https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 00:53:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1756688 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:09:04 +0000 JennyD 1756688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: Good for you for knowing what makes you unhappy/depressed.</p> <p>There is life after Facebook! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1756685 Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:08:18 +0000 JennyD 1756685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: That's really terrible. I'm sorry to hear about that.</p> <p>What's with that culture of not thinking or caring about other people's lives and feelings? I think it's very, very selfish and shows a huge lack of respect for other people in your life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1754519 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 13:20:05 +0000 Dandelion 1754519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: I found out my grandfather died via FB because my aunt couldn't wait for her siblings to tell their kids before posting about it. I woke up at 7:30 am and found out on the site that he passed overnight. I was (and still am) pretty upset with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1754413 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 11:03:07 +0000 sarac 1754413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: You know, I think that recognizing what makes you unhappy and then working to avoid it is basically the definition of maturity. Sounds like you're there.</p> <p>If you want just close family and local news, you should be able to make a list with all those people, and unfollow or unfriend the rest. Facebook allows for pretty granular control of what you want to see these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1754234 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 07:46:44 +0000 MrsH 1754234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: I'd just go on a defriend binge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1754206 Sat, 12 Jul 2014 07:04:30 +0000 OsoInGreenAndGold 1754206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: I think it's totally intuitive for you to recognize Facebook as a "depression trigger." I've definitely noticed that for myself in the past few years, and I just have to force myself to take a break/hide people from my newsfeed. There are people who post multiple times per day about how wonderful their life is/how awesome their spouse is/how hilarious and brilliant their children are, and, if I allow it, it will lead me down the "why doesn't my husband post about me?!" or "why don't as many people comment on or like MY pictures?!" rabbit hole. It's not a happy place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1754121 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 23:58:06 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1754121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: I think it depends very much on who you are, what your triggers are, and who your friends are. For me, too much facebook is a depression trigger. As a SAHM, I guess I get sucked into the image crafting of it all. I think it is amazing that there are people out there that can handle it with class and a balanced attitude...I am not one of those people myself! </p> <p>I guess that is the reason I was surprised that I was called out for this post! If anything it seems more like an admission of my immaturity for allowing facebook to "get" to me. </p> <p>I think it might be my age as well. FB got hot when I was a sophomore in college, so it has always felt like the place to go. I have siblings in college now, and they hardly use it. I have friends 4 or 5 years older than me that are very meh about it also...they use it as they wish.</p> <p>For me it feels compulsory because like I said in my post, FB is just so easy....even my grandmother in her late eighties uses it...a lot of businesses in my town don't update their websites and conduct all business through FB...so it isn't easy just to quit! Or at least I personally haven't found a way out. Working on it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1753658 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 18:14:04 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1753658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't quit, I just use it the way I want to use it. So anyone whose annoying, I block their feed. I actually find it useful for crowdsourcing things. I don't think facebook gets much of a read on me though since I don't have the mobile ap and don't check or post very much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1753653 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 18:12:03 +0000 sarac 1753653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know, I honestly resent the suggestion that those of us who enjoy facebook are some 'weird version' of ourselves. I've been on the internet since about 1989, and I've found the social internet to be utterly crucial to my life as a stay at home parent - I get as much or as little casual social interaction as I want, I get to share both the good and the bad about parenting. I get to use my brain and engage with my old academic community when I want to. I get to form new community around shared interests. I get to keep up with my family. </p> <p>If you're not into facebook, then don't use it. But let's don't assume that everyone who uses it fits into some fake, artificial box. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1752542 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 10:06:12 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1752542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: don't apologize! All of us get annoyed with FB sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1752518 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 09:55:13 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1752518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: oh my god. I don't pay attention to the ads usually but that would trip me out too....no way. I keep the location services turned off on my phone but I'm sure it does no good </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1752508 Fri, 11 Jul 2014 09:49:16 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1752508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL, I got GOMIed for this thread. Sorry if this appeared as a humble brag....that wasn't my intention! I am not "above" facebook...otherwise I wouldn't be trying to quit it! I already would have! I guess I was looking for a practical alternative (got some excellent suggestions) or perhaps maybe some impetus to deactivate. Sorry for anyone I offended. Wasn't my intention to put myself above others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745935 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 15:30:51 +0000 babycanuck 1745935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I deleted mine completely at the beginning of the year thanks to too much drama for my liking.</p> <p>I recently went back on but I'm not posting anything, and have very few friends. I really prefer IG. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745786 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 14:35:05 +0000 heffalump 1745786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just started unfollowing people. That way I only see who I really care about in my news feed, but don't have to defriend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745782 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 14:34:36 +0000 birdofafeather 1745782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i keep it for business and mostly friend everyone (except for randoms in south america that tag me in weird posts). i need to update my feed though because i really don't care about most of the things in there. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745773 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 14:31:19 +0000 MoonMoon 1745773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just deactivate from time to time to detox from the noise. I'm sure most of us will stop using FB within the next few years, but for now deactivation is a nice interim option. If I need someone's contact or something, it's easy to log back in. I've been deactivated for a month now and it feels great! Sometimes I think, oh I'd post this on FB. Now I'm forced to ponder why, you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745729 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 14:14:48 +0000 snowjewelz 1745729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just deactivate! People will find other ways to contact you! Maybe you can do IG and only allow family members so you can share pics of LO still? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745645 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:35:33 +0000 MaryM 1745645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For sharing photos with family, I really appreciate the friends who have created a "Group" on facebook. </p> <p>Not only does it keep their kids' photos even more private, but after my MC it also helped somewhat to "censor" my newsfeed. I could choose to join the groups I really wanted to follow, but for those that I know are over-sharers (one would post like 10 photos of her kid a day until someone introduced her to groups), I wasn't automatically bombarded with photos. I could still know, in general, what the person was up to...but without having to pay attention to a billion photos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745643 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:35:05 +0000 sweetooth 1745643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: <i>"Then people could go back to being people instead of some weird online version of themselves."</i> </p> <p>Yes to this! :happy: </p> <p>I, too, deactivated my account over a year ago. I don't miss it one bit. I have other social outlets online. I didn't like the time-suck, or mindless brain-suck that FB was on my computer and iPhone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745637 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:30:48 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1745637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I barely post on FB. There is only one picture of LO on it. I do participate in a few groups, but other than that I don't really do much. It is not somewhere I put a lot of personal information. As for pics, I send them via e-mail and text message to the people I want to see them, which is a small group. I have a small extended family, so maybe it's just easier for me. I agree with Flickr and other options mentioned.</p> <p>ETA: I will say that I find it helpful to keep. It allowed me to get back in touch with a grad school friend. We were able to connect and she helped me with a trying to get a job at her organization (it didn't pan out). This is to say FB can be helpful for some things, but you do have the freedom to use it in any way you wish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745577 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:09:04 +0000 californiadreams 1745577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been on a defriending binge a couple of times in the past. Then when someone I went to high school with killed themselves recently, I regretted defriending all those people. I remembered they were originally there for a reason, even if I don't have a connection to them now, I did in the past. And I liked that facebook could reconnect us when such a tragedy occurred. I actually ending up re-friending a lot of the people I deleted and they accepted.</p> <p>On another note, I found facebook too distracting while working on my dissertation, so I deactivated temporarily...but since I used it to stay in contact with local friends, I made another account and added just the people I message with in my city. Then I hid them all from my newsfeed so I wouldn't get distracted by their posts. I basically just used it for the PMs. </p> <p>For your case, you could just make another account or delete the people you don't want to keep in touch with. Or hide them all from your newsfeed. It depends what your reasons are I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745565 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:03:02 +0000 jetsa 1745565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My extended family uses it as their main way of keeping in touch because of that I'll never deactivate </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745564 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:02:51 +0000 MaryM 1745564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I rarely post anymore. I mostly use it (like others have mentioned) to stalk people. </p> <p>But occasionally purging my friends list keeps me the most sane. For those I can't purge (family) I hide. </p> <p>DH has something like 900 friends and I just don't get it. I don't care what that many people are up to...let alone want them all up in my business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745555 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 13:00:14 +0000 mrsjyw 1745555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't quit yet but when I had DS I went on a major de-friending binge and got rid of hundreds of acquaintances. </p> <p>I probably should do another clean-out. But I think I have my privacy settings as I want it. I don't post on it as nearly as I do on IG. But we do have international family that likes my posts on DS every once in a while so I don't think I'll ever permanently deactivate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745553 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 12:58:59 +0000 JennyD 1745553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The final straw for me and facebook was when that's how I found out my sister was engaged. DONE. I sent a message to everyone I thought would actually care I was off FB and basically said "FB makes me crazy and I can't handle so how such personal information is treated so non-personally. If you've got something you want me to know rather than something you want me to find out, call me or email me". This was 5+ years ago and I haven't looked back. My online communication is much more personal now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745551 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 12:58:26 +0000 MsLipGloss 1745551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only used it minimally, but I deactivated my account more than a year ago and never looked back. I loathe FB and wish it would just implode. Then people could go back to being people instead of some weird online version of themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745538 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 12:52:18 +0000 looch 1745538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a difficult time understanding why anyone would do this, is it because you are friends with people you don't actually know in person, or because you just don't like the random ads?</p> <p>I just use groups and block people. But if you deactivate, chances are most people on your FL won't even notice or care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745532 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 12:50:15 +0000 lamariniere 1745532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: @grizz: I totally want to deactivate too, but haven't been able to for the same reasons. The main ones for me are my social groups and resell groups. I feel like the friends I want to know about, I keep in touch with off of Facebook. But occasionally, I do go through a nosy phase and look up people I've blocked from my feed to see what they are up to. I never post anything anymore. </p> <p>@LulaBee: that is nuts! This gives more fuel to the fire for wanting to deactivate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745364 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 11:33:59 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1745364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I deactivated back in April, and it's been great! I felt overwhelmed by all the sponsored ads, random links, and annoying updates.</p> <p>I just post pics on Instagram, and I still keep up with my personal blog, which my mom reads. Sometimes I'll email her pics of the kids too since she's not on IG. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-get-rid-of-facebook#post-1745362 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 11:33:01 +0000 Boheme 1745362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel I can delete it entirely because I use it to schedule meetings for a couple of our moms groups.<br /> Going on a de friending binge soon though! People's political posts are soooooooo annoying, and don't get me started on racist memes </p>