https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 20:14:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852756 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 06:59:22 +0000 looch 1852756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son, the other night, was talking about his family. He kind of all put it into perspective for me and we're firmly one and done. </p> <p>I had asked him a question about something and he replied about his family, the three of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852749 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 06:54:25 +0000 regberadaisy 1852749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just had our second and I think there's a pretty good chance we'll have a third. :) I think we would both love to have four but that might be stretching it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852682 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 00:20:20 +0000 JennyD 1852682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When Ito.d my husband I wanted a baby, and we were discussing family plans, I (like the crazy person I am) thought that we had to decide THAT MINUTE how many kids we would have. And he said, wisely, "why don't we just start with one and see how it goes". It seemed so logical. And opened up the possibility that you can legitimately have just one kid.</p> <p>And then I hated every moment of pregnancy and one sure seemed like a good idea to me. That aside, we both just felt that tacky cliche feeling of completeness since she was born. And now any baby smaller than her freaks me put. Have not had baby fever in over two years ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852308 Sun, 07 Sep 2014 12:20:17 +0000 Crystal 1852308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: thanks. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852212 Sun, 07 Sep 2014 09:39:43 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1852212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. I'm just aging out of the system ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852127 Sun, 07 Sep 2014 06:04:17 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1852127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. I have zero interest in being pregnant again, although I do want another. DH would rather TTC than adopt, but right now is not an ideal time for it since I just went back to school. I don't know, but I wish I can figure it out before it's too late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852123 Sun, 07 Sep 2014 05:51:16 +0000 winniebee 1852123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are a 2 maybe 3 family. I was on bed rest for 7 wks with #1 but if #2 continues to go well we will probably have a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852116 Sun, 07 Sep 2014 04:32:05 +0000 erinpye 1852116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: I hope you get your 2+ babies. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852105 Sun, 07 Sep 2014 01:51:55 +0000 Crystal 1852105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always talked about having 4. </p> <p>Now that we are battling infertility, we will be lucky to have 1. </p> <p>It's hard to mourn the loss of the journey I wished we had, and try to assimilate to having (maybe) one. I'm hoping we get lucky enough to have 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852087 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 23:42:47 +0000 HLK208 1852087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My last pregnancy made me certain that I can never be pregnant again. I love my children and I love babies but we just can't have 4. We don't have 5 bedrooms, our car is barely large enough as is, we can't swing it financially and we would like to stop paying for hospital bills and baby gear soon!</p> <p>Also, N already knows she's the youngest and loves it...I couldn't possibly add another to the mix and break her heart ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1852079 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 23:21:56 +0000 gracecat 1852079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agonized over this every day but I think we are done with one. I loved pregnancy but emotionally post partum was the hardest thing and I was not in a good place. I feel like for me personally it is too much to sacrifice and I feel an intense need to get on with my life bit by bit. Of course DD will always come first but as she grows up I assume I will have a bit more time to pursue my interests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851617 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:51:32 +0000 sunshineandsushi 1851617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggle with this. 2 was our number but I didn't expect we'd get there by having twins! Part of me feels like I'm missing out and want to have another baby but I just don't know. DH is definitely done, so he says. I guess the 5% of me that's not sure will re-evaluate once they're out of daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851601 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:21:40 +0000 Applesandbananas 1851601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just have a feeling of our family is complete. </p> <p>DS is almost 18m and neither of us want to go back to the newborn days, especially as he gets more challenging behavior-wise. Having one, we feel like we can still maintain our interests and hobbies and have a family (not to say that people with more kids can't, just saying WE don't think WE could). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851587 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:00:58 +0000 .twist. 1851587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: I'm so glad I'm not the only crazy person who feels like I might end up with 4. (DH also has two from a previous relationship)</p> <p>I feel like 4 is such a large number, but at the same time, I still feel like someone is missing. I'm not sure I'm one and done, but I might be. Definitely not right now, but maybe in the next 2 or 3 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851586 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 10:45:18 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1851586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: this is exactly how i feel. I always wanted 3 or 4, and then i got to week 5 of this pregnancy and i was like nope, done. Never doing this again. ready to be past the baby stage and move forward. So im trying to enjoy it for what it is without wishing the time away :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851461 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 06:19:08 +0000 marionberry 1851461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After having my son we decided we'd like 2 more. Well then I got pregnant with twins. I'm pretty sure we're done but if these twins are both boys sometime far down the road (as in like 4-5 years) we might consider one more to see if we get a girl. Pray for a girl twin for me, lol!</p> <p>Oh and the pencil test said 3 kids hehe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851372 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 22:12:07 +0000 erinpye 1851372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just feel complete with our 2 girls. I love babies, but have zero desire to go through pregnancy and having a newborn again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851188 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 17:16:19 +0000 Dandelion 1851188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I realized recently that I'm really done, because I'm starting to think ahead about plans for myself once M is in school. I've been a SAHM for so long and I'm ready to move on and get back to being ME again.</p> <p>Not even sure if that makes sense.</p> <p>If we have any more children, we'll adopt, and that's only a maybe if we can afford it in a few years. It will also be an older baby/toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851167 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 16:54:01 +0000 Freckles 1851167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We agreed to two, and i just know i don't want to go through pregnancy and the post-partum mess all over again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1851161 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 16:47:31 +0000 sarac 1851161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wanted a big family, but infertility happened. I kept hoping to get pregnant naturally after my daughter was born, but so far no dice. Now she's three, and I'm in the best shape of my life, and life is just so great, and I keep thinking, eh. I'm kind of over it. I don't feel like anything is missing, my daughter is amazing, life is great. I feel done, you know? If I got pregnant again, I'd be happy, but I'd have a big sense of, 'oh man, now it'll be a few more years until we're back at that really great, easy place'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850932 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 14:07:14 +0000 LuLu Mom 1850932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that I'm pregnant with number two, I know deep down I'm done and our family is complete at 2. However, my husband keeps saying "how can this be the last time we do this" or "do you really think we are done?" And I just know I am, no matter the gender. I think emotionally, physically, and financially it makes most sense for us to enjoy our soon to be family of 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850927 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 14:05:11 +0000 fairy 1850927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no clue! I have one and initially we always talked about 2, but now we aren't sure. Planning on playing it by ear and set a deadline to start ttc next September if we want #2, so I guess we have a year to figure it out! I didn't realize how hard this decision was! We could add another financially, space-wise, physically, etc, and I try to think long-term because I think in the future our family would be better with 2 kids and not just 1, but I don't know! Some days 1 sounds perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850921 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 14:01:21 +0000 kakimochi 1850921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought I would always just want 2 if I ever did have kids. And then I had 1, and after going through pregnancy, recovery, newborn stage, I was like noooooooo more. But when LO1 turned 1, we decided to add 1 more. Now with our 2 girls, we are done. Nooooo more. It would be financially difficult for us to have more, and party of 4 fits us just about fine. I am a wee bit sad to give away the clothes and baby things, but it's a good feeling too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850341 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 08:53:03 +0000 MamaG 1850341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Time is our determining factor, followed by finances. I'm 40 and have long said it was my cutoff. And two in daycare for two years is still causing me to panic and #2 isn't here quite yet. </p> <p>We are also running out of space in our home and cars. And with three, well we'd be outnumbered ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850321 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 08:40:07 +0000 JMOM 1850321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband really wanted another and I wasn't opposed but I got pregnant last September and then had a miscarriage and it was enough for us to question whether a 3rd was a good idea. At 41, I'm afraid of birth defects and my husband couldn't handle another miscarriage - so we decided 2 was good enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850247 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 07:56:33 +0000 mrs. wagon 1850247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know myself enough to know that if I say I'm done, I will inevitably want more (wanting what I can't have)! So I never say we're definitely done. I just say we're 99% sure we're done, no one's getting any surgery done and we'll revisit the issue once LMW is out of daycare. We cannot continue with double daycare...!! The financial aspect of multiple kids in daycare is just too brutal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850237 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 07:43:01 +0000 jetsa 1850237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've only got one but I think we're done. I have no desire to go through the process to be pregnant again, nor do I want to be. DS is one and sleeping through the night, having another just seems like going backwards. My DH is an only and loved/loves it, DS has lots of 'friends' his age at daycare and in our group of friends so I don't think he'll miss having a sibling. Having one works for us, I can't imagine having another. Although I still have all my maternity and newborn clothes, there is just this what if feeling but I don't know that it will ever go away.<br /> ETA: Also as others have said I'm not jealous when I see pregnancy announcements or meet newborns now, I'm kind of relieved its not me lol :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850200 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 07:10:04 +0000 Mamaof2 1850200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We agreed to 2 so that was that!</p> <p>I would have loved to have a 3rd but 2 makes more sense (DH has 2 kids as well so that's 4 total) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850150 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 06:22:21 +0000 lamariniere 1850150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: I totally get that "move forward with our lives" feeling. We are definitely done at 2, and while I'm a tiny bit nostalgic about not having another cuddly newborn, I definitely know a 3rd is not in the plans.<br /> I think one of the ways I know I'm done is that I don't get jealous anymore when I see pregnancy announcements like I did in the time leading up to TTC LO2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-know-you-were-done-having-kids#post-1850038 Thu, 04 Sep 2014 22:54:50 +0000 Cchoi4 1850038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>same here! we have two boys and are done. I have boxes of clothes and baby things that i've slowly started to donate/sell/give away to people we know, but have also kept some items *just in case* we have an oops. </p> <p>I'm 99.2% sure we are done but you never know when your younger one gets old enough (people say the magic age is 2) then you start to have baby fever again. </p> <p>I've gotten rid of the bigger or random baby items like the jumperoo, swing, changing table pad, crib wedge, mobile, etc..since even if we decided to have a 3rd, i wouldn't purchase them again. My goal is to just keep some baby clothes/blankets/and key baby items as the just in case supplies and purge all the rest! </p>