https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Jul 2026 12:06:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511802 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:33:06 +0000 HLK208 1511802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: yep - well, we just started with E at 20 months but she's up to a minute and a half. It isn't often either, maybe once a week? Twice at most. I still think she's young enough that she needs to be consoled when she throws a tantrum. Unless she hits then that's an instant timeout. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511793 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:31:21 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1511793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: same!<br /> Actually the thing we are having most trouble with at the moment is Little Boy taking ALL the toys away from his baby brother...haven't found a solution for that yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511786 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:29:03 +0000 autumnlove 1511786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Ya, LO is usually ok in public(saves the worst for us at home) but I can't keep her seated in a restaurant high chair anymore...lots of crying and standing. We don't eat out as much anymore.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511782 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:28:05 +0000 loveisstrange 1511782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: We've had better luck with timeouts in a chair! She would NOT stay when we tried on the floor, but I started putting her in my office chair and she has done much better. C's a walker too. She has started trying to stand up in shopping carts and launching herself at me so I will let her walk. :/ We are strict on the hand-holding too. If she runs off or wont hold our hand, she doesnt get to walk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511775 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:26:21 +0000 regberadaisy 1511775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: hahah love it. Super nanny style! Did you start at a minute right away? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511773 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:25:49 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1511773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: my mom did that when we were kids! 1 minute per year you are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511771 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:25:07 +0000 HLK208 1511771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do super nanny style. 1 minute per year in a timeout and then we talk it out. It's most effective for us. I also redirect my 22 month old most of the time...and sometimes use reverse psychology. DS has caught on and uses it on her too lol. Oops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511770 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:24:42 +0000 autumnlove 1511770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: UGH. :( ya, my husband says she is great as soon as she is strapped into her seat....she sings and talks to the baby. He is pretty calm during the bad morning routines but he says he is dying inside and is going to snap and scream at her soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511769 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:24:19 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1511769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: hahaha omg she is too much! Ahhh she kills me. I wouldn't have been able to not laugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511768 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:24:18 +0000 regberadaisy 1511768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: it's so weird but bedtime routine, diaper change is no problem. Diaper change the rest of the day? EPIC battle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511764 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:23:09 +0000 looch 1511764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: morning and evening routines are the absolute worst right now, I have nothing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511762 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:22:49 +0000 regberadaisy 1511762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: We don't get out much. :P But when we do she is generally good. The hardest part is usually getting her in the car seat lately. But if she is just flat out bad and beyond reasoning I just let her cry! LOL</p> <p>Mornings are pretty brutal last few weeks. She has been REFUSING diaper changes. It usually takes two these days at diaper changes. Sometimes it works better if we change for the day after breakfast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511759 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:22:26 +0000 chopsuey 1511759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went through a lot of trial and error from 18-30 months I think. Now DD listens and responds well.<br /> We count to 3. If we get to 3, time out.<br /> Haven't really had an issue while we're out in public. Nothing I can think of off the top of my head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511755 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:21:10 +0000 regberadaisy 1511755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I would say by the 3rd or 4th time she got it? At the beginning if she kept trying to move away I would sit right next to her to prevent her from moving away. The hard part is when she started to think ti was a game for a while and she would throw something and then say "I bad!" and then run to the corner and stare at the wall then turn her head around to look at me. haha I had to work really hard on not laughing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511754 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:20:52 +0000 chopsuey 1511754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: spank their booties!!!! jk :P hahah </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511752 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:20:00 +0000 autumnlove 1511752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Ok, thanks! :P </p> <p>Another question for all....how do you handle morning routines? Like defiance in the morning when you don't have time (DH has to get to work) to do a time out....removing her clothes after she is dressed, running away, etc. AHHHHHHH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511749 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:18:52 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1511749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I just try to stay calm and explain to him gently - if he is throwing a fit. I have do problem hoisting him onto my hip and just letting him cry while not acknowledging it anymore. Once he calms down then I ask him to use his words to tell me what he wants... We've been lucky to not have a full-blown tantrum in public though! Normally just he is mad/annoyed when we say no about something.</p> <p>@locavore_mama: Yup - we are hardcore on the hold my hand rule and he fought it for a long time - but when he realized it was hold my hand or don't walk, he changed his tune. We live in an apartment so our car is a lot, he has to hold our hand EVERYWHERE! ha. </p> <p>And yes - 100% agree about timeouts, and that's why we haven't done them yet. I guess I always wondered how you gave a toddler a timeout - thanks for sharing! I'll try that later... Any idea how long it took for her to start staying there? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511737 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:16:27 +0000 looch 1511737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: we have a lot of offenses in public, especially at soccer, lol.</p> <p>I remove him from the field, and we sit in a time out by the benches. You can find a place, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511726 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:14:01 +0000 autumnlove 1511726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you guys handle if the offense is in public? :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511709 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:10:13 +0000 regberadaisy 1511709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I never send M to her room for timeouts. Learned that from having a dog. hahahha Never associate a safe place with a punishment. haha Timeouts are usually in the corner of a room looking at the wall. I only reserve that for dangerous actions. The first few times she tried walking away and running back to me crying but I just bring her back and face her to the wall. Now she knows to stay until I come get her. And it's only for like maybe 45 seconds which is probably an eternity for a toddler!</p> <p>UGH. And yes. "I walk" is the cause of tantrums almost daily. She wants to walk to the car which isn't a problem in our driveway but a problem in a parking lot! or when we need to leave the house and she wants to keep walking down the street! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511706 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:08:46 +0000 looch 1511706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: on the walking everywhere, my son was like that too, so what we did was give him a baby doll stroller that he could push. It somehow kept him occupied and concentrating enough so he wouldn't run off at times when he wasn't satisfied with holding my hand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511700 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:07:11 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1511700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so lost on this as well!! I have a two year old as well and I feel like I reprimand him a lot. </p> <p>Some situations are easier to deal with - like he wants to walk everywhere! But if he doesn't listen and stay with me, he loses his privilege to walk. It makes him so mad! ha. </p> <p>I am not a fan of time outs in his room/bed because I always want him to have positive associations with his bed and bed = sleep. I don't want it to be a place of punishment. But he is too young for time outs cause he would never stay in one place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511693 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:06:23 +0000 looch 1511693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I give my son clear directions and three chances to get it right/done. If he doesn't oblige by the third attempt, it's time out. </p> <p>Works really well, at age 3. He doesn't give a crap about rewards like m&amp;ms or stickers, so charts don't work with him, wish they did though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511684 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:04:38 +0000 regberadaisy 1511684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on what it is. If she's just being plain defiant and tantrum-y I usually say no and explain why. If she continues to throw a tantrum and cry I walk away and ignore. If she's doing something dangerous I put her in timeout. If she keeps playing with the stove I smack her hand, say no and tell her why and put her in timeout. When she is putting herself in danger like thinking the stove is a toy is when I give her a smack on the hand. The other day she kept playing with the knobs on the stove when I had the burner on so I gave her a smack on the hand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-and-are-you-consistent#post-1511674 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:02:32 +0000 autumnlove 1511674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really discipline (besides trying to talk it out) right now but I think we need to step it up a notch with our two year old. </p> <p>How do you handle discipline? Please share your tips and knowledge! </p>