https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 21:47:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mean-talk-between-siblings#post-2782641 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 13:53:01 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2782641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Adira: I don't allow my children to speak to each other in ways that they wouldn't speak to me, DH, or anyone else. If I hear something mean, I let my 5 year old know that it was mean. If it's repeated, it's an automatic discipline. That means either taking away reading books at night or putting him in time out. It's plain not tolerated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mean-talk-between-siblings#post-2782631 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 13:21:44 +0000 bhbee 2782631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of our biggest problems is the sly stuff like rubbing it in when things are unequal. </p> <p>Sometimes it helps to ask her how she would feel if someone from school said that to her. Though even if I create remorse in the moment it doesn’t last :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mean-talk-between-siblings#post-2782630 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 13:15:59 +0000 pinkb 2782630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't found a way that has fully corrected the behavior. I correct it, each and every time. But DD still says things. Her school has been on top of teaching "I don't like it when..." because one of her things she likes to tell DS is I don't like you, so that saying helps. But she just learned at school dummy, I hate it. Still trying to explain it so she can understand and make an effort to not say it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mean-talk-between-siblings#post-2782624 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 13:05:09 +0000 Mama Bird 2782624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One time DS called DD a little fatty, and I don't think he was fully aware that's a mean thing to say. I told him several times to stop, but he just thought it's hilarious and did it even more. It seems to work better to say once "that was not nice" and then ignore it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mean-talk-between-siblings#post-2782581 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 11:53:25 +0000 Adira 2782581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BeachMama: Can you give an example? I don't let my kids speak to each other in ways I wouldn't allow them to speak to me or anyone else (name calling, insults, being rude, etc). We try to teach them to be respectful to everyone. When they are rude to each other, I immediately interject and offer an alternative respectful response to use instead. Though my examples of that are just one telling the other "No! You can't play with me!" or something, which I'm not sure is the kind of thing you are referring to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mean-talk-between-siblings#post-2782570 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 11:20:46 +0000 BeachMama 2782570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 5 yo DD has a tendency to talk meanly to my 2yo DS. At times I try to ignore it, but it really frustrates me. I want them to be kind to each other and be friends. At school she is very nice, helpful, caring. But she still has a lot of jealousy towards her brother and gets upset with him easily. </p> <p>How do you deal with meanness in your house? </p>