https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 09:26:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals/page/2#post-2592454 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 19:45:21 +0000 avivoca 2592454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been to one. It was after four years of marriage and that was when I was in high school, so now they have been together for over 15 years. </p> <p>I would like to have one for our 10th anniversary next year, but it would be private. We wanted to get married in our college town but my parents said no and we got married in my hometown. So it would be awesome to renew our vows in our college town and also take nice pictures in the style that I wanted but didn't get the first time (we were young and poor). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals/page/2#post-2592449 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 19:43:06 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2592449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My wedding was a disaster. We were young and poor and so we had to deal with a lot of family expectations and it was just very difficult. I love my marriage and loved my honeymoon but my wedding triggers a lot of negativity for me. So I would do a vow renewal for myself to mimic the elopement we always wanted! My dream is to have an elopement in Gretna Green Scotland since it is the place where floozies run off for quickie weddings in Jane Austen novels. My husband wants to do Scotland for our 10th (he wants to go to the British Open) so I'm hoping we can make it happen. Right now we have two years to save up!</p> <p>ETA:. I wouldn't invite anyone else obvs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals/page/2#post-2592442 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 19:28:58 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2592442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anniversary parties are OK but vote renewals seem attention grabby.<br /> I definitely assume a marriage is on the rocks if there's a vow renewal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592438 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 19:27:01 +0000 JCCovi 2592438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd like to do one for our 10th or 15th. While I'm still young enough to wear a long flowy white dress. I imagine doing it on a cliff in Mexico with just an officiant and us. </p> <p>I love parties though and I'd like to throw a huge one for some milestone anniversary. Probably couldn't justify it until 25 though. I can see myself spending a small wedding budget, but not doing vows or a ceremony. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592417 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 19:08:38 +0000 Mrsbells 2592417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Finfan: lol i know many people in real life who have done a wedding style vow renewal after 10, 15 or 15 years and none of them are divorced. I think it depends on what is the norm in your social circles. Like I said in my previous post many of them didnt have a wedding the first time around. they did a court marriage intially then a big wedding style renewal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592415 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 19:06:06 +0000 Mrsbells 2592415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like vow renewals after 10 years or more. I think its more appropriate for people who initially didnt have a big wedding and probably just did a courthouse ceremony. I think if you did have a big wedding then maybe wait til your 25th wedding anniversary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592327 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 16:34:15 +0000 Alba4 2592327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My older cousin did one in HI. I wasn't invited nor would I have gone.</p> <p>I doubt we'll do one. We plan on taking a really nice trip to celebrate our 10th or 15th anniversary. I had a very large wedding and I have no interest in planning a party like that ever again! Lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592315 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 16:18:32 +0000 erinpye 2592315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Finfan: that's kind of been my take on it. Granted I have never been to one, I've just noticed celebrities do them, before a divorce. But celebrities are already prone to divorce anyway it seems. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592291 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 15:38:06 +0000 Finfan 2592291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone I know who did a vow renewal (wedding style) got divorced within a few years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592269 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 15:15:38 +0000 looch 2592269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Technically, my wedding was a vow renewal as we'd already been married about 6 months prior (long story, work permits, etc). But I would never want to do another one ever again, unless it was just for my husband and I. The whole process was time consuming and stressful and I have no desire to deal with any kind of large scale party again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592255 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 15:02:00 +0000 MrsRoo 2592255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: "I've always thought it was a way for a couple to have the wedding they could not have for whatever reason." Yep, this! </p> <p>We've talked about having a renewal around 10 yrs as a destination thing with maybe just the kids. Probably just the two of us. We had planned a destination wedding to Mexico and a hurricane hit the day before we flew out, canceling the wedding. Our families took that as an opportunity to tell us how the really felt about flying to Mexico for our wedding, so we ending up have a "regular" wedding in DHs hometown. An intimate, destination vow renewal would be like finally having the wedding we wanted. </p> <p>I've always just assumed that vow renewals were intimate and personal. I've never been to one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592237 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 14:47:39 +0000 youboots 2592237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: we are hiring a wedding photographer I love to shoot family photos this fall and are getting dressed up for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592209 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 14:29:57 +0000 lovehoneybee 2592209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the idea, but it would be something very small (like...just the two of us at Niagara Falls, or in Vegas). Just for the two of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592168 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 13:59:58 +0000 rachiecakes 2592168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've actually been thinking of this a bit. </p> <p>We've been together 16+ years, married for 5. We had an unusual wedding. I'd want to do something just the two of us and our son. Maybe for our 10th wedding anniversary, where we've been together over 20 years? I'm thinking a special vacation and have some nice photos taken.<br /> We're kind of the black sheep couple of the family and yet have outlasted quite a few relationships/marriages among our friends and family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592136 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 13:44:13 +0000 ShootingStar 2592136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's weird to throw yourself another wedding, even if it's been 25 years. However, I would totally consider a ceremony with just DH and I at 10+ years if we were on a tropical vacation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592129 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 13:41:23 +0000 PawPrints 2592129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others, I assume it means they had a rocky patch and got through it. They strike me as a little odd/silly, but I suppose if people do one once they've been married 25+ years then it seems sweet. I'm definitely in the camp that you should do what you want, though. Whatever makes you happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592101 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 13:23:29 +0000 nana87 2592101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not going to lie, I think the idea of a vow renewal ceremony is kind of cheesy and over the top or attention grabby. I've never been to one, so my only reference point is something like when kris and Bruce Jenner renewed their vows on kuwtk</p> <p>Now, an anniversary party or big trip is a totally different thing to me, and my family has definitely done those! Both sets of my grandparents had large 50th anniversary parties, and my parents have mentioned wanting to take my brother/sil/nieces and me/dh/lo on a big trip for an anniversary sometime soon though it's difficult to plan! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592005 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 11:49:36 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2592005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been invited to one, but know people that do a big trip/second honeymoon type thing for their big anniversaries. I think that is more my style. </p> <p>Next summer I turn 35, and it is our 10 year anniversary... and we will hopefully be moving into a new home all in the same month. So we have talked about hosting a big party in the new house to celebrate everything. (By 'big party', I mean we will likely send an email to our friends, rent a margarita machine, and pay for catering....no band, no fancy dress, no formal invitations) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2592003 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 11:48:09 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2592003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do a really small informal one. Like...just me, DH, and our boys. Something to show them that we still love each other as much as the day we originally said them. But having a second wedding vow renewal doesn't sit right with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591991 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 11:30:22 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2591991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: to me that's the difference vow renewal = aisle ceremony w/ officiant &amp; party; anniversary party = party w/ toasts &amp; slideshow only. Either way the couple and guests are likely getting all dolled up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591979 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 11:19:44 +0000 youboots 2591979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: the topic came up with a friend recently and that's what he said, which I thought was a funny response so I included it.@Mrs D: I've always thought it was a way for a couple to have the wedding they could not have for whatever reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591976 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 11:17:46 +0000 Mrs D 2591976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm shocked at the number of people that think it infers some sort of rocky marriage re-connecting ("who cheated")...</p> <p>Not sure its in the cards for us...just not sure...though I would love to buy another dress and do something outside - something I was not allowed to do with my traditional catholic ceremony. </p> <p>That said I would happily attend one and would not assume anything about one... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591969 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 11:10:34 +0000 youboots 2591969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was thinking vow renewal like a second wedding. Doing small informal ones sound really sweet.</p> <p>Is the difference between a vow renewal and anniversary part that you don't do a ceremony? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591965 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 11:07:08 +0000 pwnstar 2591965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: I would LOVE a second honeymoon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591961 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 10:58:29 +0000 littlebug 2591961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're going to do a little thing when we take our 10year trip to Hawaii. It'll just be the 2 of us. We'll probably even just kind of read our vows to each other, not even have an officiant. No ceremony, no fancy dress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591954 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 10:52:13 +0000 Rocker2014 2591954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws just had one for their 50th anniversary, and it was beautiful. Their children/grandchildren hosted it for them, so it was more of a celebration of family than something just about them. </p> <p>I would consider doing one for a major anniversary in the future, like 25 years or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591951 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 10:47:04 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2591951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think an actual vow renewal ceremony is very romantic and intimate. I could see doing this on vacation just the two of us or with our kid(s), but not with an audience almost like a wedding.</p> <p>Before kids I wanted a 10 year anniversary party, but now that seems really wasteful while we are still raising kids and have big expenses like tuition. I'd rather go on a great vacation to celebrate that milestone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591950 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 10:46:46 +0000 Corduroy 2591950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The way I read the question I take vow renewal to mean a wedding-like ceremony. I would reserve that for 25+ years or some sort of significant hardship. To each his own though. </p> <p>Growing up, at church every year couples renewed their vows en masse, just standing in the pew. No guests or money involved, just the vows to each other. I really liked watching my parents do that. The idea that they were working on their marriage regularly and committing to each other again seemed really powerful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591940 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 10:36:21 +0000 JerricaBenton 2591940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To each their own. I don't really understand doing it instead of an anniversary party unless it's a new chapter of some sort. Like after a separation or if a couple never got to have a wedding celebration the first time around. I still think personally I'd opt for a great anniversary party but whatever works. I guess I would think it was odd to be invited to one if the couple hadn't been married very long and didn't have a situation where there was a clear reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-feel-about-vow-renewals#post-2591935 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 10:29:57 +0000 petunia354 2591935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To each their own. We won't be doing a vow renewal. We made our vows and although we still feel as strongly about them as we did on our wedding day we don't feel the need to renew them or pledge them to each other again. </p> <p>I'm definitely more in the camp of anniversary party. </p>