https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 09:47:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-183767 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 20:23:17 +0000 sandy 183767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't love my job and it would have been difficult on our family for me to be working full time - I would be stressed all the time and working long hours. It was not worth it to us so we made the decision that I would stay at home as long as I wanted to. I left it open with work but told them it was very likely I would be staying home with LO...but just in case being a SAHM wasn't for me we left it open. Well it turns out I love being a SAHM and even though we would love to have the extra income, we made decisions (like buying house in the suburbs rather than the city) so that we could live comfortably on one income. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-183648 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 17:49:02 +0000 chopsuey 183648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's something I've always wanted to do. Thankfully Dh can provide so I can stay at hOme with my lO for as long as I want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-183574 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 16:27:33 +0000 baby98765 183574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the economy and high rate of unemployment decided for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-183539 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 15:33:59 +0000 Boogs 183539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was something I always wanted to do and didn't want to agree to have kids until it was something we could financially pull off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-183489 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 14:33:16 +0000 Tidybee 183489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I could have written that post myself. I just owned up to DH to feeling embarrassed and like a wuss for not trying to "do it all" like so many of the families we know here. He reminded me that I'm not home all day to see all the moms who are out with their kids....I just see the moms walking the kids to daycare while I'm out with the dog. @mrsjazz: I can imagine it's tough, especially now that she is here. I think we just need to do what is best for mom and baby, and try not to worry about what other people think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-183157 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 11:20:43 +0000 mrsjazz 183157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: I feel the same way. I want to stay at home, at least until she goes to preschool but it seems unheard of here. I also have a decent salary and if I quit we'd be living in Brooklyn on a teacher's salary. (DH still makes about 10k more than I do). I don't know how we'd swing that but my therapist thinks we should give it a shot. Who knows? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-183136 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 11:05:41 +0000 hilsy85 183136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: I definitely agree...I feel almost embarrassed when I tell people that I'm planning on staying home after LO comes, as if I'm doing something wrong! It's pretty unusual here--most families I know have two working parents. But I just can't imagine dragging myself to a low paying job that I don't even like rather than spend time with LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182966 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:00:26 +0000 Minnie_Girl 182966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I currently work from home most of the time, so this will thankfully be a very simple transition for me. I don't plan on taking a break from work for more than a couple of months; partly because I'm doing something I LOVE, and partly because I'm currently making very little money and need to build up my income to account for the new arrival! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182953 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:52:44 +0000 Foodnerd81 182953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted to be home for at least a year, so that's the plan for now. At my salary, I wouldn't end up bring home much after daycare anyway (Mass. has the highest day care costs in the country, apparently), which is fine with me because there is really nothing I want more than to be home with my LO (um, when the time comes, no LO yet). The plan is that I will be home with each for at least a year, but more realistically until the youngest is in preschool, at which point hopefully I can find something part time or work from home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182919 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:33:44 +0000 Tidybee 182919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always envisioned coming back to my job, but I'm really starting to tire of it after being here for 5 years and just can't seem to get motivated to come on a daily basis now, let alone, when I have to leave my baby with someone else. But I'm also feeling a lot of guilt for not giving it a shot. @hilsy85: Maybe it's me, but I feel like there is a huge pressure to come back to work because where we live and work (NYC), I feel surrounded by 2-professional households. No one has asked me IF I'm coming back, but When. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182908 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:18:11 +0000 Mrs. Train 182908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was goin to take a year off with our first on. When I found out our twins were coming I decided I would not be gong back. My teachers salary would not cover three infant dy care costs. But being a SAHM was what I really wanted anyways so I worked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182897 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:10:39 +0000 Shimmer 182897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted to stay home with our kids, but figured I'd work a part-time job at some point. </p> <p>My SAHM status was cemented when I found out we were having twins. My salary (full-time) wouldn't be able to cover daycare for two infants, so the decision was pretty much made for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182879 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 07:53:52 +0000 HLK208 182879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't making a significant amount of money before babies so when DH got a really good job, we both decided it was best that I'd stay home. If he didn't have the job he does, I would definitely go back to work.<br /> Also, I did go back to work 6 weeks pp but I couldn't concentrate and I missed my little guy too much. I'd always try to leave work early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182852 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 07:14:57 +0000 hilsy85 182852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a mom yet, but once LO comes, I will most likely be a SAHM...it was DH's preference that one of us was at home with the baby, and to be honest, I don't like my job enough to make it worth it to be away from LO! I also don't make enough to make a difference in our standard of living. I'm very excited to be at home with baby :) But if I was working at a job I LOVED, I think I'd probably continue to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182801 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 02:36:55 +0000 looch 182801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lack of childcare within a reasonable driving distance. I fully planned to go back to work 4 days a week, but that went out the window when we could only find a center 40 minutes in the other direction of our commutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182516 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 20:02:50 +0000 rawrasaur 182516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be a stay at home mom and am currently working until baby comes. I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom, but also could see myself being a working mom if I had the right job. Currently I am not in that job or do I have any good prospects for a fulfilling job and really is there anything more fulfilling than being a mom? We are lucky enough that my husband earns a decent income and our living expenses are low. My current salary is not worth paying childcare and feeling stretched thin. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182464 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 19:36:44 +0000 MrsHotDog 182464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a SAHGF turned SAHW turned SAHM. I had a horrible job environment that was really having an impact on my quality of life and one day my boss just really crossed the line and my husband couldn't take it anymore and convinced me to quit and move in with him. I didn't like the idea of being fully dependent on him but I knew we were going to get married and I couldn't stand the idea of going back to work either. Long story kinda short - I quit, three months later we got engaged, three months later we got married, and four months later we got pregnant. My husband always wanted me to SAH and we are very blessed with his career so it worked out for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182436 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 19:29:17 +0000 heffalump 182436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted to be one. So reallly it was a financial decision, and we decided that I didn't make enough to cover child care so it would just be silly to work if I didn't want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-become-a-sahm#post-182418 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 19:23:32 +0000 mediagirl 182418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For those of you who worked before you had your child/children, how did you decide that you were going to be a SAHM? </p>