https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 14:52:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920995 Fri, 20 Nov 2020 22:01:43 +0000 MoonMoon 2920995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: I want in on this. My phone is always in my hands, I'm thinking of how this behavior looks from my kids' perspective. I don't even know where to begin in the attempt to use my phone less, but I want to try! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920994 Fri, 20 Nov 2020 21:47:36 +0000 yellowbeach 2920994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the insight. </p> <p>Phone seems to be a common theme, and I’m definitely guilty of this. I think I’ll do a trial run, just starting small with a single evening after work until bedtime and see how it goes. Now if only I could get DH on board with this, too... 🤔 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920981 Fri, 20 Nov 2020 12:12:21 +0000 BUNBUN 2920981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do it more like @jennlin821: I set time aside when I completely focus on what I'm doing with DS/DD or by myself. I tell myself not to worry about dinner, what happens if she doesn't nap, the laundry, or work. </p> <p>For me, it's the opposite of multi-tasking and it's HARD to turn it all off, but it's also liberating. I had to do it with DS when he had so much trouble sleeping, I just couldn't think about how the morning would suck and what I had to do at work, i just had to focus on calming him down for as long as it took...</p> <p>FWIW, my house is a MESS so living in the moment has it's downside! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920960 Thu, 19 Nov 2020 00:25:03 +0000 ALV91711 2920960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Trying to put my phone down when the kids are up. Even if I’m not actively interacting I’m watching what they are doing. </p> <p>When I get home from work I try to have my phone away until they are in bed. It can be tough but it gets easier. Tonight we were all on the couch and one did homework while I did puzzles with the other. </p> <p>To me this is being in the moment, being available to them and they don’t have to compete for my attention over a screen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920940 Wed, 18 Nov 2020 11:44:41 +0000 foodiebee 2920940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Putting my phone down. Literally pretending that it is only a phone like it used to be not that long ago! I've noticed that my phone is what takes me out of the moment, or the impulse desire to be on it for some reason. I have a charging station set up downtstairs and that's where it lives, so that I don't carry it with me everywhere. And I'm demonstrating control to DS, who is already very clued in to devises at 16mo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920925 Tue, 17 Nov 2020 18:49:59 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2920925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@poppygirl15: yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920905 Tue, 17 Nov 2020 14:14:22 +0000 poppygirl15 2920905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's helpful for me to use my breath, or some other physical sensation to ground myself in the moment. If I can remember that all I need to do right now is breathe, or feel my feet on the floor, then it's easier to pay attention to what's going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920898 Tue, 17 Nov 2020 10:14:08 +0000 JennyPenny 2920898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others said, for me it really helped to put the phone away during key times of the day with my kids. But it wasn't like the first day I put my phone away I felt any different. It was only after several weeks of kind lowered phone use that I noticed a shift in my mental state. Before any thought I had I'd immediately do whatever on my phone. Like "Oh, DS is doing this puzzle so quickly, I should get him a more advanced one for his birthday. Let me check amazon." or "Hmm... he is still struggling to roll over, should he be able to do this by now? Let's check Dr. Google." So it took a while for me to be able to put those sorts of thoughts aside when they popped up, but now I feel like they're not happening as often or they just take up less brain space because I don't indulge them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920895 Tue, 17 Nov 2020 09:36:13 +0000 jennlin821 2920895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: So when you are chastising yourself, what are you doing/thinking/saying? </p> <p>I've actually been better at this because of the pandemic. When we were in lockdown my husband still had to go into the office (healthcare, but not front line). So my daughter (3) and I were home together. I was able to shift my schedule to work from 2pm-10pm (DD would nap and DH would be 100% on duty while I worked remotely). </p> <p>So during the morning, I made the conscious effort to be nearly 100% with DD. I tried to treat it like I was her daycare provider. Other than the normal picking up of dishes/toys, I did not think about laundry, cooking, or the workday that was still ahead of me. I was 100% into nature walks, coloring, dress up, etc.<br /> There were certainly days that I couldn't do this very well, and those days I did a lot more sitting on the couch and watching DD or having her watch a movie. </p> <p>It takes practice to be 'in the moment', so start small. Put your phone away, turn off all tv, media, etc. and ask your child what they want to do together. So for 20 minutes you color, do playdoh, run around in circles in your yard, etc. Give yourself and your child the boundaries (ie 20 minutes) and expectation (I have to stop when the timer goes off to make lunch) </p> <p>How to get yourself into the moment and let everything drop away? Thats going to be different for everyone, but for me it helped to channel my inner child. It also helped to think that my job at the exact moment wasn't laundry it was play. Your childs job is to learn through play, so in that moment your job is play. It is just as, if not more valuable than sweeping up the breakfast crumbs. </p> <p>I hope that helps :heart: :happy: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920892 Tue, 17 Nov 2020 08:10:50 +0000 Jessiemuller88 2920892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbeach: what has helped me “live in the moment” is deleting all my social media accounts, except this one! When I’m playing with the kiddos or hanging with friends and family, I try to not think about the 1,000 things I have to do later, and just look around and really see and listen to what’s happening in front of me. I also do a lot of breathing exercises to help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-actually-live-in-the-moment#post-2920888 Mon, 16 Nov 2020 22:30:57 +0000 yellowbeach 2920888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People throw the phrase out all the time, and I often chastise myself fir not doing this enough - but what are actual tactics to help you be more “in the moment?” </p>