https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 18:42:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-490051 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 22:03:40 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 490051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: You are too sweet. I'm happy to be at least a little bit helpful. I wish I could do more :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-490050 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 22:03:39 +0000 travelgirl1 490050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: Thank you so much : ) And yes you're right, it's awesome to have @Mrs.Jacks around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-490035 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:59:15 +0000 prettylizy 490035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I just wanted to send a big fat hug to you mama, you're doing amazing and your litle girl is lucky to have you.</p> <p>Also- we're lucky to have @Mrs. Jacks and her encyclopedia brain around here :) You rock too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-490032 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:58:06 +0000 travelgirl1 490032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you, I'll look that up. I hope I can do it, I'm certainly going to try : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-490025 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:54:26 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 490025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: You can do this, sweetie! I did all the what if's in our first weeks with M, so I was prepared... but I know it's harder to actually have to do it.</p> <p>There's a babycenter group too, if I recall. I remember that being reassuring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-490019 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:52:43 +0000 travelgirl1 490019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I've been doing loads of research and have messaged some mums who have had babies in the harness who I found on facebook, but thanks so much for offering : ) I've been looking up how to stop her skin chaffing, how to dress her, etc. I'm hoping that being prepared will make it easier, and I think I might go to a La Leche League meeting next week to get some breastfeeding advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-490011 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:48:00 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 490011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: There are some great sites about how to best handle the harness and still use cute clothes, snuggling etc. Have you found any yet, or should I look some up for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489999 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:42:03 +0000 travelgirl1 489999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: I'm glad your LO never needed the procedure. I'll have a really good think about just letting her dad go in. It's just part of me feels as though if I don't go in then I'm failing her, because as her mum, I SHOULD be able to pull it together and be there for her because she is all that matters. I just don't seem to be able to.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: That's such a good idea about sharing what soothes her with the doctors, thank you! Part of what upset me today was I felt the ultrasound tech was rough with her, and pulled her about a bit. I know it won't have hurt her and he had to do his job but it was hard to watch. </p> <p>On her last ultrasound, her left hip was dislocated and her right was subluxed so it seems like qiute a severe case. She was at a hight risk being a girl, my first, breech and aparently I had hip dysplasia too, although never needed treatment. I think part of the reason I'm so upset is pure selfishness because I'll miss feeling every part of her body moulded against me, and I'm sad for all the cute outfits I picked out for her that she'll never wear, and I'll miss being able to breastfeed in really snuggly positions. They are obviously tiny things and not important in the big scheme of things but, as her mama, it makes me sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489956 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:27:00 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 489956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see lots of procedures and we try to do everything we can to keep kids comfortable. Before you begin, share anything that you know that helps soothe your little one. Specifically, I'm thinking of Sweeties, which is sort of like numbing medicine for babies (it's just sugar water).</p> <p>Second, you can help in decision making. Even if the ortho says one thing, if there is a chance that the non-invasive procedure might work, you could push for that instead with close monitoring. Most kids do get better with non-invasive unless their dysplasia is very severe or goes untreated past the time where their bones are still forming.</p> <p>We were very worried about dysplasia in our youngest because she was at high risk for a couple of reasons and then she was born with a hip click, but we got lucky and things were ok. </p> <p>Hopefully, they'll be recommending the Pavlick! Let me know :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489945 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:22:05 +0000 Bao 489945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww I'm sorry momma :( That is tough, I cried when they told me my LO was being referred to a pediatric surgeon (for something that ultimately never even had to happen), so yes I can't pull it together when it comes to my LO and medical procedures. I agree with PP's, could her dad go in with her next time? Then you be there for her afterwards? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489939 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 21:19:16 +0000 travelgirl1 489939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: @Jennimac: I'll have a good think about this, I agree kids pick up on our energy and I don't want her to think I'm scared or sad. Maybe if she needs putting under I could let her dad handle it. In the ultrasound though he had to hold her down so i feel like she needs someone to comfort her as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489882 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 20:57:01 +0000 singingbee 489882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: This is what my parents do whenever my sisters and I had a medical procedure. My dad can handle it because he's a doctor but my mom cannot. So, she stays at home and she's ready for the Recovery, While my dad handles all the actual procedure stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489872 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 20:53:32 +0000 mrbee 489872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Sorry for the short post before! I was about to put Charlie down and was posting over the phone...</p> <p>Here's my slightly more fleshed out thought: I think kids pick up a lot on the energy we put out! Maybe dad could handle the actual next appointment, and mom could handle the post-appt cuddles? Just a thought!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489865 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 20:50:13 +0000 travelgirl1 489865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: that would probably be a good idea but I feel like I should be in there with her. I think she might need the mummy cuddles :)</p> <p>@mrs. wagon: you're right, that's what I keep telling myself, that she won't remember. To be fair she was smiling up at me once it finished, it was me still in tears. I just hope she copes with whatever they decide to do on Friday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489775 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 20:13:24 +0000 mrs. wagon 489775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: oh my goodness, this sounds so horrible and heartbreaking. So sorry you have to go through this :( I can't think of anything other than that babies are really resilient and she won't remember any of this. You as her mama will be able to soothe her better than anyone else in the world so just be there and be strong for her. Lean on your DH for strength and know that she is going to be ok... all the crying and heartache now is all for a good cause to get her all better so she won't have to worry about any of this anymore in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489774 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 20:12:11 +0000 mrbee 489774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: would it be an option to just have her dad in there the next time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-copestay-strong-when-your-lo-is-having-medical-procedures#post-489756 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 19:59:55 +0000 travelgirl1 489756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My little 9-week-old had a hip ultrasound today because she has hip dysplasia and it was devastating. She'd had one before and so I thought today would be fine because she was fine with it then, but this one was more invasive because it was to determine what treatment she will get and she sobbed her little heart out. Her dad had to hold her down while she screamed and I was trying to comfort her and I couldn't help crying my eyes out too.It felt like my heart was being ripped out, she was so confused and upset. On Friday she'll be meeting with the orthopedic doctor and at the very least she will go in a Pavlik harness. I'm dreading how she'll react to being all strapped up, poor little girl. But because it's been left so long (she was diagnosed right before the holidays but couldn't get an appointment because all the staff were on vacation) I think maybe the harness wouldn't work and so they may consider surgery and a body cast. Poor baby. I know it could be much, much worse and I'm grateful it isn't but I'm still absolutely heartbroken for my little girl and what these treatments will mean for her in terms of restricting her movement and doing things like skin to skin. I'm dreading Friday because I know I'll cry again - even though I try so, so hard not to - and I hate her seeing me upset when I'm supposed to be strong for her. Thank goodness her dad holds it together. </p> <p>So if you've ever had to help your LO through a medical procedure, how did you do it? Did you manage not to cry? Any tips would be great! </p>