https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 09:38:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc/page/2#post-12699 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 15:21:53 +0000 mrsmcgyro 12699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're waiting on my husband to finish school so we can relocate closer to my family, and then we'll start trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc/page/2#post-12648 Wed, 09 Nov 2011 14:53:43 +0000 Rescuemom10 12648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Got married, we bought a house, I got a better paying job, and now just wiating until next year. We feel comfortable with next year because we feel we are def old enough (28 &amp; 30) and established enough. Next year we will have one less car payment which I dont know why but DH is so "fixed" on that. But says lets wait till my Jeep is paid off. Haha! We live comfortably right now, and I think he likes that too much and wants to make sure if we are going to spend more on one thing lets get another thing off our plate. Haha! I guess I get it, but whatever. MEN! Haha! I mean, he doesnt have to watch his spending much, and I totally think that once we have children of our own our spending and mentality on what we buy and what not will change because your priorities totally change. He SHOULD know this, he already has a child. I have a ever so sweet 8 year old SD. I dont know, I think he is just enjoying this time being married and having fun because in his first marriage they got married so young and had a baby quick. So yeah... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc/page/2#post-11918 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 19:09:43 +0000 PennyLainne 11918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our Plan was to buy a house, get married then start having kids.<br /> Well we are both so anxious it turned into buy a house, start trying for babies, get engaged and then elope (still haven't gotten to the elope part yet)! We decided to mix it up a bit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-11886 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 18:27:40 +0000 Dr. Pepper 11886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our plan:<br /> Get Married- check 6-11-11<br /> Finish School- check 5-13-11<br /> Get Good Jobs- check 6-27-11<br /> Buy a House- need to work on this one.</p> <p>We plan to start TTC in April 2012. If we haven't bought the house yet, that will be fine, but we want to have a house by the time we have a kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-11861 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 17:41:25 +0000 cyneswith 11861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No list, per say, but I wanted to be married roughly a year before TTC. I don't think we're emotionally ready for a baby yet, as a couple. As individuals, we really want kids. But we didn't have an open, unguarded conversation about kids until this past month. As much as I want to be off birth control yesterday, he's still got to make career decisions. (We can't raise a baby on my disability payments while he goes to school, and getting a job is really hard when you've got a history of seizures and memory loss.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-11258 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 21:47:45 +0000 carrieknitscake 11258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess our list was get married, buy a condo (6 weeks after the wedding), go on a honeymoon (6 months after the wedding), and enjoy married life. When we first got married, I wasn't ready for kids. It just seemed too soon for us even with our ages of 29 and 31 at the wedding. So, it took us until our second anniversary to start trying. During our second year, it was a little hard since everyone was getting pregnant in 2011. The 2012 boom is starting off small thus far. I hope that we'll have a baby in 2012. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-11114 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:59:37 +0000 nana87 11114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted "winging it" without really thinking about it, but after reading the other responses, I really think it's just that we've already checked things off the list--we're in decent places in our careers, have savings, are married, live in a big enough home for a baby, I'm in grad school but will be done with classes in the spring...so there's nothing big left on the checklist. So really we're just waiting now for DH to be comfortable going for it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-9705 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 16:27:25 +0000 MsMini 9705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just waited to be married (we both finished school/started careers/bought a house before marriage). We are now doing a lot of saving, trading my sports car in for a family friendly car, etc while I am pregnant, I am in my late 20's and DH in his early 30's and we really didn't want to wait anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-9694 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 15:59:13 +0000 tyffaknee 9694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we had a specific list, but we wanted to have our "us" time after marriage before having kids. After a couple of years of marriage, we realize there wasn't really an "ideal" time to have kids, but we already had a lot of things in your poll checked off...<br /> We already owned a home, I finished grad school, our only debt was the mortgage... the only thing we thought about was getting through the wedding season so we didn't have to explain why I wasn't drinking (if I got pregnant right away)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-9683 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 15:33:28 +0000 cyndistar3 9683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We decided to start TTC right after we got married. I was so incredibly sick of my birth control as it started freaking out and gave me pregnancy symptoms... I thought I was actually pregnant and then was sad when I realized it was just the birth control. That was when I decided I was ready to have another baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-9655 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 14:59:20 +0000 sorrycharlie 9655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't necessarily have a list. We were married in July and have always wanted to start trying to have a baby. We wanted to pay down some debt (not necessarily all of it), and did not feel necessary to buy a home first. We live in a pretty sizable duplex so we are happy here. </p> <p>I suppose one major thing was to make sure I was not going to deliver said baby before receiving my Master's Degree - just easier to have it after the fact ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-9435 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 08:58:16 +0000 daniellemybelle 9435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our list is mostly practical stuff. Honestly, if we had an "oops!" we'd make it work, but these things put in perspective and keep my baby fever at bay! Anyway, here it is:</p> <p>- Pay off debt<br /> - Save up a hefty emergency fund<br /> - Buy a home<br /> - Start saving for retirement seriously<br /> - Be able to save for LO's college education<br /> - Be in a position for me to work part-time / freelance = better job/salary for DH</p> <p>And those are just the practical things. We'd also like to travel more and just enjoy being young together. I know my immediate family is planning a vacation for Christmas 2012 and I'm hoping we can go to Italy so I can check that off my "baby bucket list!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-8618 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 23:38:03 +0000 Colekbl 8618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a list but when my endometriosis started getting worse we decided to toss the list and start trying. Little did we know we'd get pregnant right away!<br /> If I've learned anything in my life it's that I can't make a plan because it never works out :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-8615 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 23:32:16 +0000 leelee 8615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing on our checklist was getting married. We had been talking about having a baby in 2012 for years so after getting married in 2010 we took some time to ourselves and waited till 2011 to start trying for a 2012 baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-8585 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 22:16:59 +0000 mrsrain 8585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we are not quite TTC yet (almost! Counting down the months/weeks/days!), but I'll throw in my 2cents. For us getting married was the biggest criteria. Second to that was time-- we wanted to be married a while and have time together to build our marriage and our life as a couple. But then I got baby fever and voted to move our date up :)</p> <p>So then the criteria shifted to paying down some debt, but primarily putting money into savings. We're working on both of those things now. We also have an unofficial list of things to experience before baby makes 3... everything from dinner parties and dancing lessons to road trips or staying in bed all day. It's making these last few months quite the adventure! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-6586 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 14:28:06 +0000 katdevargas 6586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours was to pay off our credit card &amp; build up some savings... which we did &amp; then undid. And THEN we got pregnant, haha. So we're working on it again, but it'll happen </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-6578 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 13:54:52 +0000 mamabolt 6578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We kept changing what was on our list. When we first got married, we agreed to wait a year and try and pay off all cc debt. Once we hit our anniversary, I was two months into a new job, so we decided to wait a few more months to make sure I was FMLA eligible. We also knew we wanted to move before a baby was born, but we got ahead on that one and bought last fall when the market crashed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-6576 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 13:27:37 +0000 caitlanc 6576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely have a check list. </p> <p> - Buying a house was a huge one for me but as things tend to go, we bought the house but are no longer living in it and I'm perfectly ok with renting+baby now which I absolutely wasn't before.<br /> - Be married for at least a year, preferably two. (Check)<br /> - Have a year of husband's job under our belts since he's a college coach and we wanted to have an idea of what his year is like. (Check)<br /> - Benefits/Insurance (Check, double check in January)<br /> - Have a baby savings account ($5k) (Not check but will be within the year, theoretically)</p> <p>Other than that....As the baby fever ramps up my Must Haves seem less important and the Make it Works more fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-3174 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 23:58:50 +0000 bakingAbug 3174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We actually waited until we had bought our house and I had been at a company with insurance for a year so I could take FMLA. Aside from that it just felt right. We took the Purposeful Conception class (<a href="http://www.purposefulconception.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.purposefulconception.com/</a>) with Mrs. Cheese and it really helped us realize how ready we actually were. I would highly recommend it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-3151 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 17:21:48 +0000 mrsjyw 3151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We originally planned on TTC after our 2 year anniversary (fall 2012). After our 1 year anniversary last month, we had another discussion about all of our reasons for waiting, and we both realized that we didn't have any. Hubby will be done with his Masters in December, I've planned on starting a dual MBA/Masters in Finance in 2012. We both have secure jobs and have been able to travel a lot as well. We are as "ready" as we will ever be and are both very excited! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-2984 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 23:46:21 +0000 MaisyMay 2984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pepper - We were planning on waiting until I was 28, but moved up our timeline and I was 25 when we got pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-2974 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 22:40:18 +0000 McCashew 2974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we were ready when we stopped having those after this, maybe once we conversations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-2972 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 22:37:59 +0000 Pepper 2972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few things that would have been on our list were things we accomplished prior to marriage (house, finish school). Mainly, we wanted to wait until a certain age to TTC, but we just decided to go for it anyways (initially wanted to wait until I was 28 -- I'm 26).</p> <p>We definitely wanted to pay off any debt other than my student loans, our car and house... which we did. Now, we're just winging it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-2335 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 12:49:02 +0000 PBandBaseball 2335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were 30 &amp; 31 when we got married so we didn't want to wait too long. The big one for us was that I was working about 70-80 hours a week at a very stressful job. I knew that I didn't want to be pregnant in that environment and I didn't want to miss out on my child's life while I was working like a crazy person.</p> <p>I left that job in August and now we are TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-2316 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 09:27:43 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't get married until I was 30 and DH was 41. Having a baby was part of our pre-engagement discussion. We already had a house, jobs, and lots of experiences so we started during the honeymoon... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-2310 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 08:08:57 +0000 looch 2310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there is ever a "right" time, something always comes up in life. You also don't know if you will have any issues getting pregnant, so my criteria was that we both felt at that if we got pregnant right then and there that we could emotionally take care of another human being. That ended up being around our 2 year wedding anniversary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-2300 Mon, 03 Oct 2011 23:04:37 +0000 HabesBabe 2300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're going the "traditional" route, I guess. Met in high school, got married after college, got good jobs, bought a house &amp; got a dog last year. A few of our friends who got married after us already have kids or are pregnant, so we're one of the last ones! But I'm glad that we did everything else first, so now we feel a little more "ready." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-1123 Mon, 26 Sep 2011 15:34:43 +0000 MaisyMay 1123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Funny enough, I lost my job. We were planning on waiting a few more months, and I found out that I wasn't going to be rehired in the fall, so we said let's go for it. We knew I'd get another job right away (and I did), so we went for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-676 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 10:50:19 +0000 meaganceleste 676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We made spreadsheets in our decision to TTC--Budgets, Timelines, etc. Basically, we wanted to make sure we were in a position to raise our kids the way we wanted to (AKA not strapped for cash), but ultimately decided that the conditions would NEVER be perfect and now is as good a time as any despite not owning our own home quite yet or having our lives truly in order. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-decide-when-to-ttc#post-666 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 09:21:20 +0000 LazyLightning 666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nesting123 that all totally sounds do-able! Good luck with your list! </p>