https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 10:49:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018634 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 09:11:06 +0000 Koolbreeze 1018634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always handled them all because we ebf, no pumping. We cosleep though so its been pretty easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018532 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 08:54:49 +0000 Maysprout 1018532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do them. But he would get her in the morning while I slept in. He's not very good with interrupted sleep and I don't mind it usually so I'm fine with it, especially if it meant not having to battle over who gets to sleep in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018513 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 08:51:53 +0000 petunia354 1018513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both work and DH does all night wakings. It's pretty much the only time he gets to spend with DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018155 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:51:00 +0000 Anagram 1018155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that DH is back to work, I've been taking the 1 am wakeup totally alone so he can sleep through, then when she wakes up again around 4:30, I feed her then hand her off to him, and he burps, changes, and gets her back to sleep.</p> <p>He goes to bed a bit earlier, by 10... So he sleeps 10-4:30 and then 5:30-6:30 before waking up for work. He watched her while he gets ready for work and feeds her one more time around 7:30 so I can keep sleeping. </p> <p>I stay up later to pump 1 more time at 10:30 pm and go to bed around 11:00-11:30. Then I sleep till the first wake up (so I get 1-2 hrs sleep), then back to bed at 2, then sleep till 4 and wake up to pump then feed her, then give her to DH and sleep 5-8 uninterrupted when he wakes me before he leaves. </p> <p>Once our bebe goes down to one wake up, we'll probably do that together, since I pump and he could be feeding her while I do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018152 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:50:03 +0000 MrsF 1018152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was BF, DH would get the baby, change her diaper and bring her to me to nurse. When we switched to formula one if us would heat the bottle while the other changer her diaper. Then one if us would go back to sleep (pretty much took turns) while the other fed her. Teamwork all the way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018093 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:39:08 +0000 Cherrybee 1018093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has had 4 weeks off work and for that time he took the 1am change/feed and I took the 4am and 7am. But he goes back to work next week and I will be doing them all. I don't mind the loneliness but I get really stressed that her crying is going to wake DH up. If he wakes, I feel really guilty and inadequate (even though I'm always awake for his 1am feed). I dread to think how much worse I will feel when he has to get up in the morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018071 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:35:14 +0000 JoJoGirl 1018071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: Us too - it felt pointless for us both to be awake and exhausted and cranky since I'd have to get up and pump anyway if she was getting a bottle. Now she's only getting up once per night (lol @ "now" - ie the last 3 days) so I have been getting more sleep than DH since he's not a good sleeper, baby or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018061 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:31:55 +0000 immabeetoo 1018061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We ebf and in the beginning it was awesome when he'd get him, unswaddle, bring him to me, take him back and change diaper/reswaddle while I fell back asleep. Knowing I'd have to pump and still wake up if he fed pumped milk never appealed to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1018041 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:22:50 +0000 Smurfette 1018041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the beginning, he got up and changed her diaper. I would nurse and he would reswaddle. Now I just get up since she is hungry. Unless I don't think that she should be, and he is home, then he will try and get her back to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017991 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:04:21 +0000 heffalump 1017991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When lo was little she took a bottle so we did every other waking. I get migraines so I need sleep/help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017979 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:02:21 +0000 mediagirl 1017979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since the day she moved to her crib in her room, he would get her when she cried and bring her to me. She still wakes up at 14 months one time a night and this still happens. This went on while I was home and when I went back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017968 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:58:09 +0000 78h2o 1017968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've done every single night feed of her life so far (8 mo) by myself. Of course, I'd love to have my DH get up with me for the company/help, but since I'm nursing and he's a terrible sleeper, it's best not to disturb him. I used to be a little resentful about it, but I'm over it. I know he would get up if he had the energy/could get back to sleep. I'm glad that I do have the energy and could/can handle it. I've always been able to function on less sleep that my DH. </p> <p>I found watching tv shows on my phone via Amazon prime made it less lonely - it was my time for watching guilty pleasure shows/movies that I know DH wouldn't like. When I was totally sucked into watching every episode of Parenthood ever made, I almost welcomed night feedings. Almost. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017944 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:41:19 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1017944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH had three weeks of paternity, so up until he had to go back to work we took turns.</p> <p>Once he went back to work, we came up with a plan that lasted until Chloe was completely STTN. I was responsible for any waking a before 4am, and he'd take care of anything after 4am. He had to get up for work around 6, so this made the most sense for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017908 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:11:51 +0000 blackbird 1017908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He spent the first week working+helping me. He was so exhausted, though, it wasn't going to be a good (or safe) solution. So I did all the night feedings from then on and he'd do Friday or Saturday night for me plus Sat/Sun mornings so I could sleep in without her waking me up (he'd just take her into the living room at like 6am). I napped during the day and he couldn't. Sometimes I fell asleep at 4 or 5pm and he'd take her downstairs and leave me to snooze on the couch. But if I really needed help, he would get me a diaper or something (the baby woke him up anyways, but he didn't stay awake for the full 30+ min that I had to).</p> <p>Now that we're both back at work, we trade nights. We started doing formula at night after a couple of weeks because the whole feed the baby, then pump, then sleep for 2 hours thing was ridonk. I wasn't doing myself any favors in the sleep department by EPing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017905 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:10:24 +0000 MrsRoo 1017905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When DH was on paternity leave (the first 2 weeks) he would help. He'd get the baby, change her if needed and bring me a snack or water while I nursed. Now that he's back at work, I do all the overnight feedings alone. He will sometimes get up on the weekend nights, but it's such a routine now that he will typically only get up if I wake him for help. I don't mind at all though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017898 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 05:59:41 +0000 sotofamilia 1017898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Either DH brings me the baby to nurse and then puts him back to sleep, or I go to the baby and nurse him on the bed in there - it varies. We don't change diapers at night anymore. </p> <p>In the beginning, he would get the baby while I used the bathroom and got water, then go back to sleep until LO was finished, then help me get him back to sleep. </p> <p>We are EBF but my DH has always helped at night with LO - and I don't have a problem asking for help/phrasing it like that it my head (i.e. 'asking for help') when I feel overwhelmed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017896 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 05:56:59 +0000 Pepper 1017896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is breastfed, so I do them all. If DH doesn't have to work the next day, he will do the diaper changes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017893 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 05:54:15 +0000 Ra 1017893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We take turns. If DH gives him a bottle of pumped milk, I still get up to pump though. It works out in our case because it only takes me about 10-15 minutes to pump. It takes at least 30 to feed him, change him, burp him, and get him back to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017891 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 05:50:01 +0000 hilsy85 1017891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always done them all...dh did get up in the first week when he was home but once he went back to work he needed his sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017890 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 05:46:31 +0000 JoJoGirl 1017890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once he went back to work I did them alone. Couldn't come up with a system. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017864 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:53:49 +0000 .twist. 1017864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He brings him to me, helps me get set up. Sometimes changes a diaper. When I'm feeling better and DH has to work ill be doing night feedings alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017860 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:46:19 +0000 Kemma 1017860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Miss A is ten months old and EBF and I have always done the night feedings but DH is usually happy to help me if I need him.</p> <p>@Foodnerd81: If you do decide to share the feeding duties at night you might just need to keep an eye on your supply if you're not pumping while your DH is bottle feeding LO (decreased demand = decreased supply). Once or twice a week probably won't hurt your supply but every night might. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017856 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:38:13 +0000 Bookish 1017856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first he would bring her to me, I'd feed her, then he'd change her and put her to bed. Now that I'm working on my stash, DH gives her a bottle of formula while I pump. It's a big help to have him up. He does have to work in the morning, so if she stays awake after her feeding I take over so he can get more sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017849 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:11:57 +0000 emg86 1017849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When she was that young he would get up and do diaper changes, bring me water/snack, wait for me to nurse her and then he'd swaddle her and put her to sleep. He was super helpful and wanted to make sure I got a little rest too. Once she got a little older, he would occasionally give her a bottle but I still had to get up and pump to help establish my supply and keep it up. I think once she hit 4-6 weeks she would wake up to nurse and immediately go back to sleep, so he stopped waking up with us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017848 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:11:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 1017848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is probably a good time to ask since I bet a lot f is who are on hb right now are feeding babies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017847 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:09:31 +0000 deerylou 1017847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is fed 50/50 breastmilk and formula, due to low supply. I pump before bed, and we split the feedings, which are usually at 12, 3, and 6am. When I was still EBF, I would nurse, and DH would change her and resettle her back to sleep, so I could rest and feel less alone. I hear you on the loneliness! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017846 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:06:52 +0000 Boheme 1017846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do them all. If I didn't, I'd still have to get up and pump because I have such a heavy letdown at night. Since I'm already up, I go ahead and change diapers too. Not ideal, but at least someone is getting sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-and-your-so-handle-middle-if-the-night-feeds#post-1017844 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 04:04:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 1017844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you and your SO handle the middle of the night feeds, especially for young babies and if only one if you is going in to work in the morning?</p> <p>I'm EBF and haven't started pumping yet. C is 2.5 weeks old. Dh has been back at work for about a week now. So far, I've been sleeping in the nursery and handling all the middle of the night sessions by myself, since I'm the only one who can feed her anyway. But it gets so lonely! Dh is willing to help more but we don't really know how to make it work. I think I'm going to start pumping soon, but I still don't know how we'd break it up anyway. How do you and your so work it out?</p> <p>C usually wakes up once around 3-4 and then not again until 6 or 7, then we nurse and snuggle in bed for a few hours after Dh leaves for work. </p>