https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 23:37:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535497 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 20:17:52 +0000 Corduroy 1535497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: My neighbors walked to synagogue because they can't do work on the Sabbath. As I understand it that includes driving, turning on lights (they left turned them on before sundown Friday) and buying Girl Scout cookies. </p> <p>Making friends will probably depend on the individual women in your neighborhood. Say hi to the women when you see them and see what happens. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535439 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 19:57:00 +0000 regberadaisy 1535439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: oh bummer. Do they tend to stick with each other? Yeah, we didn't realize how big of jewish community there is in this neighborhood. We should've because there's a big synagogue within walking distance. I see families walking there all the time in the warmer weather.</p> <p>Not that it woulda deterred us from purchasing this home. Just makes it harder to make mom friends in the neighborhood. Blah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535328 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 19:06:45 +0000 ShootingStar 1535328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They sound Hasidic. Do the women wear modest clothes or long skirts? Unfortunately if they're all Hasidic they're probably not going to be an easy group to infiltrate.</p> <p>ETA just saw your comment about their skirts. I'd bet money they're Hasidic. Very cool that you have a Hasidic community in your neighborhood! But again, probably hard to befriend as a non-Jew :-(. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535314 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 18:58:18 +0000 regberadaisy 1535314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: I'm not sure? All the males wear caps and the older males generally have a beard and the ringlets by the ears? The women all wear past knee length skirts and even in the summer they are pretty covered! </p> <p>@sunny: not within a walking distance! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535308 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 18:55:59 +0000 autumn865 1535308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mom groups are tough! I have a mom friends group in my neighborhood but I met them one by one and then arranged things all together. To be honest, how I met them individually is just to be outside walking often. It's easier to say hi as they're getting their mail or strapping their kid in a stroller than in a group. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535185 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 17:26:39 +0000 sunny 1535185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: does your library have a storytime? I've met moms at our library before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535183 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 17:23:21 +0000 regberadaisy 1535183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been here almost a year and a half. And I swear the only time I see mom's out with their kids is walking around the neighborhood. Sometimes a solo mom but most often in a group. Haha I don't know if should walk up to them and stop them in theor tracks to say hi?? </p> <p>We went to the park the same times last year and I never saw a soul!! I think this year I'm going to start going at different times to see when the kids in the neighborhood go. </p> <p>I don't drive and we only have one car. I'm out of a job so currently classes etc or a second car are both out of the question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535169 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 17:12:21 +0000 Corduroy 1535169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Are they Orthodox? I grew up in a neighborhood very close to an Orthodox synagogue. All the families were friendly but we almost never interacted. My mom occasionally talked to some of the women and my dad to the men. However in the 18 years I lived there I'm sure I never talked to any of the Orthodox kids in the neighborhood. I didn't even know the names of the kids my age in the house directly across the street. It was as if they lived parallel but totally separate lives: different schools, grocery stores, playgrounds (at their school) etc. </p> <p>I don't mean to generalize, just stating my experience with my neighbors in case that sheds some light on your situation. Maybe they were waiting for me to say hi? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535128 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 16:38:06 +0000 mrbee 1535128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would maybe try another tack... prenatal yoga is a great way to meet moms, as is going to playspaces and playgrounds at the same time every time (to maximize the chances of running into the same people). I saw you already commented on this blog post, but collected some other tips here!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/18/10-ways-for-introverts-to-meet-other-parents/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/09/18/10-ways-for-introverts-to-meet-other-parents/</a></p> <p>Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535093 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 16:20:31 +0000 hellocupcake 1535093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't made a lot of random mommy friends, but i usually let LO run up to the other kids and start talking for her (she's 15 months). I'll say things like "Can we say hi? (that gets her to wave)" "Oh look, he has a ball" or something and while they're trying to feel each other out, the other parent will start asking how old my LO is and we go from there... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535085 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 16:18:32 +0000 mrskc 1535085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never approached a group. I find it easier to approach other moms that are alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535078 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 16:15:46 +0000 HabesBabe 1535078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't/wouldn't/won't-- I guess if I can tell that it's a tight group of friends (vs. a mommy playgroup or something), I wouldn't try to join in. I wouldn't want to feel like the outsider or like Carrie Bradshaw staring at a group of friends in Paris. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535072 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 16:11:29 +0000 hilsy85 1535072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually wait til LO goes up to one of their kids and has an interaction (and I'm not above encouraging him to do so by placing him in close proximity!) and then I'll say hi to the kids and then the moms.</p> <p>ETA ah I see you never see them at the park...hmm that's tough then! I might just get up my courage and stop them and say hi, and that you're trying to meet other moms in the neighborhood. Even if it doesn't lead anywhere, at least you tried! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535068 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 16:08:50 +0000 littlek 1535068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mom groups are so intimidating. We have a cliquey group in our neighborhood and it took me forever to gather up the courage to walk up and talk to them. I just normally say "hi" and then introduce "B" and ask about their kids and names, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535063 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 16:05:42 +0000 loveisstrange 1535063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't approach the whole group. I'd approach one of them and let her introduce you to the rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535054 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 15:58:24 +0000 sunny 1535054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh I'm sorry! I've seen this happen around me too with a specific group being very cliquish. :-( no real advice for you though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535043 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 15:53:30 +0000 Running Elley 1535043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that's rough. Honestly, I never approach the ones that are in groups even though (in this situation at least) that sounds like the only option. I usually strike up conversations with other moms who are alone at storytimes, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-approach-a-group-of-moms#post-1535033 Mon, 31 Mar 2014 15:47:45 +0000 regberadaisy 1535033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>especially when they're in a "clique" and not in a park setting?</p> <p>Just got back from a walk with LO. And twice the same group of moms with similar aged kids passed by us. I tried to look their way various times to say hi. And LO kept looking back at them and wanting to say. The moms didn't look our way once although the kids did.</p> <p>I would love to make some mom friends in the neighborhood for LO's sake! Ugh. And I never see them at the park down the street. I feel like they all just walk around the neighborhood together and then hang out at each other's homes.</p> <p>And I hate to say it but I'm really noticing a divide of the Jewish families in our neighborhood versus the other families. From what I've heard from other families they have a real distaste for the Jewish families. And I don't know why! I wonder if that's why they (the Jewish moms) just stay together as a clique?</p> <p>Anyway, just rambling.</p> <p>How do you approach groups of moms in your neighborhood? </p>