https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Jul 2026 15:31:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-449486 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 20:57:48 +0000 DigAPony 449486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I might have had a little bit of the pedestal POV when I was very young, but I viewed them as normal fallible people from probably mid-elementary school age on. That's when it became apparent that my parents were much more over-protective than other kids' parents and we started to have conflicts that would only worsen and continue until my second year of college. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-449459 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 20:20:00 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 449459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pedestal until about age 9 and then I was on to them ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-449451 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 20:12:05 +0000 winniebee 449451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it depends on what time in my life. WHen I was little, I definitely thought they were infallible, but as I got older I came to understand they are just normal people. It's all so bizarre to contemplate now that I'm a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-449450 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 20:10:33 +0000 JennyPenny 449450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac I don't think I could have written how I felt towards my parents as well as you just did. My parents were always breaking promises to me and weren't very good at hiding the fact that I wasn't the favorite child by a long shot. I don't have kids of my own yet, but my biggest fear is that they'll feel about me how I felt about my mom.</p> <p>I've been able to accept it more now that I'm an adult and understand that they are just human. But growing up it sucked when everyone elses parents were superheroes deserving of their pedestals and mine weren't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448992 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 13:21:26 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 448992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought of my mom as an amazing person...human &amp; flawed...but still, pretty amazing. I always looked at them as people who had my back and loved me..so I loved them-despite any flaws. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448955 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 13:08:44 +0000 travelgirl1 448955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought they knew the answer to everything and would protect us from anything bad forever. I had a big shock when my dad had an affair and my mum didn't have the strength to deal with it properly. 14 years after they separated they finally got divorced this year and it was ugly. So now I look at them both very differently, it's sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448925 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 13:03:28 +0000 HLK208 448925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew they were normal. I definitely saw them make a few mistakes (nothing bad) but I trusted them and still do. </p> <p>On a different note, I always thought they had endless amounts of money (in reality they had loads of credit card debt). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448911 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 12:57:41 +0000 sarac 448911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From a really young age I had this sense that my parents (my mother especially) were really making some big parenting mistakes. It made me feel really insecure and unhappy, honestly. And it made me really uninterested in bowing to their authority, ever, since I felt like they just sucked in these huge important ways. They were/are good people, but they had some really large unaddressed issues in their own lives that prevented them from parenting well in some really key areas.</p> <p>I think that my mother is really aware of it, and now that she see me making really different parenting choices, we're struggling in our relationship. And now I'm terrified that my daughter will look back and have this long list of how I was a horrible parent. Even though I've made sure not to do all the things that my parents did, I still worry that I'll fail her in some other huge way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448884 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 12:46:22 +0000 Mrsbells 448884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew they werenormal people but I thoought they had the answer to every question and the solution to every problem. Of course as I grew I realized that didnt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448880 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 12:44:09 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 448880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought of them as normal people. They are divorced and never got a long. I saw them fight over things like visitation and child support. My mom also would also do things she wasn't supposed to and then ask me not to tell my dad (he had custody). I saw that they weren't perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448875 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 12:40:35 +0000 Andrea 448875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I never thought of them that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448836 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 12:22:48 +0000 Beyond2 448836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I still see my parents as infallible... I would be doing good if I can be half the parents they are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448819 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 12:12:50 +0000 mrs. wagon 448819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely saw my parents as superhuman people and dealt with the coming off the pedestal thing, which hurt a little. But it was a pretty gradual process since I lived so close to them. My relationship with them is pretty great so I can't complain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-you-think-of-mom-andor-dad-as-a-kid-as-infallible-parents#post-448814 Fri, 14 Dec 2012 12:09:06 +0000 mrbee 448814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As I've had kids of my own, the issue of kid's perception of us as parents has been on my mind and I wonder how most kids see their parents.</p> <p>I always thought of my parents as people (who just happened to have temporary control over every aspect of my life)... so I didn't wrestle with my parents coming off of a pedestal later in life. My general sense is that a good number of people wrestled with that... and some lucky people still see their parents as infallible, as they put them on a pedestal and their parents never disappointed them!</p> <p>How did you perceive your parents as a kid... as flawed people? As infallible parents? Something in between? </p>