https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 01 Jun 2026 01:15:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1420648 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 13:44:15 +0000 Freckles 1420648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleveesmommy: Someone had posted a link to a great youtube video. It talks about how there are less injuries to babies/toddlers who are rear facing vs. <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&#038;v=sssIsceKd6U" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&#038;v=sssIsceKd6U</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1420575 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 13:28:37 +0000 littleveesmommy 1420575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get asked why I don't forward face and I always have a hard time too because I don't want to sound judgmental on why the parent asking isn't RF their child. I do it because it's what I think is best and it work, but that sounds snooty. =P I do like the using the pediatrician!</p> <p>So here's a question off on a tangent - my husband asked me "well if we get rear-ended how does rear-facing help in that situation?". I see his point but I did tell him frontal impact collisions are more common. Any other explanation? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419773 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 09:22:55 +0000 Mrsjets 1419773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, I always say because its safer - I don't mean it judgmentally, it's just the truth, so if it come off that way that's their problem ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419743 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 09:14:52 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1419743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, just a simple statement of "its safer" usually suffices. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419734 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 09:13:26 +0000 LuLu Mom 1419734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is still under 2 so I haven't gotten any grief yet, but after two I'm going to just say "she's so petite that I'm keeping her turned around awhile longer." and leaving it at that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419641 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 07:39:46 +0000 Bao 1419641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just say it's safer and don't care if it sounds judgy. I'd rather be looked at funny but have my kid safer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419634 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 07:27:01 +0000 bunnylove08 1419634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told people it's much safer and left it at that. They look at me funny but I don't care. Someone on one of the boards said better to have broken legs than to have a broken neck </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419624 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 07:18:15 +0000 MamaMoose 1419624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I'm in the camp of not caring about coming off as judgmental on this one. It IS safer and the more people who know that the better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419591 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 06:40:42 +0000 blackbird 1419591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem admitting that we won't be moving her around yet because it is significantly safer. People make weird comments because they think it's stupid or pointless but I don't care. It's just a fact at this point. I bet in 5 years, it's the law </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419590 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 06:40:23 +0000 Cherrybee 1419590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the question needs to be *why* do you explain why you keep your toddler rear facing without sounding judgmental?! It IS safer. Just say "It's safer". You never know, they might learn something!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419575 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 05:59:51 +0000 heartonastring 1419575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is only 9.5 months, but we plan to do ERF and, honestly, this is one case in which I don't feel bad about potentially coming off as "judgmental" (in quotes because I don't think it's judgmental if you're just stating fact and not saying something disparaging about what someone else is doing). </p> <p>The thing is, most people don't know about how much safer ERF is, particularly because it isn't required by law and, from what I've read, some peds will even say it's fine to switch to FF at one year. As such, I think that, if someone asks why you still RF, it's fine to explain the safety piece - in fact, it's educating them and hopefully spreading the word. I think by not explaining that and mumbling something about being paranoid you're doing a disservice.</p> <p>Sorry if I come on too strong about this, but it's something that's really important to me and it bothers me that ERF is somehow seen as strange or paranoid; I think we need to do our part to normalize it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419574 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 05:50:42 +0000 mediagirl 1419574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't talk about it. I didn't complain about my kiddo's sleep when she didn't sttn until 17 months and no one questioned me on "why don't you cio". Same thing goes for the carseat. I don't complain about the rear facing aspect because I don't want to get questions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419487 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 00:16:08 +0000 Freckles 1419487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, ladies! Using my ped is a great idea. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419462 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:49:50 +0000 pinkcupcake 1419462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm honest and just say because I've heard it's safer :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419460 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:47:57 +0000 brownie 1419460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, until 2 I say it is the recommendations (and his gastro DID make a big deal out of it until he was 2). Now I just say that he is so little (just barely the size of most 2 year olds) that it is safer for him. I also say self deprecating things like "because I am THAT crazy mom" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419450 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:39:05 +0000 Torchwood 1419450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I like that! No one in my family did extended rear facing, so I expect to get some flak. That should help me come off non-judgey. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419449 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:38:37 +0000 Weagle 1419449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: 500% safer. Even better!</p> <p>At this point I just throw out that we're doing it according to current recommendations. After two I'll just say because it's safer. I don't feel like it's judge mental if it's just stating a fact. I don't know how long after two we will rf, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419445 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:35:41 +0000 googly-eyes 1419445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the way to not sound judgmental is by pinning it on someone else: "Our pediatrician wants us to RF until ___. I'm just going along with it..." Even if they ask why and you give a stat like @matador84 mentioned, you can say the pediatrician told you that stat. It's the pediatrician who is the know-it-all-must-rear-face, not you. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419440 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:30:29 +0000 matador84 1419440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the stat is it's 400x safer if they are rf than ff at height/weight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-explain-why-you-keep-your-toddler-rear-facing#post-1419437 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 23:27:10 +0000 Freckles 1419437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...without sounding judgemental?</p> <p>I made a comment to my coworker about how it gets difficult putting LO in her car seat bc she is rear facing, and she asked, "why is she still rear facing?" I am sure she asked that since her grandson is similar in age but f-faced a long time ago. I mumbled something bc I wasn't sure if "we're a bit paranoid about safety" would come off badly? </p> <p>I honestly don't care whether people forward face as soon as possible, but I don't know how to explain my reasons without sounding like "that mom!" </p>