https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 00:05:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5210 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 12:10:08 +0000 mrsjyw 5210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have kids yet, but I don't think we will have to adjust too much.</p> <p>Both of our parents live 20 minutes away, so right now and for the past several years we have spend Thanksgiving with my extended family (who all live near us), my parents, and his parents, since his extended family does their own Tgiving.</p> <p>For Christmas, we spend Christmas Eve at home. We go to church service with his parents Christmas morning and have brunch with them. Christmas evening we spend with my parents/extended family. Christmas weekend we drive up north with his parents to spend with his extended family.</p> <p>Once kids are here, we will probably shorten our Christmas weekend so that we have more time at our home for just us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5207 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 12:06:04 +0000 mediagirl 5207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great question. My folks live 2 1/2 hrs away, his folks live 12 hours away. We have normally spent holidays with my parents because they're closer. It's not fair but at the same time, his parents don't travel often. We will probably keep it the same and if his folks want to see us over the holidays, they can come to us. I have a feeling it will just be too much work to take a baby or a young child on a 12 hour car ride (with two dogs)!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5203 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 11:57:38 +0000 MaisyMay 5203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we have to make this call, I imagine we'll do what we normally do: whichever holiday has the most time off we'll drive to L.A. The other holiday we'll either drive to Chico or stay home and have my mom come here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5197 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 11:51:17 +0000 Honeybee 5197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We stopped traveling for holidays about 3 years ago, and it was the best decision we ever made. Anyone and everyone is invited to our house for all the holidays except Christmas; that's private time just for our little family. Usually, my family comes up for Thanskgiving and sometime around New Year's. My youngest sister is coming up this year at the beginning of December, instead of the holidays. My other sisters aren't coming up at all this year. </p> <p>My in-laws don't travel to visit us, but they don't really celebrate the holidays, anyway. Last time we spent the holidays with them, we went out to eat on Thanksgiving and left early from their house at christmas because it was so depressing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5164 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 10:15:36 +0000 sandsandmore 5164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is our first holiday season with the kiddo, so we're staying home. We want to start our own traditions and figure now's the best time to do it (gives us time to figure things out before DS remembers). Also, since my son is a preemie, we're not willing to risk traveling -- so if family wants to visit, they'll have to come to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5153 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 09:51:08 +0000 mamabolt 5153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now we alternate spending Thanksgiving with one set of parents and Christmas with the other. Whoever we don't spend Christmas with we try and see shortly after. Once we have a kid we have decided we want to spend Christmas Eve and morning in our own house. Not sure if we will travel somewhere on Christmas day or keep up the alternating plans. I have a ton of extended family near my parents that we get to see if we travel to see them, but there is no one near MIL. She may end up traveling to see us more than we go to see her as a result. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5143 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 09:38:42 +0000 Adira 5143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although we don't have children yet, I suspect things won't change once we do. Currently we split the two major holidays (major for us anyway), Christmas and Thanksgiving, between my family and Hub's family, and we alternate each year. So this year we'll do Christmas morning and day at my parents, and Thanksgiving with the Hub's family. And next year we'll switch with his family getting Christmas day and my family getting Thanksgiving. UNFORTUNATELY, his parents are divorced, so it makes it a little more complicated. Generally we go to whichever parent his sister is going to, so the whole family (minus one parent) is together. Usually that means his mom kind of gets gipped, because she generally doesn't invite us beforehand and then complains about never seeing us, haha. But I just tell her she needs to make her claim early if she wants us. :P I'm such a bad daughter-in-law... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5139 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 09:27:13 +0000 hreichard 5139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my sons father &amp; I are no longer together. What we are going to do this year is I'm going to have his Christmas Eve and Christmas morning. Then Christmas evening his dad is going to take him and keep him until Tuesday when we go back to work. For Thanksgiving, i'm going to keep him Thursday, then Friday &amp; the weekend his dad will keep him. I have him everyday, so i dont mind sharing him for the weekend of the holiday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-divide-the-holidays-now-that-you-have-kids#post-5136 Wed, 19 Oct 2011 09:18:40 +0000 Mrs. Bee 5136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family lives in Los Angeles (we're in New York), and Mr. Bee's parents live abroad on a remote island so we've never really had to divide the holidays. Usually it's just our little family in New York for Thanksgiving and Christmas because it's hard for Mr. Bee's parents to come often, and my mom usually goes to Korea for Christmas.</p> <p>I dream of one day having a home big enough to host big holiday get togethers. Until then, it'll have to be me, Mr. Bee, Charlie and Olive!</p> <p>How do you divide up the holidays with both sides of the family? </p>