https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 14 Jun 2026 05:15:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-808474 Sat, 25 May 2013 02:57:49 +0000 Emsmems 808474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say thank you for all your suggestions. DH and I got to dinner early and let the waiter in on things, so he brought me cranberry with a little soda water and a like in a cocktail glass and I would just say "can I have another?" and we didn't have to say anything. </p> <p>Then I got really nervous because the girls and guys split up, and the bride ordered bottle service! Eek! But she went to the bathroom right when the bottle came so I let our waitress in on it and just had cranberry. The bride went to bathroom enough I would just refill when she was gone. I had enough cranberry juice to never have a UTI again! haha!</p> <p>Everyone was kinda tired so I fit in there and we called it a night relatively early! </p> <p>She was way busier tonight than I thought, so I worried a lot more than I needed to! I know the wedding will be easy because she will be busy with everyone. Thanks for all your suggestions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-796532 Mon, 20 May 2013 19:12:28 +0000 lomom 796532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I carried around a beer and took fake sips. It was a can so no one knew. I am also always DD so I just volunteered to DD and no one questioned it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-796528 Mon, 20 May 2013 19:10:48 +0000 Beehive 796528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's great that your drink is a vodka cranberry, that way it wouldn't look strange for you to order just cranberry! When I was pregnant I would order cranberry and soda with lime, which tasted pretty good. But I normally drank wine, so I don't think anyone was fooled when I started drinking cranberry! </p> <p>Make sure they put the drinks in the glass they normally put vodka cranberries in though - at a lot of bars I went to, they would use pint glasses, since it's a juice drink and not an alcohol drink. That was nice once people knew (more drink), but not subtle before people knew! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-796521 Mon, 20 May 2013 19:07:35 +0000 LovelyPlum 796521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: I totally got busted last weekend. I'm no help to you. Which is a shame, because I'm in the same boat as you this weekend, but the stakes are higher... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-796490 Mon, 20 May 2013 18:55:32 +0000 lamariniere 796490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would use the headache/stomachache excuse. I've also used the excuse that I overindulged earlier in the week and was still recovering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795883 Mon, 20 May 2013 14:17:03 +0000 heffalump 795883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was lucky, I never drink anyway. It's weirder for me to have a drink then to not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795538 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:39:11 +0000 bamblm 795538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had two strategies. My SO and my sister were the only ones who knew until about 12 weeks, so at social functions I would only take drinks directly from them, and they would pour me drinks or order drinks that looked just like theirs. If anyone else asked, I'd say, "oh, no thanks, (SO or lil sis) is getting me a drink." This worked beautifully and at one point I even overheard one of my friends telling another one that I def wasn't preggo, cuz she just saw me take a drink. The once I had to fake a shot, I ordered a coke, "drank" the shot, then subtly spit it into my chaser. lol. We also did the share a drink between SO and I and he would drink, I would hold.</p> <p>If I was somewhere they weren't (like a work function), I'd just say I feel a migraine coming on/or just had a migraine and I feel a little iffy. &lt;--Also a good excuse for leaving a little early. :) Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795517 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:31:37 +0000 Emsmems 795517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kiki: hehe, nice! I like the way you think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795488 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:22:49 +0000 Kiki 795488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about staying clear of her all night .lol as in sit near her but not next to her. Wear high heel shoes so that you will have trouble walking in them already and could appear tipsy by the end of the evening as your feet start to hurt. Hopefully with everything else going on that night she won't be paying that close of attention to the guests :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795449 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:11:41 +0000 Pirouette 795449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: you'd be surprised how not perceptive people can be. I thought for sure at both bachelorettes i attended that everyone would see right through me, especially since there were several of the same people at both, and they were back to back, but no one caught on! I did tell the brides though, because my relationship with them was different. </p> <p>I do agree a wedding is easier, because you can hold a drink but i think people are less focused on how much you are drinking. at a bachelorette it's often harder. good thing you'll have DH there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795384 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:48:22 +0000 Emsmems 795384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kiki: that's another worry, that she may notice I'm not getting tipsy/drunk. I could probably nurse a drink. Ugh, she is just so observant, I don't know! </p> <p>This isn't really someone I can tell early... For a lot of reasons, unfortunately! She knows we are "thinking" about having kids "soon" but has made it clear she is against it (she has already had her tubes tied, that's how much she doesn't want kids!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795375 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:45:43 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 795375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i just got my BFP yesterday &amp; will be tested this weekend @ my nieces graduation. I'm usually a light drinker so it won't be a big deal if I don't drink. In july the family will be coming back &amp; I'll have to spill the beans then. Good luck to you! Let us know if you got away with it or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795371 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:44:30 +0000 Lindsay05 795371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually just held a drink all night! Slip to the bathroom and dump some out. Its easier in a large group of people because there is so much going on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795368 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:43:34 +0000 Emsmems 795368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: good idea on adding water!! We are flying in really early that day, so I know I will be exhausted (I am on a normal day!) so I could use the excuse that I'm already tired and don't want to drink too much or it will put me to sleep! My friend would definitely be suspicious if I said it was because of a headache. I may get away with antibiotics, that's iffy though. </p> <p>Thanks and keep the ideas coming! I'll just have an arsenal and feel out the situation and pull out my excuses! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795363 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:42:10 +0000 Kiki 795363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about telling the bride so that she doesn't say something at the time? Or telling them that you just don't feel like drinking and "nurse" a beer all night. I am one of those that notices the differences when people are not drinking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795349 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:38:38 +0000 Espion 795349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to go to New Orleans for a conference back early in my pregnancy. Not the best place to be if you're not drinking. We went to a daiquiri bar and I tried to covertly ask the bartender for virgin peach bellini daiquiri and he shouted it like it was price check at Kmart. Busted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795346 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:38:16 +0000 brady80 795346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my DH get me club soda and a lime so people thought it was vodka tonic/gin and tonic. I am usually a wine drinker, so I'm not sure how many I fooled. At another event I held a glass of wine and when I put it down, he would take gulps of it. It's great to have your DH there to help you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795339 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:36:23 +0000 Foodnerd81 795339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt so sick that I never went out, but I guess that's not an option for you!</p> <p>I would be really suspicious of someone who 'had a headache' or was 'on antibiotics' for not one but two events-- but I would never say anything so I feel like it doesn't matter if people are suspicious. I have found that holding a drink will do the drink-- especially at the wedding, if you are holding a glass of wine or champagne or whatever, even if you never take a sip of it, people see a drink in your hand and don't question it. At the bachelorette doing the cranberry with lime (add a little water so it's lighter) could work, as long as your DH gets you all your drinks. You only have to do it for a little while, because halfway through the evening you could always pretend you've have enough or aren't feeling good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795329 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:32:59 +0000 MrsKoala 795329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: I think using DH as a co-conspirator is a good approach. You can have him get the drinks and always get something that looks alcoholic but isn't. Then no one will notice anything is up. DH and I have talked about this and that is our plan someday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795324 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:32:07 +0000 Pirouette 795324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had a whole lot of really bad headaches and UTIs lately! It is seriously the hardest thing about the first tri. i cannot wait until we're "out of the closet" so i can just happily go out with my friends, but it's just been awkward so far. People tend not to question not drinking when you have a really bad headache, and drinking with a UTI exacerbates the symptoms! i pretty much only drink wine so faking it wasn't an option! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795318 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:30:20 +0000 babynumber1 795318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would get the cranberry and lime, or just hold a beer all night. Our friends would catch on to any excuse in 2 seconds, so I would fake it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795312 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:29:09 +0000 Boheme 795312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told people I was getting over a sinus infection and was on antibiotics - worked like a charm! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795308 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:28:30 +0000 plantains 795308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH always got me a virgin bloody mary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-hide-not-drinking#post-795304 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:27:32 +0000 Emsmems 795304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A post on the May POAS board inspired this. How did you hide not drinking in early pregnancy?</p> <p>I am going to my friend's bachelorette party and then wedding this weekend and will be 6 weeks pregnant! I am usually one to partake in some drinks for these kind of festivities ;). My friend getting married doesn't drink much, so I'm a little worried she'll notice I'm not (especially at the bachelorette party). </p> <p>My only thought is to have DH go get me drinks (it's a co-ed/combo bachelor party) and just get me a cranberry juice with a lime so it looks like I'm drinking my fav cranberry/vodka. I have no idea! </p>