources/interviews/interview-phil-boyle</a>). </p> <p>There is some more on the overall approach at <a href="http://fertilitycare.org/what-is-naprotechnology" rel="nofollow">http://fertilitycare.org/what-is-naprotechnology</a>. </p> <p>Now that we've had our son, I'm not sure what (if anything) we'll be reinvesting in. I'm nearly 38 and DH is 45. I'm not sure we can handle another baby! But I'm also not sure if we'll ever have a handle on my cycle if I don't go back to the doctor at some point</p> <p>Maybe I'll miss it more once DS gets older (he's three months old now), but at the moment, I'm happy with one. I'm sure there will be moments of longing in the future, and I'll never stop wishing I could have raised my daughters, but for now I can just savor my son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824558 Thu, 24 May 2018 11:26:23 +0000 pachamama 2824558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have this theory that if all women in their 30's got their eggs/ hormones tested, most would be in what REs call "the bad range". I've just heard too many stories of women getting these bad diagnoses and everything working out. Sometimes it takes long, but sometimes it's even quick! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824404 Wed, 23 May 2018 20:15:47 +0000 LAZB 2824404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, when I got pregnant with my daughter, I was only a few months post partim from having my first son, so I’m sure I had terrible numbers then too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824403 Wed, 23 May 2018 20:13:39 +0000 LAZB 2824403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Stardust17: I did clomid last cycle, but the two scan I’m talking about were both day3 scans, so I don’t think Clomid had much to do with it </p> <p>Also, a bit of encouragement, I had my fsh tested 4 years ago when ttc (not AMH Hough) and it was almost exactly the same as it is now. The cycle I tested 4 years ago I got pregnant on the first cycle of clomid with my daughter, and I got pregnant the first cycle I tried using vitex with my second son. So, my numbers were awful then too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824384 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:56:35 +0000 Stardust17 2824384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: thank you! I really appreciate your kind words! 🤗 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824383 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:55:56 +0000 Stardust17 2824383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: congrats!!! What an awesome story!! Thanks for sharing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824382 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:54:55 +0000 Stardust17 2824382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: that’s interesting! Did you do Clomid between US? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824381 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:54:15 +0000 Stardust17 2824381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JMOM: thank you! It’s encouraging to know I’m not alone and I’m glad there are resources like this site where we can support one another! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824380 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:53:17 +0000 Stardust17 2824380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elizabear: you are right! I see the benefits for sure and if my sweet girl is all we have, I’m more than blessed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824378 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:52:27 +0000 Stardust17 2824378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: wow!! This is soooo encouraging!! Fingers crossed for the same success!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824377 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:51:49 +0000 Stardust17 2824377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: bless you! I pray you get your BFP very soon! Baby dust!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824376 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:51:15 +0000 Stardust17 2824376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: thanks girl! I may wall you in the future..I really appreciate it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824374 Wed, 23 May 2018 18:49:02 +0000 Stardust17 2824374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you to each of you for your encouragement, support and kind words. It’s all such a roller coaster but there’s this part of me that feels I’m supposed to have 2 (living) children. And after falling pregnant last fall with just tracking ovulation (although ending in MC), I have this hope that I can’t seem to let go of...even if the odds aren’t in my favor.<br /> I LOVE my RE and he said he wouldn’t push me or hold me back and I feel he’s being very honest with his suggestions. We both know my levels didn’t drop overnight so I’ve gotten pregnant twice with low numbers...more than likely. </p> <p>I plan to do Clomid and maybe a trigger shot but I’m not ready to jump into IUI. I have a strong faith and I’m leaving the rest up to God. </p> <p>Again, your sweet words touched my heart and I’m so grateful for your support! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824327 Wed, 23 May 2018 14:15:29 +0000 Sams Mom 2824327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have tried to answer this a few times today, but all I have really come up with is I feel you. It is hard. It is emotional. The trying to figure out and agree on how far you're willing to go to have another (and that's hard because you never know if interventions will work) is draining. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do.</p> <p>I've done 3 rounds of Clomid so far, took a month off this month, and if I'm not pregnant will be pursuing another 3 rounds of Clomid. (We're 14 cycles in TTC #2) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824321 Wed, 23 May 2018 13:54:59 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2824321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Stardust17: my AMH was .29 last year when I went in for testing... we ended up doing IUI with injectable meds that month and my daughter is now 3 months old! We got pregnant the same way with DD1 as well. First try both times!</p> <p>ETA- I was 38 when I got pregnant with DD2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824313 Wed, 23 May 2018 13:36:28 +0000 Elizabear 2824313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this isn't the same situation but we are a very happy family of 3! We never have/won't for a second. There are many benefits of having a one and only child. Our daughter is showered with attention and we have the resources to give her a wonderful life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824284 Wed, 23 May 2018 12:01:04 +0000 pachamama 2824284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, if you were near me in person I would give you a hug. It is truly agonizing trying to have a baby and feeling like it will never happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824281 Wed, 23 May 2018 11:45:25 +0000 JMOM 2824281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are dealing with this. As someone previously said before, just because the numbers aren't good doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. I did 1 1/2 rounds of IVF, numerous rounds of IUI and clomid and the RE said they wouldn't do anymore because of my egg quality and donor eggs were my only option. I didn't want to do that so we just kind of gave up. I eventually had 2 kids naturally. However, there comes a point where you do have to make a decision if you will let it go or keep trying. We tried for #3 but I had a miscarriage after my 2nd and we decided to stop. My husband couldn't handle another miscarriage (my 2nd) and I was afraid that at my age I was at a really high risk for birth defects. Counseling may be beneficial for you, talking about it with someone who is objective could give you a new perspective. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824277 Wed, 23 May 2018 11:24:02 +0000 LAZB 2824277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s tough to have your options taken from you, I feel you entirely. I have a lower AMH and higher fsh, and am trying clomid with ti at least a few times. We won’t do ivf, probably not iui, but I’m not entirely ruling that out. I did have more follicles at my initial ultrasounds than you, but I had a lot more this month than last month, so I think it just varies month to month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824276 Wed, 23 May 2018 11:18:07 +0000 pachamama 2824276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant twice with 3 follicles also FWIW. My RE said it's like a box of cereal- we have like the remnants of a full box but there IS cereal there and it's NOT stale; it could be perfectly intact- there's just less to choose from. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824275 Wed, 23 May 2018 11:16:08 +0000 pachamama 2824275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Stardust17: I think you know a little of my case and I would be more than happy to email you extensively- but I want to say right now, please do not lose hope. I will share my story because I "defied all odds"- 3 TIMES. I do not hold weight to the AMH/ FSH bullshit. I believe most women, if tested, would show these "catastrophic" hormone levels. Have you read the new research that REs are finally reconsidering them as valid indicators of fertility? A lot of stuff came out this winter.<br /> Me...<br /> AMH from 0.3 - 0.1 (you read that right)<br /> FSH: 20s-30s<br /> AFC: 3-5 a cycle<br /> However, my uterus looks ok and I am 34 which helped.<br /> I have gotten pregnant 3 times with those "terrible" lab levels- without so much as an mg of Clomid. I know you know what Google says about those numbers! And there are so many storied like mine. The science/ labs are NOT the whole story! There is so much new info coming out. My RE was not optimistic. I got pregnant 4 weeks later. Of course, it is early and they tell me I could very likely miscarry but I am choosing to believe it will be ok.</p> <p>I hope this helped. Please do not think science and labs and what uninformed MDs tell you is set in stone. Thinking of you. Please wall me if you want to talk more </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824272 Wed, 23 May 2018 10:59:38 +0000 ElbieKay 2824272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am AMA, and after a year of trying for baby #2 which included one miscarriage, we went to an RE. Everything came back normal which was frustrating because there was nothing to "fix".</p> <p>We chose to do Clomid + IUI. We did five rounds of Clomid and three IUIs. (We skipped one IUI due to a schedule conflict, and we cancelled one because there were not enough follicles to bother.) The second round of Clomid -- when we skipped the IUI -- resulted in a miscarriage. The last round really felt like a waste of time/money/effort, and we had already signed up to change insurance the following year so that we could try a round of IVF. Five was the maximum number of rounds of Clomid recommended by my RE.</p> <p>Well, that last round resulted in my current twin pregnancy.</p> <p>It took a full calendar year from my first RE appointment to a bfp. It was not a great year. I spent my 40th birthday in the process of miscarrying. The monthly cycle sucked. All the two week waits sucked. All the appointments and blood work and vaginal ultrasounds sucked. The worst part was not knowing if it was "worth it". And when I did get my most recent BFP, I was really skeptical the entire first trimester due to my history. (In addition to the two miscarriages I listed above, I'd had one before I got pregnant with my son.)</p> <p>I'm sorry that you are facing this situation, and I hope you find a way to make peace with it somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824215 Wed, 23 May 2018 08:57:21 +0000 Ajsmommy 2824215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, HUGS!!!! :heart: Dealing with IF is one of the hardest things I ever went through. I had terrible numbers and we did months of fertility treatments and they didn't work. I couldn't give up though... I cried a lot and did a LOT of soul searching and praying. My final cycle was so so so draining that I finally broke and realized it was significantly impacting my life and my well being. We had a DD who was 3 and she was amazing and we were so blessed and happy. </p> <p>It honestly finally took one of my friends to ask me "are you happy?" "isn't your current life pretty great?" for me to realize that yes I was happy and yes my life was pretty darn great. So I basically had a change of heart and I started focusing on what I did have instead of what I didn't have(but wanted terribly)</p> <p>I can totally see how some could use therapy though.. I didn't end up going that route.. but I might have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-accept-there-will-be-no-more-children#post-2824208 Wed, 23 May 2018 08:31:53 +0000 Stardust17 2824208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't sure of tbe best catergory to post this, so im open to suggestions of other ones but in the meantime, I could use some encouragement.</p> <p>We recently found out that the possibility of expanding our family isn’t looking promising. I have a low AMH (0.29) and a high FSH (14.9) and on CD1 ultrasound, we only saw 2 eggs 😢</p> <p>We have a beautiful daughter who was a miracle in itself but we desperately wanted one more (I m/c in Dec 2017).</p> <p>I am going to do Clomid this cycle w/ timed intercourse before trying an IUI, but I'm pretty sure we are out. </p> <p>How did you accept this? I’m tearful writing this b/c while I cant wait to watch my daughter grow, I’m not ready to let her.</p> <p>Did you try infertility treatments? (IVF isn’t an option for us). Counseling? Just suck it up and move on? </p> <p>Thanks!! </p>