https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 08:52:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-for-direct-disobedience#post-2403518 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 17:38:07 +0000 MrsSRS 2403518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Do X or Mama will make you do X." Then wait a second, then calmly walk over and hand over hand make sure the task happens. So, for example, I would hold the water in his hand, put my other hand on his shoulder, walk him to the table, and set down the drink. This is working for us because LO wants to prove his independence! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-for-direct-disobedience#post-2403503 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 17:22:35 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2403503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I ignore attention-seeking behaviors, but he has to clean up the mess etc. before moving activities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-for-direct-disobedience#post-2403331 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 15:10:18 +0000 edelweiss 2403331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i try to stop him before he moves on to whatever it is that he wants to do, telling him that he needs to pick up the water first. i try to be calm, but that doesn't work all the time. and i'm also not saying that this strategy doesn't result in me chasing after him, which he thinks is awesome...yeah sometimes discipline is easier said than done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-for-direct-disobedience#post-2403317 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 14:59:29 +0000 hilsy85 2403317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends if I want to make it a hill to die on, so to speak. I generally try not to make a big deal out of stuff like that, because it's just not worth it. I just usually say something like, "I guess you're not feeling like being a helper right now" and then just do it myself, if I had asked him to pick something up, bring me something, etc. If there is an activity that he is looking forward to, and he is refusing to do something like help clean up his toys, then I will use that as a natural consequence (We can't go to the park until these toys are picked up and you need to help me.). And then as long as he makes some effort, that counts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-for-direct-disobedience#post-2403315 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 14:58:07 +0000 brownepiano 2403315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us separation has the biggest effect (because he wants to be where we are) so we say "you're not listening and obeying. You can go to your room until you are ready to obey" and carry him to his room for a few min. When we bring him back down, we immediately ask him again to do whatever it was he was refusing, and highly praise him for obeying when he does. We put the emphasis on listening and obeying, not on whatever task it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-for-direct-disobedience#post-2403271 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 14:29:38 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2403271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually say okay, I'm turning off the tv/we aren't going outside to play/whatever is supposed to be happening next until you put your water on the table. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-discipline-for-direct-disobedience#post-2403203 Tue, 29 Dec 2015 13:48:12 +0000 coopsmama 2403203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My toddler is in the throes of testing whether or not he has to obey. I feel like I have a handle on disciplining for things like hitting little sister, not eating his dinner, refusing to clean up his toys, but am SO struggling with what to do when he just outright won't obey something like "put your water on the table" and he looks at me with a smirk and throws it down and walks away or something. Just completely disregarding what I say in an effort to test my boundaries and will.</p> <p>How do you handle those scenarios where their behavior doesn't really have an effect beyond just disobeying what they were instructed to do? </p>