https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:49:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1238715 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 20:56:33 +0000 alphagam84 1238715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh yes! My MIL is baby obsessed and it is so annoying! We had the family over just for a normal brunch last weekend and she asked "is this a brunch to announce something or just a normal lunch?" in an annoying voice. ugh. And she is always making comments. We don't plan to TTC for about 9 more months so she has a long time to wait!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1238612 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 19:41:51 +0000 HellOnHeels 1238612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is why I haven't told anyone, sans the 3 people I know won't pester. I like @septca: answer, though! With my last GP dr (who I dropped) everytime she asked when I was going to get pregnant I told her "you'll know when I know." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1238381 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 15:36:30 +0000 FaithFertility 1238381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In talking to a friend about my TTC road she said it will happen not everyone is a fertile mertil like me .......ohhhh geee thanks :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1237949 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 09:01:04 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1237949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married for 3 years and we are in our early 30s. People ask all the time. Do you want kids?/ when are yiu giibg to have kids?/ are you trying?</p> <p>To people not close to me I say when it happens it happens" and to people close to me "scheduling sex on the 2-3 days out of the month you can actually get pregnant is just not fun." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1237941 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 08:49:39 +0000 Lindsay05 1237941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People really don't realize how rude and insensitive it is. I hope it is an older generation thing and people learn to filter what they say. I think the best thing to say is "we are struggling, but thanks for bringing it up". I dont see that being any less rude than what they are saying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1237910 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 07:53:40 +0000 RLCeigh 1237910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate dealing with the pressure from family- specifically my SIL. In august we were at a family bday party and I must have touched my stomach and I heard her tell her husband she was sure I was KU and to watch me. The next thing I did was get a big glass of white wine and down it in front of her!<br /> Knowing she is watching and expecting is pressure I don't need! We have a 2 year old and I'm 39 so I know everyone is expecting something soon. It is our decision and I hate feeling like we are letting them down since TTC #2 has been difficult.<br /> Blah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1237189 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 17:38:17 +0000 MrsScottish 1237189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am almost 30, and yes we just bought a house, a bigger vehicle, been married 1.5 years, blah blah blah. I have actually told someone " my uterus is fine, how is yours!?!?" And " well according to the tampoon in my vagina, no I am not pregnant."<br /> It is so hard. It is the first thing on our minds, we don't need reminders or pressure. We just started, and I truly feel for those of you who have been /did try for months.<br /> Arg </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236488 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:47:56 +0000 dc yoga bee 1236488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit: I love this response! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236481 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:46:10 +0000 snowjewelz 1236481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you! We got married in May and I have definitely gained some marriage bliss weight, and people are asking all the time, OR pretty much assuming I'm already pregnant &amp; just can't announce yet! At least we haven't started TTC yet; otherwise I feel like it is really awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236478 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:45:50 +0000 pui 1236478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh that is so frustrating. I had a coworker who was constantly making jokes about it and implying I am pregnant or saying I should be soon. I angrily told him to stop it and he finally did.</p> <p>People think they're being cute. They don't realize that not everyone gets pregnant on the first, second or even third try. They don't get that asking that can be a source of pain for some people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236472 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:45:30 +0000 Littlebit 1236472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gah, this is so frustrating! I have the same issues. I've started saying 'Apparently it's harder than it looks on 16 and pregnant' - that usually shuts people up. I was just complaining to a friend how completely ridiculous it is that some people think it's acceptable to ask others about the state of their uterus. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236470 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:44:20 +0000 LindsayInNY 1236470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Umm, try being married for 3+ years, turning 30 and TTC for a year now... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236463 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:42:29 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1236463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was by far the most frustrating part of our TTC journey. I don't know when it became acceptable to ask about something so incredibly personal. I used to just do my best to smile and tell them "No...I am not, but thank you for asking." Then I would run into the bathroom and bawl my eyes out. Not healthy, but it helped me not lash out at them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236439 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:36:09 +0000 dc yoga bee 1236439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsScottish: YES! So, we've been married for a little over 1.5yrs, and just started TTC. No one knows we're trying except for the bee. It's our first month, and just yesterday a girl at work said, "you need to get pregnant." Um, I'm trying! But, can't tell her that lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236406 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:27:38 +0000 septca 1236406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You just cut them off at the first question (Are you pregnant yet?) and, with a huge smile, say, "No! Are you???" It's not outright rude and people will get the message very quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236390 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:24:44 +0000 MrsScottish 1236390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for reading my vent!! I am sitting in my room in the dark on HB trying to calm down!! arg! I feel better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-everyone-asking-you-if-you-are-pregnant-yet#post-1236388 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 13:24:01 +0000 MrsScottish 1236388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy crap! Going to loose my mind!<br /> I have kept our ttc path under wraps to most people IRL because I dont want that added pressure of people wondering and knowing. Everyone at work has been harassing me for the last 1.5 years (since we got married) with constant- you pregnant yet? how come? why not? oh you are sick, you must be pregnant. You I see a bump- nope I am just fat thanks though! It drove me crazy before, but now that we are actually ttc it is stressing me out! </p> <p>I had to admit to a close co-worker that we were ttc yesterday because she was pressuring me to take a new hot yoga class with her (it was a sign up for 10 weeks of classes, once a week). I kept coming up with different excuses (at least 5) and she kept hammering so I finally said, I cant because if I by chance get pregnant quickly I cant go. </p> <p>When I told DH that I told her, he was like "oh now everyone is going to be asking you even more!!!" At lunch today, 2 other young women were talking about schools to sent future potential kids, I chirped in with my 2 cents on what our plan is- and everyone turned and said, well is that an announcement?!?!? I got mad, and said, nope, but thanks! I then left. If I dont already feel pressure for it to happen, they are making it x10 worse!! If I wear a shirt that is a bit tight, oh she has a bump! arg....</p> <p>vent over...... I am not doing well on this ttc journey and we just started!!! How do you ladies deal with this!!! I work in a school with 23 other women and one male, this is a constant issue! I just seem to be next in line so they are all anxiously waiting!!! </p>