https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 18:33:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2709000 Sun, 12 Mar 2017 02:49:22 +0000 mamainthesun 2709000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great update! Glad you've gone home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2708918 Sat, 11 Mar 2017 18:40:25 +0000 jhd 2708918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I am so glad to hear that. I hope LO continues to do well. Our LO had 3 surgeries in his first year. It's scary stuff. Feel free to reach out if it would help to talk. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2708912 Sat, 11 Mar 2017 18:28:45 +0000 Ajsmommy 2708912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: thank you!! We were released Tuesday thank goodness! We have a bunch of follow up Appts and could end up back in the hospital for surgery but for now we are all home and doing well. </p> <p>Thanks Again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2708911 Sat, 11 Mar 2017 18:23:14 +0000 jhd 2708911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: thinking of you. Is LO home yet? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706208 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 08:41:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2706208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: sorry LO2 is still in the hospital, but so glad to see he may get to go home soon and the time you all had to spend with LO1 much closer by. Keeping you in prayer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706192 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 07:40:37 +0000 erinbaderin 2706192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about you and came looking for an update. Glad things are going relatively well, hope you all get to go home soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706187 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 07:34:21 +0000 Adira 2706187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: So sorry to hear you guys are still at the hospital, but glad to hear you might be released soon! &lt;3</p> <p>We haven't had to deal with an extended hospital stay like that, but Xander was in the hospital for four days and we did divide and conquer. Usually I stayed with Xander during the day, and then Hubs would come around dinner time and switch with me and I'd spend the night home with Logan. If he had been there longer, we wouldn't started switching days so that one of us could work while the other stayed with him.</p> <p>Sorry you've had to deal with all this! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706161 Sun, 05 Mar 2017 22:49:40 +0000 DesertDreams88 2706161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry to hear about the hospital stay but glad to see your update! The Ronald McDonald house gave me a teddy bear when I had a broken arm &amp; surgery as a kid so I have fond memories :) A good reminder to donate there. I hope LO2 can come home soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706157 Sun, 05 Mar 2017 21:45:48 +0000 jhd 2706157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: thanks for updating. I hope your LO is improving and you will all be home together soon. And I'm so glad you got a spot at the Ronald McDonald House. We stayed at one for a month when LO was born and have been back many times for follow ups. They are an amazing organization! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706148 Sun, 05 Mar 2017 20:47:51 +0000 Boogs 2706148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Thanks for the update and hope you are all soon. And thanks for sharing the info about the Ronald McDonald house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706140 Sun, 05 Mar 2017 20:21:34 +0000 Ajsmommy 2706140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Btw if anyone is ever needing a place to donate to for charity please please consider the Ronald McDonald house. It was great!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2706139 Sun, 05 Mar 2017 20:19:43 +0000 Ajsmommy 2706139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for all of the great advice!!</p> <p>We are still in the hospital with lo2. </p> <p>We ended up getting approved for a room au the Ronald McDonald house and lo1 came down and stayed there with her aunt (dhs sister came to help). We had that room from thurs - today. Dh and I stayed at the hospital but went to see lo1 for breakfast and lunch and bedtime and dh slept there with her.</p> <p>Today dh took her home and will do normal Monday w her while I'm here w lo2. We at hoping to be released in 1-3 days. So we'll do this divide and conquer for a few days and if we're not released we'll reevaluate </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704190 Wed, 01 Mar 2017 04:24:15 +0000 Shantuck 2704190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I agree with others. I'd try to divide and conquer and just switch off shifts (though, I'm guessing that's complicated if you're nursing). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704185 Wed, 01 Mar 2017 01:49:27 +0000 Boogs 2704185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry! We would probably take turns alternating who was at home at the hospital so both kids can have one of you around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704135 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 22:41:36 +0000 tiramisu 2704135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I am so so sorry you are going through this. :heart: It is tough to find a balance when your baby is hospitalized and you have another small LO at home. Plus you must still be recovering too. </p> <p>Last year, I had a 25 week premature baby who was in the NICU for over 3 months. I also had a 2yr old daughter at home. I tried to keep my older LO's schedule as normal as possible. She went to daycare like usual and I'd go to the hospital during the day and then pick her back up. My DH was still working full time and would visit LO 2 during his lunch break. Once or twice a week I'd go back to the hospital during the night for a few hours to spend with LO 2. But for the most part we were not there at night. It is extremely draining and it's important you find time to rest too. The nurses and doctors do a fantastic job of caring for baby. If you might be there for an extended stay, you may want to ask about having a primary nurse. We had a few primary nurses who really cared for my baby during our stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704131 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 22:27:42 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2704131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I am so sorry to hear that. I strongly suggest splitting time like so many have suggested, you need to maintain your sanity and get as much as sleep as possible which ai know is almost impossible. You are in my thoughts :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704124 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 22:05:13 +0000 Anagram 2704124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I am so sorry you are in this situation. One of my friends just had her 2nd and he is a 30 wk preemie, so he had quite a long hospital stay. Since she was working before, they already had a nanny and she would get up with her oldest in the morning and do breakfast together, then the nanny would come and my friend would go to the hospital for the day--almost like work hours. Then her husband would go to the hospital after work, and my friend would go home to do dinner and bedtime with her kiddo. Then her husband would come home and the baby stayed in the NICU overnight, and they would repeat. </p> <p>The baby was in this hospital for 8 week and was just released and doing well. I hope you find a good routine--I can't imagine the stress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704072 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:49:19 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2704072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hoping your LO has a short stay and is home soon. It's so draining and stressful. DS was in hospital for 8 days (we just have one) and we did as others suggested with one of us at night, one during the day and used one car with a parking pass. I would absolutely have in laws or parents take a shift in the afternoon or something so you can get away. I was losing my mind until my MIL stayed for a half day and DW and I could be together, grocery shop, get away for a few hours. I wish we had done that from the start as both our mental health was suffering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704068 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:40:58 +0000 erinbaderin 2704068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry you're going through this, how stressful! I agree with the people who say set up a schedule so one person is always at the hospital. Maybe grandma and grandpa can take some time too to give you a break? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704061 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:33:20 +0000 pregnantbee 2704061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No help other than to say I'm sorry you're in this situation and hope your LO gets better quickly and comes home ASAP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704059 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:18:58 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2704059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. </p> <p>I would split up in 48 hour shifts. Mom at hospital Monday am through Wednesday am. Then switch. Maybe have grandma/grandpa help fill in for the times you switch. Not sure exactly how this would work but it would give one parent enough time to get caught up and settled. If you switch more frequently than that you might be spending too much time driving and too much time trying to update each other as you transfer duties </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704058 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:18:36 +0000 Ms.Badger 2704058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For long term stays we worked on the following schedule: My mom would stay sun night through Tuesday after work. I'd stay Tuesday and Wednesday night. Husband Thursday and Friday night. We would all go up Saturday and spend the day, then I would usually stay Saturday night. Most times we would just trade the car because parking was hard to find and expensive. I only had 1 LO but the hospital is hard and fatiguing. I'm sorry your family is going through this, it's tough :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704053 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:48:47 +0000 oskarsmommy 2704053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no! I haven't been in this situation but wanted say I'm sorry you are going through this!<br /> It will pass - I think you just have to get through one hour at a time. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704041 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:24:10 +0000 jhd 2704041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Praying for you and your LO. I like @gingerbebe: 's suggestion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704039 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:21:57 +0000 ElbieKay 2704039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea what I would do, but I just want to say that I'm sorry to read about your situation, and I hope that your family is reunited soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704032 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:13:25 +0000 gingerbebe 2704032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Divide and conquer. I would have one parent at home by dinner and do dinner bath and bedtime routine. Have same parent be there at wake up and then switch the next night. It will also give each parent a chance to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704026 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 17:56:38 +0000 AB810 2704026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an opposite situation kind of. My daughter (who was 2.5 at the time) had an accident that resulted in a 17 day hospital stay. We also had a 7 month old at home. My husband would stay from 6:30/7 pm overnight until around 9/10 the next day with her, and then we would switch. The hospital was also about an hour away. It was very draining, so if you can try to make a little time for each of you to get a break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704023 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 17:53:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2704023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry your LO2 is in the hospital!</p> <p>I remember when my LO was re-admitted for dehydration not even a day after we brought him home. There was a baby in the next room that didn't have anyone there to hold him or her and the nurses couldn't. That baby just cried and cried. It was heartbreaking. </p> <p>I would definitely make sure one of you is always with your LO2. Can your parents step in and help for a block of time while you spend time with LO1?</p> <p>Is moving your LO to a closer hospital an option? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-manage-if#post-2704020 Tue, 28 Feb 2017 17:47:31 +0000 Ajsmommy 2704020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo2 is in the hospital for an unknown amount of time (10 day old w complications). </p> <p>Hospital is one hour away from home.</p> <p>Have a 3yo lo1 at home </p> <p>How did you or would you juggle your time? Dh and I have been in the hospital since 8 pm last night and plan to stay here again tonight, not seeing lo1. Lo1 is at home with gram and grampa. </p> <p>We just don't know what to do going forward. We also don't know how long lo2 will be admitted. Could be days or even wks </p> <p>I miss lo1 terribly but feel unsure about leaving lo2.</p> <p>And it doesn't make sense to bring lo1 her bc she can't come into the room and she gets car sick and the hour ride each way is just too much</p> <p>We've considered one of us going home while one of us stays behind..... I suggested both going home for dinner and bedtime tomorrow but dh is pretty set on having one of us here at the hospital at all times </p> <p>Any advice or takes on this would be appreciated.... As my brain isn't functioning properly </p>