https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 23:50:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy/page/2#post-1874880 Tue, 23 Sep 2014 17:54:35 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1874880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I missed this post earlier... It's a beautiful short movie about a family who is using a gestational surrogate. :heart: </p> <p><a href="http://www.desmoinesregister.com/videos/news/local/kyle-munson/2014/08/13/14036097/" rel="nofollow">http://www.desmoinesregister.com/videos/news/local/kyle-munson/2014/08/13/14036097/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy/page/2#post-1863858 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 23:08:09 +0000 SweetMamaM 1863858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend and her husband have male/female factors and she has miscarried twice. I think about how cool it would be to help them out but I'm not a very good preggo - thus only (probably) doing it once more for ourselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy/page/2#post-1863806 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 21:24:15 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1863806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sunshine1810: That's very true. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy/page/2#post-1862986 Mon, 15 Sep 2014 11:38:17 +0000 Sunshine1810 1862986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If money wasn't a concern, I would absolutely consider a surrogate. After our first IVF cycle failed, DH and I started talking more about what we would do if IVF doesn't work for us, and I think we are leaning more towards adoption. I would be too worried about spending all that money and not having it work with a surrogate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy/page/2#post-1860527 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 13:54:47 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1860527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we could ever afford it personally but I think it's such a wonderful option and allows many who would never otherwise be able to have a child that opportunity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy/page/2#post-1860441 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 13:03:31 +0000 BSB 1860441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy/page/2#post-1859823 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 08:46:25 +0000 catomd00 1859823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to say I would only consider this for a sister or very close family member/friend. But, now that I have had my own baby, I would be incredibly blessed to be able to give that gift to someone else, even a stranger. I will definitely consider it once our own family is complete. </p> <p>My daughter's daycare teacher informed me she most likely will not be able to have children of her own. She's so awesome with children and I would absolutely offer to do it for her when the time comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859805 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 08:39:54 +0000 Caly 1859805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Had IVF not worked for us, surrogacy is something we would have considered as a next step. We have friends who had their twins via gestational surrogate; she had cancer and was unable to carry a child. Another friend was a surrogate for a friend of hers and carried twins. She has said she would consider doing it again. As much as I hated being pregnant, my sister is someone I would consider being a surrogate for if the need arose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859755 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 08:20:39 +0000 PurplePumps 1859755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as we want a bio child, I also want to experience the pregnancy and be there from the VERY start so to speak. If IVF does not work for us, I think we would remain child free. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859746 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 08:16:59 +0000 lamariniere 1859746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: their story is amazing, everything went as well as anyone could ever hope for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859745 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 08:15:50 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: ooh, I had no idea! I will look for that! Thanks! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859741 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 08:14:51 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: It's amazing to me how much time and experience change my opinions of things!</p> <p>@Mrs Green Grass: Good luck to your friend! :goodluck: </p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: I haven't a clue how much it actually costs. :bummed: I did find some kind of resource online that estimated around $60K, using your own embryos...but I admittedly know very little about this.</p> <p>@marionberry: It is pretty much the sweetest thing ever...and potentially the hardest thing a person could do (pregnancy + childbirth + handing over another couple's baby)... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859724 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 08:08:13 +0000 lamariniere 1859724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is something I would consider, being a surrogate, if my brother and his wife were dealing with IF. But I wouldn't be able to do it for anyone else. I think I would be too attached emotionally. That said, for the families and surrogates who make it work, it is one of the most incredible gifts you could give someone and such an amazing miracle for that family. I really loved following Mrs. Seaotter's surrogacy journey on the blog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859636 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 07:14:07 +0000 marionberry 1859636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a great idea. We likely couldn't have afforded it but luckily it never came to that. I think I would become too emotionally connected to the baby to do it myself but I applaud those who do. What a great gift! When we were struggling with IF my sister said she'd carry a baby for me if I ever needed it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859490 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 01:43:04 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1859490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I could ever afford it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859409 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:52:30 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1859409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is awesome and I would totally do it (I.e. Use one) if necessary.</p> <p>I actually have a friend who is currently looking if anyone is interested. She has one LO but he was born super early and her doctors said she cannot carry another baby. She already has frozen embryos. Message me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859405 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:49:26 +0000 tequiero21 1859405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On another post, I said if ivf failed, I would have gone adoption. But having three kids of my own (I really thought we wouldn't have one), I think I would definitely consider surrogacy. Don't think my hubby would, I don't know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859396 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:40:09 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: @meganmp: Definitely an amazing gift! :heart: I'm glad that there are folks out there that make this not exclusively the realm of the extraordinarily wealthy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859379 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:29:51 +0000 meganmp 1859379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to do it, actually! I liked being pregnant, and I would love to help someone get the family member they deserve. I know what IF feels like, and I want to help. I'd do it for free, too (just medical and legal expenses). Sort of a pay it forward type thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859372 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:26:20 +0000 daniellemybelle 1859372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably adopt before using a surrogate. But I have actually thought I might want to be a surrogate one day! That seems like such an amazing gift to give. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859354 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:15:37 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: @Mrs. Bee: I'm glad you two are in agreement! :wink: </p> <p>@Espion: @brownie: That's extremely generous of you both! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859336 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:03:34 +0000 brownie 1859336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely on both fronts. I want to be a gestational surrogate (no biological connection) as soon as my family is complete. I know how hard infertility can be and would love to help another family make their family complete. My first pregnancy was super easy and this one isn't too bad so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859328 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:59:25 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1859328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no doubt i would have considered it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859237 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:20:45 +0000 Espion 1859237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my sister couldn't get pregnant, I'd absolutely do this for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859234 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:19:53 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: It was actually a complete reversal on my part, because I didn't think I'd ever pursue ART. But then, of course, I didn't need it...at first. Thanks for understanding! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859221 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:15:05 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Yeah...it may be that it's prohibitively expensive. If that's the case, and we're to to that point, we would probably go straight to adoption. (DH is uncomfortable with embryo adoption, donor gametes, etc...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859213 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:11:50 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1859213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: hey, I totally know how you feel. I got really lucky to catch a sticky egg for the first kid. After that, we were so thrilled to adopt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859188 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 20:57:31 +0000 BSB 1859188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now, I still think it's possible for me to get pregnant through IVF. If IVF doesn't work, then I would really have to have a difficult talk about using our eggs and sperm to have a child. </p> <p>I think my next step would be embryo adoption. </p> <p>Before my IUIs and now IVF, surrogacy wasn't something I thought about. I think it's even more expensive than IVF and adoption because you have to have the funds to pay for medical insurance &amp; bills for someone not related to you. Also, pay her an income to be a surrogate. Then add on the pain of seeing her get pregnant and you can't. Oh, and let's say I ask one of my sisters be a surrogate, I wouldn't want any strings attached. Would want them to dangle it over my head and cause drama. So which is why if I had to resort to surrogacy, I would pick an unrelated surrogate.</p> <p>ETA: As you can tell, I really want to be pregnant, at least, once. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859171 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 20:47:48 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1859171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lazypanda: That is an insane amount of money. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-gestational-surrogacy#post-1859162 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 20:44:24 +0000 lazypanda 1859162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: I think my aunt had told me that it cost my cousin 100-150k to have her son through a gestational carrier. Because of that, their son is an only child. :bummed: </p>