https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 13:10:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mommy-guilt#post-508165 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 14:33:15 +0000 T-Mom 508165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I suffer from mommy guilt as well! I don't know if there is any end to it.. there is always something to feel guilty about. But it just means that you a conscientious mom. I try to be forgiving to myself and look at things objectively. As aWOHM I only see DD and DS a few hours of the day. Feeling guilty only slows me down, so when I catch myself being hard on myself I try to snap out of it and move on quickly. I also seek out other moms in the same situation, and we commiserate and validate each other. That helps me to feel better! Chin up! You are an awesome mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mommy-guilt#post-507831 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 12:55:50 +0000 banana 507831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel it all the time, even now with a 2.5 yr old and a 5.5 month old. I thought the mommy guilt thing would go away after the first 6 months but nope, still feeling it! I'm a WOHM and I'm always feeling guilty that my son is in daycare all day long. And that he goes to bed kinda late because we want to spend time with him after work. And that I can't cook him a variety of different meals throughout the week. It goes on and on and on. I don't know if mommy guilty ever really goes away. The way that I cope with it is that I always remind myself that feeling all of this mommy guilt is what makes me a good mom and always makes me strive to do better. There's no such thing as a perfect mom. We all try our best and we all feel like we can always do more. It's a natural feeling and I'm sure alot of moms feel the same way. Hang in there mama! You're doing great!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mommy-guilt#post-507786 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 12:36:48 +0000 Amelieisme 507786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: As far as letting him play on his own, I think that's good for him! Just know that you are teaching him independence and ways to entertain himself. That's a good thing! Its bad for older children and adults to need constant entertainment from an outside source. </p> <p>As far as BF'ing, that's a hard one. My sister was unable to do it and she feels guilty about it constantly. I feel bad when I give my LO an occasional formula bottle because I just can't keep up with his demand at this point. I think the BF push has gotten a little out of hand in the guilt it places on mama's of our generation. </p> <p>Be kind to yourself! You are an awesome mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mommy-guilt#post-507774 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 12:31:07 +0000 rachiecakes 507774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: it's so awful :( I work full time and I feel bad about these things all the time. If there's something I want to do after work, I'll beat myself up that I'm missing a whole day with DS. If I'm home with him and have a chore or check my email, I feel bad. It's endless for me. </p> <p>I do try to remind myself that I'm a great mom and he loves me and that the pressure I put on myself for these things is unnecessary, no one else would be putting this kind of pressure on another person. My mommy mantra is "be good to yourself". I try, I try. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mommy-guilt#post-507768 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 12:29:08 +0000 stargal 507768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: aww I think its completely normal to feel mommy guilt. I feel it a lot. Like o don't read to him enough some days or I'm on my phone when he's up. I also couldn't breastfeed And feel awful about it still 6 months later.... don't have any advice BC I was just crying about mommy guilt the.other day Bt know your not alone. And I think it shows your a good mom if you feel guilty over the little things, ya know? I usually talk/ cry to my hubby who always makes me feel better by telling me that I'm a great mom and how he doesn't think he seen anyone love a child more. That helps put things into perspective for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-deal-with-mommy-guilt#post-507753 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 12:22:41 +0000 Running Elley 507753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of the hardest things for me to adjust to since having LO is this constant mommy guilt about everything.</p> <p> I feel bad when I'm not playing with him the whole time that he's awake and happy. Sometimes the time when he's awake and happy is the only time I can get things done around the house but I feel so bad for just leaving him to play by himself. I feel bad for not being able to breastfeed him even though I fought really hard and it was ultimately out of my control. I feel bad for wanting a break sometimes. I feel like I almost always feel guilty for something!</p> <p>If you dealt/deal with this mommy guilt what do you do about it? </p>