https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 13:52:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545505 Tue, 10 May 2016 15:09:12 +0000 DillonLion 2545505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Not with any regularity that they have contacted me about, but she has hit her teacher in the face before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545497 Tue, 10 May 2016 15:04:16 +0000 wheres_c 2545497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BananaPancakes: ditto. </p> <p>Being physical is not tolerated in our house.<br /> We stop what we're doing, get down on his level and very sternly tell him that we do not hit/push/whatever and that we do not tolerate that behavior. If I believe it was done on purpose or the behaviour continues then he gets a time out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545375 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:54:03 +0000 Chuckles 2545375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would agree with PPs. I tell him very sternly to stop and if it continues, I would walk away. For a child who seems like he or she is feeling out of control or following you, I would carefully put the LO in their room and close the door. I would let them know that they are welcome to come out when they are quiet and can control their body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545343 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:41:01 +0000 Adira 2545343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do one warning and then immediately do time out for any hitting/kicking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545316 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:25:18 +0000 regberadaisy 2545316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DillonLion: I think in your situation, repeating "use your words" might helpful. If you think the reason is she is trying to get your attention then tell her to say "excuse me, mommy. I need xyz" in lieu of hitting. Keep repeating. Repitition, repetition. </p> <p>Does she exhibit similar behavior at daycare? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545312 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:21:44 +0000 Maysprout 2545312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time I say 'ow, that hurt' or 'ow, why did you do that?' bc I genuinely have no idea, half the time they just didn't think something through, like if Mommy's getting me out of my car seat and I kick I'm going to get her nose. </p> <p>If they do it again I catch their hand or foot and look at them in the eyes and tell them 'that hurts, you can't keep doing that, if you do it again . . .'</p> <p>Then if it happens again they either go in time out or in a different room or somewhere else and I go back to what I was doing. I don't change what I'm doing especially for hitting or kicking for attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545310 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:19:32 +0000 BananaPancakes 2545310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've always immediately stopped what we're doing, get down on his level, grab him by the arms so he can't push/hit/wriggle away, and very sternly tell him that we do not hit/push/whatever and that we do not tolerate that behavior. We try to correct very quickly and strictly in regards to this type of behavior because we truly don't tolerate it. Now that my son is 4, my husband is really strict about this, especially with me, because he doesn't want him to think its ok to be physical with women at all. I think it has to be addressed in that moment because it's just not something we will allow. We don't care why he's doing (for attention, he's hungry, he's tired) it's a behavior we really frown upon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545309 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:19:28 +0000 catomd00 2545309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say "I won't' let you it mommy, hitting hurts." And I do it in the most stern voice I ever use with her, so she knows it's serious. Then, I try to direct her to a safe place if she is flailing around and sit by her but out of the way so she can't hit me. I'll gently remind her to take a deep breath, let her know I'm there if she would like a hug, and ask if she wants some water or a snack. I don't even attempt a rational conversation about it until she has calmed down. Offering a hug is the one thing that works about 99% of the time to calm her down. Then, we discuss what happened.</p> <p>If I can't stop what I'm doing right away, I usually just say "Mommy needs to finish this first, would you like to help me? Then we can do XYZ…." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545307 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:18:58 +0000 regberadaisy 2545307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First thing, I do is ask her to stop. Tell her it is not nice to hit, it hurts us. Ask why she did that and explain that we need to use our words when we're frustrated. We keep our hands to ourselves.<br /> If she does not stop being physical then I would hold the body part she is using to hit. And from there it's time out and lose of privileges.</p> <p>From where we stand, being physical is not tolerated.</p> <p>DD1 got frustrated and screamed at a teacher yesterday and slapped said teacher. She told me and owned up to it when I got to daycare. We talked about how we use our listening ears, and use our words and we never, ever hit. The teacher wasn't there, otherwise I would've told her to apologize (again). When we got in the car, I explained that the first thing we were going to do when we got home was to make the teacher a I'm sorry card. We got home and I got her a piece of paper and she drew a card. She dictated the message and I wrote it down for her. We brought it to daycare this morning and I told another teacher about it and asked that they please tell her lead teacher, so dd can give the card to the teacher she hit.</p> <p>Sorry for the long response but we had a VERY big problem at school with this a month or two ago. And I'm not happy to hear yesterday that she got handsy again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545303 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:14:37 +0000 mediagirl 2545303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've taken some tips from Janet Lansbury in this area. I say, "I can't let you hit be because that hurts" and I walk away from where she is. If she follows me I say, "I need to leave the room until you can stop hitting me".I typically just keep moving out of her way without making any sudden movements so she doesn't lash out and then miss me and hurt herself by falling or hitting something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-a-child-who-is-being-physical-with-you#post-2545299 Tue, 10 May 2016 13:11:20 +0000 DillonLion 2545299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your LO is hitting/kicking/running at you full speed/smacking you in the face/etc. What do you do? Do you get up and walk away? Do you do time out? Do you do something else? </p> <p>I really, really don't want to be physical in return nor do I want to shout, but I need the behavior to cease immediately if someone is kicking me in the face, you know?</p> <p>It seems like she does it most when she wants my attention and I'm distracted, so I need to make more of an effort to stop what I'm doing and pay attention to her, but I can't always do that (like if I'm cooking or something). </p>