https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 13:32:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries/page/2#post-2264060 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 22:37:43 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2264060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL keeps Walmart wish lists for my niece and nephew. I was put off at first (years ago), but have come to appreciate them since then. For a birthday party I'd probably be annoyed or even offended--even though the list would be really helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries/page/2#post-2264046 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 21:56:26 +0000 hellocupcake 2264046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty sure that's the direction we (as a society) are headed in. I'm sure wedding registries and even baby registries were a big no-no at one point. I think it would be useful as a guest but I can't see myself doing it for LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries/page/2#post-2264038 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 21:29:43 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 2264038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kinda. I make an Amazon wish list, mostly for me to keep track of ideas, and if someone asks, I give them the link for it. People have asked too! I don't put it on invites though. It's purely an "if you ask" type thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries/page/2#post-2264016 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 20:54:54 +0000 Umbreon 2264016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought was that it was tacky. But I usually have a tough time with gifts so it actually would make my life easier. I don't know what to think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries/page/2#post-2239879 Sat, 18 Jul 2015 14:55:20 +0000 Kimberlybee 2239879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do it but I think it depends on the person hosting the party and how it's worded. I have a good friend who likes to have people RSVP via Facebook and on the page she will add a "wish list" of her kid's current interests, clothes and shoe sizes. She's a corporate event planner and her parties are always so amazingly executed. She's very organized and thoughtful too so it seems to fit her personality without being tacky. I think a "wish list" sounds better than a gift registry but they are essentially one of the same. I like the idea of giving it out when asked instead of including it in the invite though. I always include a gift receipt anyway so the host can exchange the gift if it's not something they can use. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries/page/2#post-2239633 Fri, 17 Jul 2015 19:30:38 +0000 Mamasig 2239633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's tacky too. I know someone who sets up Facebook pages for her kids birthday parties and puts on their what they are into and what size they wear. Maybe some people find it helpful but I think it's too much - like I'm being told what to buy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2239592 Fri, 17 Jul 2015 18:35:50 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2239592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't know people did this!<br /> But I agree with previous posters- it does NOT belong on an invite. It might be different if you kept a running Amazon list for your kids and passed along the link when asked (not too much different than providing a birthday list). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2239579 Fri, 17 Jul 2015 17:49:16 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 2239579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with @regberadaisy, not on an invite but I have a running wish list and can quickly glance at it and suggest a few things if someone asks. </p> <p>If I didn't want toys or only wanted something super specific, I would just say "no gifts" or donate to charity instead and then buy the couple things the child needs. I know people enjoy buying things for kids, but I feel bad dictating what they should be buying, unless of course they ask me then I'm happy to give some suggestions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232966 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 13:30:46 +0000 LulaBee 2232966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never put it on an invite, but I do have an Amazon wish list for DD's birthday next month that I hope people ask me about- all she wants are books and puzzles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232957 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 13:28:27 +0000 blackbird 2232957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: precisely! Giving it out when asked is one thing but just saying "here" unprompted is yuck </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232947 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 13:25:04 +0000 birdofafeather 2232947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: agreed and we do the same! it helps me remember stuff i see and want to look for a sale for. sometimes friends ask me what DD wants and i check the list! :) my in laws love it for gifts too. BUT i would NEVER put it on an invite!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232886 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 12:54:11 +0000 Boogs 2232886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting to see all the responses. I think what maybe puts me off is seeing it on an invite. While it can be helpful if you don't know what to buy, I guess I would prefer to ask. On the other hand, I know what it's like to get things you don't want or need and the hassle of trying to return or exchange. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232620 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 08:59:07 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2232620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I agree with you. I see no different between a shower as a celebration of life, and a birthday as a celebration of life. At both events, gifts ARE expected, to be honest. Unless the host specifically mentions no gifts.<br /> It's also really the only times (Christmas and birthdays), that my son gets gifts. I may buy him clothes throughout the year as he needs them but when it comes to toys and things he wants, he has to wait until Christmas and his birthday. So I do see it as an expectation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232575 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 08:37:54 +0000 WinterBee 2232575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: Hmmm... I didn't know birthday registries were a thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232573 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 08:37:51 +0000 Alivoo01 2232573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never done it with my child, but I've attended a few parties that the invite did include the registry info. I never know what to buy the kid or what they're into currently so the registry is helpful, especially for slightly older kids (ages 5+). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232553 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 08:29:55 +0000 yin 2232553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have an Amazon wish list for my kids, and I'll send the link to anyone who asks for a wish list. I would never put it on an invitation. Too gift grabby.</p> <p>I did received an invitation where the parents asked specifically not to buy gifts with characters on it and a few other details. It rubbed me the wrong way because of the mention of gifts. Parties should be about celebrating. While I will always get a gift for the birthday boy/girl, I don't like it to be an expectation as a guest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232524 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 08:11:52 +0000 mrsjyw 2232524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tacky on an invite!</p> <p>I don't mind being sent a link when I ask for gift ideas to the party host! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232503 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 07:56:52 +0000 LuLu Mom 2232503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a little tacky. If someone asks me for ideas I give them, I also have an Amazon list (mostly for me for gift ideas throughout the year) but giving it on an invite just seems wrong to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232484 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 07:50:18 +0000 Mama Bird 2232484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very curious to see everyone's opinion! DH suggested this for DS's next birthday, because we're drowning in toys and just can't deal with any more stuff in the house. So he thinks it would be good to suggest to people what DS actually needs (mostly winter clothes). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232468 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 07:33:12 +0000 looch 2232468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: Right, so isnt' the shower the celebration of a woman becoming a mother and the new life? A lot of people think that parents are the ones that are supposed to provide what the kids need, no one else. </p> <p>A registry is a registry, regardless of the party. I don't think ill of anyone that puts one together. Does it mean I will honor it? No. But it makes my life easier.</p> <p>And I believe registries were begun by department stores, so really, their goal was to sell stuff. I am sure people were put off by them when they were introduced, but over time, it became the norm. Worked well, I think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232466 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 07:31:54 +0000 Maysprout 2232466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on the fence. I think including it in the invite puts too much pressure. But I do like the idea of a list somewhere to use for reference. I might let my daughter pick out a gift for her friend but usually I just want to quickly pick out a gift and I'd prefer that they actually like it. But I don't feel like contemplating the interests and pick out a thoughtful gift every time there's a birthday party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232436 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 06:58:39 +0000 Bubbles 2232436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I think that's pretty tacky, but I am English and here registries are only ever seen at weddings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232429 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 06:43:36 +0000 travellingbee 2232429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: my thinking is that a shower is specifically designed to buy the couple things they need. A registry keeps that organized. A birthday party is not supposed to be about the gifts. It's supposed to be a celebration.</p> <p>I don't care if others do it per se, but I'd never. I think it's very... Entitled. I'm inviting you to my party to celebrate and I'm going to tell you what gift to give me. Very impersonal and you might as well do cash or a gift card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232424 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 06:35:46 +0000 looch 2232424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind it at all. I am a busy person, I don't have a ton of time to browse around and come up with the perfect gift for a kid's birthday.</p> <p>How is this any different than a baby or bridal shower? Are you all telling me that no one includes registry information with the invitiation? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232389 Fri, 10 Jul 2015 04:33:33 +0000 lamariniere 2232389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on the fence. On the one hand, I would never set one up for my own LOs. On the other, I am awful at finding gift ideas because I really like to give people something they want or will appreciate, so as a gift giver, I would love to see this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232316 Thu, 09 Jul 2015 22:55:16 +0000 mrscobee 2232316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Super tacky!!!! The nerve! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232286 Thu, 09 Jul 2015 22:14:14 +0000 DillonLion 2232286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tacky!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232276 Thu, 09 Jul 2015 22:08:40 +0000 shopaholic 2232276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Never seen one on an invite. That's tacky IMO. I do have a running wish list on Amazon that I'll give the link to if someone asks. I also usually ask the parent what they need/want if I need a gift idea and love Amazon wish lists. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232242 Thu, 09 Jul 2015 21:28:54 +0000 Smurfette 2232242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tacky!!! It is one thing to have a wish list and passing on ideas if people ask. But I would never put on an invitation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-birthday-registries#post-2232238 Thu, 09 Jul 2015 21:21:54 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2232238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tacky. It's one thing if you have an Amazon wish list with a moderate amount of items at varying price points (bonus points if it includes books or other educational items) and you give it to close family or friends who request ideas. A birthday registry at Toys R Us? No thanks. </p>