https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 00:08:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2571432 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 13:53:04 +0000 Bibliolove 2571432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks all, for the advice! I have been texting back, but have been waiting a day or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2571425 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 13:49:16 +0000 simplyfelicity 2571425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bibliolove: I don't think I would make a point to "phase out," because it doesn't seem like you don't want to be her friend but that you can't give her the time that she seems to want at this time. I would be really relaxed with responding back and then and not getting caught up in a texting convo with her.</p> <p>For example:<br /> Her: You won't believe what happened just now ______________________!<br /> *wait several hours*<br /> You: Sorry, I have been super busy. That's crazy!</p> <p>By waiting, you won't engage in a conversation with her really because the thing she will have wanted to talk to you about will have pretty much passed. </p> <p>I think she has gotten used to you being readily available. If you make yourself less available, then she will probably fill that void with someone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2571303 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 11:08:51 +0000 PeaceLily 2571303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with what others said and I would just not answer her texts right away. I would still text back, but give it a few hours at first and then give it like a day before answering her back. I think she'll get the hint that you aren't into the nonstop texts! I would feel bad just not answering her at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569992 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 07:30:46 +0000 ElbieKay 2569992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I think you need to do the phase out. Just because she sends a txt doesn't mean you are obligated to drop everything and reply.</p> <p>But I feel ya. I hate situations like this. And I am an introvert with a toddler, so I am constantly craving downtime. Therefore unwanted socializing poses an immediate threat to my sanity! The whole topic makes me anxious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569962 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 00:23:39 +0000 Purpledaisy 2569962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just start taking longer and longer to respond and then try to just slowly stop texting back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569961 Sat, 18 Jun 2016 00:23:23 +0000 mrbee 2569961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you guys have history, then maybe I'd do a one-on-one hangout to give the friendship one last chance? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569956 Fri, 17 Jun 2016 23:36:24 +0000 youboots 2569956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like she's decided you're her new bestie. What would you want if you were in her shoes? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569947 Fri, 17 Jun 2016 22:45:39 +0000 Mrs.Someone 2569947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I'd stop responding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569863 Fri, 17 Jun 2016 17:35:01 +0000 avivoca 2569863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just don't text back. I don't like being blunt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569862 Fri, 17 Jun 2016 17:31:49 +0000 BSB 2569862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Next time she texts you I would tell her that I'll get back to her. Tell her you are running errands or something. Or even lie and tell her that some family drama went down (or tell her you or someone in your family is sick) and you'll be busy for the next few days. I personally like subtly hinting it and slowly severing that tie that she needs to message you all the time. Shoot, if it were me, I would just not respond to the texts. I would think she would eventually get the hint. </p> <p>I'm not usually a person that gives blunt messages. I'm pretty passive aggressive person, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-i-back-out#post-2569860 Fri, 17 Jun 2016 17:21:44 +0000 Bibliolove 2569860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This will sound terrible, but I don't know how to handle it!</p> <p>DH and I met up with a girl who I had been a friend with through our teens and college, lost touch in our twenties, and then re-connected when we were traveling in the same city. We met my friend and her DH as a couple, and it wasn't a great night. Neither of us really liked the husband (first time meeting him), and my old friend---we just didn't connect like we had in earlier years. </p> <p>However, she keeps texting me multiple times a day and sending me mundane things about her day and I have had conversations with her where I'm thinking HELP how do I get out of this convo!! I can't be spending all afternoon on you! They also want to visit at some point. Which...I don't want. </p> <p>I feel terrible, she gave me a lovely gift when we saw them and it was fun to re-connect a bit before we met up officially. But that was maybe an email a week, not every day stuff over text like it has become now. I feel like it's reached an end. As far as I can tell, there is no way I can back out gracefully. The slow fade? Any tips? </p>