https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 20:27:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311953 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 19:09:08 +0000 anonysquire 311953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The honeymoon! I've wanted a baby forever and DH didn't care the timeline. We have our finances and life in order. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311926 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:46:41 +0000 littlecasita1122 311926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last summer we were on vacation and I kept seeing all these cute families with little kids at the beach...I've never had crazy baby fever but it totally hit me then. When we got back home, we started talking about it more and then decided to pull the goalie to see what would happen. A month later I was pregnant! But I'm so glad with how everything worked out. Could we have waited and put more money towards some of our student loan debt or savings for a bigger house? Sure. But something is always going to come up and there's really no perfect time to have a baby. You just learn to adjust - you really have no other choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311887 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:19:18 +0000 Cole 311887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are at the point where we are ready except for finances, we could swing it but we would have to cut back on a couple of things we aren't ready to give up yet and/or I would need to work asap after baby. We also have a few looming big-ish costs that we want to take care of before adding a known large expense. There is also a small chance of my husband changing jobs and we won't know for another month or two. It could speed up the timeline for us or really set us back depending on how things go with work for him over the next 3 months or so. </p> <p>But my goodness how I want to start soon! I have had off and on baby fever for a couple of years now but I have made it to the point where I often feel like someone is missing, the house is too quiet and there is just an empty spot in our lives waiting for a baby. It is odd because we aren't at a point where it would be easy to have a baby, our families are far away and my father is terminally ill so I am travelling constantly and we don't have a huge support network but somehow that just doesn't seem important.</p> <p>I think in a perfect world, we would really like to take a big trip before ttc conceive but unless we hit the lotto (which we never play) I don't think it is going to happen. I would love to plan a trip to Italy after baby arrives though (we have friends there so that element wouldn't be as hard as it might be otherwise.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311794 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:13:51 +0000 DigAPony 311794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: Thank you! I hope the same for you, whenever you start. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311711 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 16:14:26 +0000 MrsBrewer 311711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: How encouraging! That is awesome, and I'm so happy for you just reading that! You sound like 2 very smart and level headed people. Good luck, and I hope your TTC process is short and sweet :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311710 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 16:08:44 +0000 DigAPony 311710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maybebaby: I love this! I have similar sentiments.</p> <p>We also aren't "ready" by many peoples' standards--we rent, my husband's job is temporary, I'm on the job hunt, we have debt and not a lot of savings...but emotionally and intellectually, we feel ready, and want this so badly. It's also just not realistic for us to wait until we own a home, have a large savings built up, etc. We have a strong marriage and are smart and resourceful and loving, with very supportive families. We just talked about everything again a few days ago, and we will probably start trying next month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311625 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:23:09 +0000 MrsBrewer 311625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ModernDayJibarita: Yay!! I will watch for it :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311616 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:17:34 +0000 photojane 311616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>after being married for 2 years, we both wanted a baby, so we just pulled the goalie. first month, bam... baby on the way! like @mrs. bird, most people wouldn't agree with our timeline, but it works for us. life is short, if we waited for every single thing in our lives to fall in place perfectly we'd never have kids. my mom got ovarian cancer at 38 and nearly died, and because of that i don't wait to do my living... no better time than now! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311604 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:08:05 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 311604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: Yay! A Baby Fever/TTC planner buddy! I'm writing on your wall as I type cause I don't want to hijack your thread :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311570 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:43:16 +0000 wahine08 311570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a few things on my personal (selfish, I know haha) list before thinking I was ready. I wanted to find a job closer to home but in this economy, it's been TOUGH finding anything! Luckily I have a good job with decent pay and good benefits with the healthcare provider I like. I finally spoke with DH and we agreed that there isn't ever going to be a"perfect" time.. but we have good savings, we own our home and aren't getting any younger! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311514 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:07:46 +0000 LuLu Mom 311514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, I wanted to do one last trip (all inclucsive in the Bahamas) and I was ready, DH was on board. Although he recently told me he was on board for the baby making fun, he didn't think it would happen so quick (first try) but luckily he's super excited and quickly got on board, he was just hoping for more sexy time haha (such a guy!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311496 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:59:36 +0000 maybebaby 311496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHotDog: Aww YOUR post made me tear up! Thank you so much for saying that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311491 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:57:13 +0000 MrsHotDog 311491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maybebaby: ugh, I know I am hormonal but your post is so sweet! Your baby is so blessed to have you as their mommy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311476 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:50:02 +0000 maybebaby 311476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: This. We aren't ready by "checklist" standards, but we are READY. I am graduating from grad school in May (when we are due). DH was in a temporary work situation until recently. We have both CC and student debt. We rent. But we are ready to be parents, have great insurance and endless amounts of love for a new baby. And we have built a strong marriage that we feel is optimal for nurturing a family. Things might not be perfect on paper, but...oh god this is corny, they are perfect in our hearts. That is what matters to us. Our baby will be housed, clothed and fed. Beyond that it will be loved beyond words. That is enough for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311403 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:13:51 +0000 yoursilverlining 311403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The time was right for us because my husband was 46, so even though I was only 30, we didn't have forever. Also, we were financially stable (owned a home with a good amount of value, no consumer debt, savings), and we both have good careers. Also, we had traveled a lot and spent plenty of time with ourselves and with each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311402 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:13:27 +0000 Foodnerd81 311402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had talked about it a lot before we got married. We knew we wanted to wait a little while after the wedding, we wanted to wait until DH's job was enough that I wouldn't have to work for the first couple of years, and we didn't want to wait TOO long since we were 29 when we got married. We agreed on about 2 years after the wedding. A little over a year after the wedding I got really antsy, but DH didn't feel like financially we were quite there if we were dropping to one income. So we kept to the original plan and have just recently started trying. We don't own a home but that was never a priority for us, since we live in a city now and will move to the suburbs after having kids, not before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311389 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:05:09 +0000 MrsBrewer 311389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ModernDayJibarita: We are just about the same age. We are both 24! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311386 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:03:46 +0000 Cherrybee 311386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in our early thirties and were planning to start our family a year after our wedding. I started to get nervous about that as a timeline a few months prior to said wedding when I saw how difficult it was for my best friend to conceive...</p> <p>Then, around the time of the wedding, my husbands arthritis flared up (probably the stress) and, over the last 6 months, has deteriorated fast. The medication he requires to alleviate it causes birth defects so we had a choice - do it now or wait until a TBC date in the possibly distant future... </p> <p>That plus my age plus my fears that conceiving isn't half as easy as I'd thought all added up to one thing - ditch the BCP!! We're on cycle #2 TTC now!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311368 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 12:55:48 +0000 JennyD 311368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had the jobs and the house and the marriage all nailed down. Kids were on the radar in a maybe/maybe not kind of way. I wasn't too serious about it and I was keen on my career, and he always said he could go either way. And then my Gramma passed away. It just felt like a big hole in the world. I knew coming home from her funeral that it was time. I thought on it another couple of months, just to make sure it wasn't a "phase", and then I talked to my husband. The rest is history! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311363 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 12:51:24 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 311363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't started trying yet(On the schedule for Sept 2013) but we just FELT ready. We are both young (23/24) that in itself would make a lot of people wait but we knew we wanted to be young parents (being aware of certain health conditions that I have), as we are planning it now we would be 25/26 when we have the baby which I don't find it too young at all. </p> <p>It might not be the ideal situation for other people because of our age or the fact that we both just started out new jobs but it works for us. We are married have stable jobs, have traveled quite a bit, have a house (currently in the buying process) and most important to us we feel ready to take that step and the responsibility that come with bringing a child into the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311328 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 12:30:10 +0000 mrs. bird 311328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we wouldn't be ready according to a lot of people's checklists, but we're ok with that. we don't own a home, we have debt, DH will be going back to school in the near future, we have little savings. i knew it could take us awhile because of my irregular cycles &amp; i was 27 when we were first trying, we want the chance to have 2 or 3 children before i'm 35, and each one could take some time. we're over a year off BC without a pregnancy yet, so i'm glad we didn't add more time to this by waiting. i have a job that would allow us not to need child care, we have an extra bedroom that can be a nursery if we don't move by the time we have a LO, i have a mommy car already, we're married &amp; that's enough for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311278 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:59:20 +0000 pinkcupcake 311278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't really have a check list or anything. We had been married for about 2.5 years, didn't have any debt besides student loans (and I went to law school so I have a ton of loans... knew I wouldn't be paying those off for quite awhile!) and mortgage, had our own home, had cars that were already paid for... although we could have had more money in savings and bigger salaries, we figured we'd never feel quite ready financially and we could always have more money, so thought this would be as good of a time as any :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311277 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:59:15 +0000 Adira 311277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: Don't worry! Friends kids can either help or HURT. Hubs sister has this kid who's a total BRAT. Every time we would see them, Hubs was always even more resistant to having kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311275 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:58:34 +0000 Minnie_Girl 311275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wasn't something we consciously decided together. We weren't planning on having kids for a few more years and hadn't talked about it for a while. But in the same month DH and I had this feeling that we were ready. We didn't change anything that we do, we didn't mention it to each other, and we went about business like usual. That was the month baby surprised us!</p> <p>I don't know if there ever would have been a perfect time for us. Even thought we didn't plan ahead, everything has worked out wonderfully. There's no way I'd change what happened just so we could follow our old plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311273 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:57:19 +0000 MrsBrewer 311273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Nice I will have to do the same thing about using the "sex" card :-) I haven't even been mentioning babies for a while. It doesn't help though that we were the first of all of our friends to get married, and we will probably be one of the first ones to have kids too! So I don't really have anyone to invite over with little ones to persuade him! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311272 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:56:31 +0000 DillonLion 311272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we were ready to try shortly after we got married so that was all we were waiting for so to speak. But all of the other big things were already in place (house, good jobs, paying down debt, etc.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311268 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:53:51 +0000 Adira 311268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: I know what you mean! Hubs doesn't like to be pressured, so I was always very STRATEGIC with my mentioning of babies to him, haha. I always waited until he was in a good mood and I always mentioned it in a casual way. Plus, towards the end of the year, as we were getting closer to when I was planning for us to start trying, I started making my mentions more... like they were facts. Like "Ugh, I can't wait to go off birth control in January! I'm sick of taking this pill!" or "You're going to love how much sex we're going to be having when we're trying!" I played up the "we're going to be having a lot of sex" card a lot because I figured that was something he could get on board with!</p> <p>Plus it really helped that my best friend has an ADORABLE daughter who's INFATUATED with my husband. I used to have them come over every weekend and Hubs were play with her daughter, and I think that really helped him get on board. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311255 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:47:23 +0000 MrsBrewer 311255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Man I feel the same with DH. Right now though I think he feels the pressure. He knows that if it were up to me we would start trying right now. So basically he's the one holding us back, it's not his fault but he's just the more realistic one in this marriage :-) I'm a dreamer. Plus the more and more he hears about babies from either me, friends, or family....the more it's putting him off to the idea. you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311251 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:44:56 +0000 MrsBrewer 311251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Napa! That sounds wonderful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-the-time-was-right#post-311249 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 11:44:03 +0000 Adira 311249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm... we didn't really have a checklist! When we got married, we had already purchased our house, so we talked about when we wanted to have kids and we agreed on around 28. Then when I was 26, one of my best friends started planning this HUGE 30th birthday party for herself, which was including a trip to Vegas. It was going to span her birthday into New Year's (her birthday is the last week in December), and I was invited. So I always knew I was going on this trip BEFORE we were having kids.</p> <p>When I was 27, knowing that this trip was at the end of the year, I wanted to start trying soooooo badly! I was OBSESSED with babies and wanted one of my own! But I had this huge trip at the end of the year, so we just waited. We did go on a fun trip to the Caribbean that year, though. Then when I got back from Vegas, I threw out the birth control!</p> <p>But we were already married, we owned a home, and we both have good jobs, so besides the timing of this Vegas trip, there really wasn't anything holding us back. Hubs was kind of... less enthusiastic about having kids, so I spent all of 27 talking about babies and trying after Vegas to warm him up to the idea, haha. </p>