Hellobee Boards Topic: How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 03:15:00 +0000 delight on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989437 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 08:41:02 +0000 delight 989437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Just wondering what the set up in bed looks like for co-bedding. Do you all have king size beds? Where is LO? Do you not use covers? Do you sleep on side or on back with LO on you? dagret on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989237 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 06:57:26 +0000 dagret 989237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Definitely a survival mechanism at the 4 month sleep regression! After his sleep improved, though, we put him back to the crib. Now I only bring him to bed if its a particularly rough night or if he wakes up after 445 am. Pepper on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989168 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 02:44:14 +0000 Pepper 989168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We were planning on cosleeping, but not cobedding. We have an Arms Reach cosleeper, which he will sleep pretty well in. When he's really fussy though, he loves to sleep in between DH and I. It's definitely a survival thing, because I never thought I'd let him do that - even occasionally. We have a king bed though, and there is a ton of space between DH and I, so I feel like its safe enough (especially since he can't roll yet). deerylou on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989119 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 00:10:19 +0000 deerylou 989119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We definitely didn't plan it; it kinda just...happened. DD slept on my chest all three nights we spent at our birth center, and would fuss when we would put her in the provided bassinet. We have an arm's reach cosleeper in our bedroom, but we have yet to actually put her in there (whoops). We're looking into getting something to put in the bed, between us, to ensure a better sleeping situation, as she grows. 808love on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989112 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 23:56:31 +0000 808love 989112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ unplanned-survival :wink: lovehoneybee on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989109 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 23:39:55 +0000 lovehoneybee 989109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Espion: @Revel: I found that sleeping with a small pillow between my knees helped relieve a lot of the hip pain. silver1 on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989106 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 23:31:56 +0000 silver1 989106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I did not plan to but it just happened. DS has reflux and sleeping elevated on boppy was only thing that helped those first couple of weeks. It was so much easier to keep an eye on him in bed rather than walking to his crib. I love waking up next to him and all the snuggles :-) My DH though would like to put lo in crib as he likes to spread on bed. I think soon we would have to do that as getting a bigger bed for us is not likely. runsyellowlites on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989104 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 23:27:57 +0000 runsyellowlites 989104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I fell asleep while sitting up in bed with P & she almost fell and one night I woke up to nurse her (last thing I remember) and then woke up to her crying & she was in the rnp... After those 2 incidences we dropped our mattress to the floor & were co-sleeping/co-bedding since. Now, we have a sidecar set up (instead of her starting in her separate crib & then coming to our bed) and I love it... I love that it's been so conducive for night nursing which is great for supply but I don't have to get up so even with wakings I feel more rested than I did when I used to get up to get her! With this next it's the plan from the beginning (just not sure the logistics with a co-bedding toddler AND newborn). mrskc on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989099 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 23:21:29 +0000 mrskc 989099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We didn't start co-bedding until DS was around 5 months old after his sleep suddenly got terrible after 4 months. It was the only way for anyone to get any sleep! It took about a week to adjust having to lay on one side for most of the night, but now I'm used to it. I have a bed rail on my side of the bed. I just roll him back and forth over me through out the night to nurse. I actually really enjoy it now and since I'm working full time, I feel like I get to spend extra time with him. Both DH and I really love having him in our bed and I don't see us stopping anytime soon. @Arden: still no AF for me and I'm almost 10 months pp! littlebittyhouse on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-989085 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 23:09:23 +0000 littlebittyhouse 989085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO always slept better next to me. When he was tiny I was scared but around 3 mo I said eff it and we've been doing it ever since. anewme on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-988305 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 12:18:45 +0000 anewme 988305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with most that it was a matter of survival. I had to co-bed with DS pretty much since day 3. I literally fell aslee With him in my arms and that was the only slept I got in that first 3 days. He would just nurse, nurse, nurse. Once he fell Asleep, I laid him in bed walked out of the room And he would just pop right up. I wish I didn't have to. I don't know how we will wean him out of our bed lovehoneybee on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-988272 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 11:51:14 +0000 lovehoneybee 988272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ E wouldn't sleep unless he was being held/curled up to me. We had a lonnng night of me dangerously dozing in the recliner before I decided to bring him into bed. We only did it for 6 months but it let both of us get real sleep. Foodnerd81 on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-988239 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 11:14:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 988239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Woo hoo! C was a little bit fussy after I knew she was finished eating so we did some side lying nursing for just a couple minutes and she conked right out. I left her next to me for a whole to get into a good deep sleep then I did move her back to the RnP since I still wasn't sleeping with her ther but I'm kind of proud of both of us. :) Revel on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-988065 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:55:35 +0000 Revel 988065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Espion: @Mrs. Tricycle: Yes, I get so sore from holding that position sometimes! stargal on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-988047 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:40:52 +0000 stargal 988047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I did it at first because I was worried about him in his crib by himself and then we put him in a bassinette in our room and would put him into bed with us. well both my hubby and I fell in love with him sleeping in bed with us. I LOVE cosleeping, sadly my lo grew out of it at 8 months and thought bedtime was play time. Mrs. Tricycle on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-988034 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:31:05 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 988034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Espion: Yes!!! My hips were soooo sore some mornings from that commitment! It was way worse on the "traditional" mattress in the guest bedroom, but our memory foam mattress in our master bedroom was actually relatively comfortable. We'll be upgrading the guest room mattress before #2! Arden on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987881 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 02:06:57 +0000 Arden 987881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I planned on it from the beginning. DH and I researched and talked about it a lot before DD was born and came to the joint decision that it was the best plan for our family. We are savoring our bonding time and snuggles. We have no "experation date" in mind, we'll keep co-bedding as long as it works for our family. I love how easy it makes breastfeeding (I barely woke up for feelings in those first weeks), and I love the fact that my LO has been sleeping from 10-10 most nights almost since she was born. It works for us, and I don't see any reason to change anytime soon! :) P.S. Big bonus? Co-sleeping women are more likely to have their periods stay away longer. DD's been STTN for awhile now, but since we're still so physically close at all times, still no AF for me. Yay! Foodnerd81 on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987876 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 01:59:18 +0000 Foodnerd81 987876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Espion: @Revel: yeah I just don't think either of us are ready for side yet, unless maybe for the last feeding in the cluster. @MrsMccarthy: I have a feeling I'm going to be a lot more attachment parenting minded than I expected too! Thank goodness for the bee. Information and answers to questions AND entertainment during two hour feeds. Getting better at typing left handed on my phone. Espion on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987842 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 01:09:41 +0000 Espion 987842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Foodnerd81: The side-lying nursing only got easy-ish in the last few days. Occasionally, he would get a bad latch that I just could not correct and I'd suffer in the name of being horizontal. (Big mistake for me. My nips suffered the consequences.) I'm sure the improvement was simply a matter of E just getting bigger. MrsMccarthy on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987839 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 00:55:37 +0000 MrsMccarthy 987839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I too did not plan it but it helped me sleep with nursing and then I realized that surprisingly I am an attachment type mom. Can't do CIO and love love love co sleeping. It's not my husbands ideal so we may have to figure out a sidecar or something down the line but ideally i want to cosleep with all of our children as long as is reasonably possible. rrachael on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987831 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 00:44:12 +0000 rrachael 987831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Foodnerd81: we started co-bedding/nursing in the side lying position after 4 months when dd started waking up more and more ... Before that I was fine getting up and wasn't as motivated to try side lying. My cousin has been nursing on her side since her lo was 3 days old though! Revel on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987800 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 00:00:53 +0000 Revel 987800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Foodnerd81: I do side lying now with LO when she is in our bed. I've been trying it since the beginning but only really got the hang of it since maybe two or three weeks ago. LO is 9 weeks. I would keep trying but don't be discouraged if it takes a while. I think LO just needed to get better head control for it to work for us. ninja on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987793 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 23:53:32 +0000 ninja 987793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I never planned to, it just happened at the 4 month regression. It was the only way for me to get sleep and function at work! We started side-lying nursing then too! It is way easier for me! Foodnerd81 on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987792 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 23:47:07 +0000 Foodnerd81 987792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So does everyone do side lying nursing at night? How young did you start that? The lc in the hospital showed me how but mentioned it would be easier when she is a little bigger. Lo is 5 days old and a big time cluster feeder- sessions last more than two hours and sleeping through then would be great but I don't think our latch is quite good enough yet. sera_87 on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987790 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 23:41:29 +0000 sera_87 987790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I quickly realized that physically getting up every 2 hours and having to stay awake was going to wreck me (and nursing makes me soooo sleepy for some reason). He also slept better if he was snuggled close. And I hated waking up to a baby's wails in the middle of the night. Once we started co-bedding I didn't have to really wake up to nurse, didn't have to remain awake, we both slept better and was able to respond to him/become aware of him before he started crying. Espion on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987781 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 23:26:19 +0000 Espion 987781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We actually do a half and half thing. E sleeps in his Arms Reach co-sleeper for the first half of the night. When he fusses to nurse (it could be 2, 4 or 5 am...he hasn't been very consistent lately!) I just put him in bed with me. My problem is that when he is in bed with us, I'm pretty much committed to being frozen in one position. My hips can get really sore after awhile. luckypenny on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987674 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 21:36:03 +0000 luckypenny 987674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ She sleeps better with me. We always put her down in her crib first but usually around 3 am she comes into bed with us. She's super snugly and I love it (but I definitely wish I had a king size bed!) glimmersnaps on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-987668 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 21:33:50 +0000 glimmersnaps 987668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We actually planned on it. DH grew up in a cobedding culture so he couldn't imagine putting DS in a crib in another room. We set up the crib with three sides and pushed it against the bed next to the wall. I loved cosleeping at first because I would have been too exhausted to get up and down to nurse. DS was a super-nurser and wanted to stay attached to the boob all night. Now he's 2.5 years and I still love it. He weaned at 22 mos but I still love the snuggles. Like @Septemberlove said, I want to cherish every second of his baby/toddlerhood. bunnylove08 on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-986867 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 11:08:37 +0000 bunnylove08 986867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I did it when dd started to wake up multiple times at night and it was hard getting up and picking her up and a poster here said. Should try cosleeping and it really helped. Like mrs. Tricycle said its about survival. It's not for everyone but it saved us Mrs. Tricycle on "How did you decide to co-sleep/co-bed?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-to-co-sleepco-bed#post-986862 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 11:06:19 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 986862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Like @grizz: it was all about survival. The decision was made in a moment of sleepless desperation - we were both exhausted and it was the only way we got more than 2 consecutive hours. It wasn't ideal as the baby and I were in the guest room for six months. I hope to not have to do it with the next one, but it got us through a very difficult time.