Hellobee Boards Topic: How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 03:22:51 +0000 dc yoga bee on "How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-navigate-having-los-that-were-far-apart-in-age#post-2260245 Mon, 10 Aug 2015 19:27:39 +0000 dc yoga bee 2260245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My brother is six years older than me, and my very best friend. My mom said he was a big help, and it worked out in that he was in school allowing a lot of one on one with me. He also was able to get six years with my parents. Maybe that's why we never fight lol. ms.line on "How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-navigate-having-los-that-were-far-apart-in-age#post-2253480 Mon, 03 Aug 2015 16:43:11 +0000 ms.line 2253480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My little brother and I are 5 years apart, and my mom always said my brother grew up with two moms! We're close as adults now, too. My parents said "starting over" with a baby was hard in a sense, but they only had to deal with one daycare bill and one kid in diapers at a time. Crisark on "How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-navigate-having-los-that-were-far-apart-in-age#post-2253434 Mon, 03 Aug 2015 15:35:39 +0000 Crisark 2253434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My first two are not quite 4 years apart and my oldest and youngest are 10years apart and my middle and youngest are 6years apart. It's been a blessing. My oldest is the biggest helper and has been just a god send for my sanity. I never anticipated having a 3rd but I remarried and we decided to have one more so that we would complete our family with one together. I prefer the longer age gaps. keepcalmcarrie on "How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-navigate-having-los-that-were-far-apart-in-age#post-2253227 Mon, 03 Aug 2015 13:13:57 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 2253227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My first two are 22 months apart, but if/when we have a third, there will be at least a 3 year age gap - probably closer to 4. Similarly, my middle brother and I are 21 months apart, but my youngest brother and I are 6.5 years apart and he and the middle brother are 4.5 years apart. My mom said it was fine - great, even - to have a little baby and two bigger kids. We still loved to play with him, and we were super helpful and didn't need much direction. It was only during our teenage years that it was probably harder and a little isolating for him, because he was in elementary school and we just didn't have much in common. But unless you have stair step children (all 1-2 years apart in age, which OMG no I couldn't do that with more than 2) that's going to be the case. Chillybear on "How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-navigate-having-los-that-were-far-apart-in-age#post-2253191 Mon, 03 Aug 2015 12:43:41 +0000 Chillybear 2253191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm 9 years older than my brother and I think it worked out really well for my parents. I was like his 2nd mother helping out when he was a baby to picking him up from school, a built in babysitter. We both got to experience mostly undivided attention from our parents at different times in our life. It did take a while for us as siblings to see each other as peers instead of me as another authority figure Mae on "How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-navigate-having-los-that-were-far-apart-in-age#post-2253163 Mon, 03 Aug 2015 12:26:51 +0000 Mae 2253163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I haven't been there, but I was a sibling 8 years younger than my brother. My mom said she just hauled me to all of my brother's stuff. Babies don't care where they are! I actually feel like a 4+ year age gap seems easier than a closer age gap (other than having to go back to when life is harder!) because older kids are more self sufficient and trustworthy. My mom could leave my brother to do stuff at home while she cared for me, and because he was so much older she actually left him in charge of entertaining me why she showered or did laundry or whatever. DillonLion on "How did you navigate having LOs that were far apart in age?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-navigate-having-los-that-were-far-apart-in-age#post-2253154 Mon, 03 Aug 2015 12:21:51 +0000 DillonLion 2253154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO is pushing 3 and while we are pretty much sure we are one-and-done, we aren't taking any permanent measures yet due to our young age (28 and 29), so another pregnancy is possible down the line. At this point, any future LOs will be quite a bit younger than our current child. How did you navigate a big gap? Any advice? The older LO gets, the scarier it seems to have to start all over again. How did you manage, especially if it wasn't planned?