https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 13:12:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549462 Mon, 16 May 2016 08:14:57 +0000 snowjewelz 2549462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so interesting to read. DD will be 25 months when #2 arrives. She currently prefers mommy 10000% person so I wonder what's gonna happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549443 Mon, 16 May 2016 07:36:00 +0000 ValentineMommy 2549443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS1 was 2.5 when we bought DS2 home. He didn't act up at all, which is actually pretty uncharacteristic lol.</p> <p>We made sure to read big brother books for a loooong time before the baby came. Once he was born, we made sure to focus a lot of attention on DS1 and to also include him (even simple things like, "can you hand me that diaper?"). Involving him made him feel helpful, and I think, helped him bond with the baby. </p> <p>Nine months later, and he calls him "his baby" and they're bff's. </p> <p>That being said, I do think a lot of it has to do with your childs personality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549324 Sun, 15 May 2016 20:05:02 +0000 Orchid 2549324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: it's a big change and at first I thought he was doing really well. But it's pretty evident that he's going through something big and just doesn't know how to deal with it. When I was in the hospital was he first time he ever woke up and I wasn't there to get him from bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549320 Sun, 15 May 2016 20:01:04 +0000 Orchid 2549320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I will definitely check out Janet Lansbury. Thank you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549308 Sun, 15 May 2016 19:39:12 +0000 MrsSRS 2549308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was not quite two and he didn't seem to care. But DD was an easy newborn and he probably got better attention from me postpartum than he did when I was whale sized. But 6 months later when she stopped sleeping (hard for me) and got mobile (hard for DS) we had a pretty rough patch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549292 Sun, 15 May 2016 19:10:48 +0000 FaithFertility 2549292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: :silly: :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549289 Sun, 15 May 2016 18:59:16 +0000 Foodnerd81 2549289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People warned me about toddlers developing a daddy preference when baby comes home but we had the opposite- her mommy preference got super intense. It's been very hard on everyone. </p> <p>My toddler was almost 2.5 when her sister was born. The transition has been really hard for all of us, though like others said she has never taken it out on the baby- she loves her sister so so much. Like tonight I had to say, ok that's too much love can you give her some space? But oh man, so many tantrums, so much whining that only mommy can do it. Baby will be five months this week and I actually think we are coming out of the woods. </p> <p>I am sure the daddy preference hurts right now but in many ways it's a blessing (coming from someone who has never experienced that). In the beginning I definitely had moments of resenting my toddler for not letting me be with the baby, and resenting the baby for harming my relationship with my first- the hormones and sleep deprivation are real. But they seriously already love each other so much, it's worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549283 Sun, 15 May 2016 18:43:18 +0000 erinbaderin 2549283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was 26 months and he's actually done really well. We've been trying really hard to incorporate baby brother into his life, by which I mean we still go to the park or zoo or whatever, we just bring the baby. He and his dad are spending more one on one time together but I try to make sure I still do things with just him as well. I think it helps that he's still in daycare so that part of his routine hasn't changed. This poor second baby gets dragged around a lot more than B did and sleeps in the carrier a lot, but so far it's been fairly smooth (touch wood). Our main issue has been that after going to bed on his own for nearly 2 years he now wants somebody to stay in his room and hold his hand while he falls asleep, which we've been humouring him on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549279 Sun, 15 May 2016 18:37:28 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2549279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: haha, you know I'm totally and completely full of sh*t right?!<br /> My mom is a world renowned child psychologist... she's a pretty amazing resource to have at my beck and call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549277 Sun, 15 May 2016 18:32:35 +0000 FaithFertility 2549277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Can you write a book?! Everything you say sounds wonderful :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549273 Sun, 15 May 2016 18:09:05 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2549273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tried to focus as much as possible on my big girls. Baby got as many swing naps as she'd give me. Anytime she was sleeping I actively played with my big girls. It meant fewer baby snuggles but kept a more harmonious house. When the baby was awake we focused on how much she loved her sisters and how cool they were as big sisters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549271 Sun, 15 May 2016 18:05:32 +0000 Glitter 2549271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following! I'm a wahm. DS will b 2 yrs 3 months when DD arrives and I am sure I will need some tips! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549265 Sun, 15 May 2016 18:00:21 +0000 winniebee 2549265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I don't remember anything in her book but I know she had a few pod casts on it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549263 Sun, 15 May 2016 17:57:55 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2549263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im scared for this! Also a stay at home mom and ds and I are buds all day and do whatever he wants. His world is going to be rocked :crying: </p> <p>@winniebee: on her website or book? Thanks for the tip! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549255 Sun, 15 May 2016 17:02:09 +0000 winniebee 2549255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2.5 and it was pretty hard. No outward animosity towards the baby but lots of emotional breakdowns. And he didn't nap for TEN days. I wasn't into her at the time but Janet Lansbury has some great info on this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549248 Sun, 15 May 2016 16:44:12 +0000 Finfan 2549248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She was 3.5 but it did not go well. For probably the first 4-5 months. She never took it out on the baby but everybody else got major attitude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-did-your-toddler-do-when-you-brought-lo2-home#post-2549241 Sun, 15 May 2016 16:14:11 +0000 Orchid 2549241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just brought home baby # 2 and can clearly see it affecting LO 1, even though he shows no hostility to the baby. The most painful thing for me is his sudden daddy preference. My heart breaks! I wonder about him feeling neglected by me. It could be the hormones, but I am an emotional wreck whenever he rejects me in situations where only I could have soothed him just a week ago. I SAH so he is used to spending all day with me.</p> <p>Has anyone experienced this?? How did your toddler cope with a new baby demanding your attention? </p>