https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 08:38:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783923 Fri, 03 Nov 2017 08:45:01 +0000 snowjewelz 2783923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I totally get that! Hopefully you can find a place where you're comfortable with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783922 Fri, 03 Nov 2017 08:42:14 +0000 DesertDreams88 2783922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: we didn't really ever talk about the money part bc they're super awkward about money, they say they don't need, it, but in some sense they do (based on comments). Adding to the dynamic is that grandpa controls and knows about all of the money, vs grandma, who I had to teach how to use a debit card last year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783921 Fri, 03 Nov 2017 08:37:42 +0000 maddyz 2783921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We live in NYC and we gave our nanny $2 an hour, but also increased her hours a little so she was getting more $ for the week which was better for her. I wish with all my heart we could afford more, she is SO worth it. But we are still very much within the norm.</p> <p>It's different with family and I can only imagine more complicated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783829 Thu, 02 Nov 2017 16:05:09 +0000 snowjewelz 2783829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you talked through your first arrangement; why not talk it out again for #2? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783796 Thu, 02 Nov 2017 13:49:28 +0000 Truth Bombs 2783796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started paying babysitters 150% when we went from 1 kid to 2, but that was date night sitters, etc, not full time. We paid $10/hr with 1 kids and $15 an hour now. While a big increase, it's better than day care where when you go from 1 kid to 2 you end up paying even more than 200% because the new baby is more expensive than the older kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783684 Thu, 02 Nov 2017 10:49:27 +0000 SweetiePie 2783684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just realized my answer wasn’t clear. I meant an extra $2-5 per hour for the 2nd kid. So if they were making $15/hr it would go up to $17-20 for the 2nd kid. I think it dpendeds on a lot (how old is the older kid, are they in school for a big stretch of the day, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783642 Thu, 02 Nov 2017 08:15:56 +0000 petitenoisette 2783642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents watch LO1 just twice a week in their home (but pick her up and drop off in the town where I work a half an hour away). My mom also goes to my sister's house and watches her 3 kids (2 in school though) once a week. My sister has only ever paid my mom erratically. We basically don't pay them, we give them $150 a month which I more consider to be for gas money but I think it's better than what my sister does. :silly: We will probably increase to $200 a month when they begin watching LO2 and maybe will reduce to just 1 day at some point in the future. Anyway that's my novel for what we do but obviously everyone is different. If we had to pay them closer to market rate we would probably have switched to one day a while ago. We then pay $1200 a month for the 3 days of daycare so it's not like we're getting a steal overall. Things will be tight the next few years with 2 in daycare. </p> <p>In your case, I would definitely not double and especially since it's for gma/gpa-care. I think 150% is generous. I would look at the situation more like you are if my parents were providing full-time care so it's definitely something to be fair about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783622 Thu, 02 Nov 2017 06:32:54 +0000 SweetiePie 2783622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In NYC I’ve heard of giving an extra $2-5 for the 2nd kid. Definitely not doubling though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783610 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:40:18 +0000 JCCovi 2783610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We gave our nanny a 30% raise when DS was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783609 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:18:43 +0000 MrsBeluga 2783609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not helpful... my mom watched LO1 20 hours a week, we paid her $150 a week... when LO2 was born LO1 was attending private preschool and thus we didn't pay my mom for watching LO2 at all... again about 20 hours a week. My parents didn't need the money (2 pensions, social security, and dad still working) and she was spending money we really needed on frivolous crap.. :( definitely put a strain on our relationship:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783606 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 21:00:21 +0000 Anagram 2783606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We pay our nanny $3 more an hour when she has 2 kids rather than just 1 kiddo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-increase-your-nanny-or-grandmacare-pay-with-lo2#post-2783604 Wed, 01 Nov 2017 20:51:37 +0000 DesertDreams88 2783604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Short version: In terms of percentage, how did you increase your nanny or grandmacare pay with LO2?</p> <p>Long version:<br /> Grandma &amp; Grandpa babysit LO1 for 40hrs weekly in our home. They get all school breaks off. We pay them half of what an in-home daycare here would be - that is the arrangement that is comfortable for us and them. We pay monthly.</p> <p>LO2 is coming in February hopefully :heart: . March-May their hours will decrease to 24 hours a week, but we will still pay the same monthly total, even thought I'll be on unpaid mat leave. I just can't fathom paying less. They will still be caring for just LO1.</p> <p>I have no idea for June-July because of travel and DH &amp; I being on summer break. </p> <p>But, starting in August, they will be caring for LO1 &amp; LO2 back to 40 hours a week. I am not sure about straight-up doubling their rate... that is kind of a big amount for us to handle. I was thinking 150% of what they get now, so that LO2 would be basically 50%..... but... again I don't know if I'm cheaping out. </p> <p>We also are trying to think long term. The preschool that we are thinking about for 2019 is more than double what we're paying them right now..... so in Fall 2019, our total bill would be XXX, which would be almost triple our current amount AND it would be close to an entire paycheck of ours per month, after taxes + health care.</p> <p>ETA: FWIW, Grandpa gets a pension and a paycheck for an independent job (work on computer, travel sometimes). Grandma gets Social Security. </p>