Hellobee Boards Topic: How do you get your child to accept being told no?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How do you get your child to accept being told no? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 04:32:05 +0000 mediagirl on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2484003 Fri, 04 Mar 2016 04:25:01 +0000 mediagirl 2484003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We try to be consistent with her and dont give in. I use the term asked and answered a lot. I know there are times when my husband will say, "well what if she does x" and I know that isn't helping. More often than not we aren't saying just no. We are saying, "honey, it hurts when you hit me so I need you to stop." Cue freak out. I'm hoping we are just in a bad patch right now and it will get easier. Maysprout on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483532 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 15:32:11 +0000 Maysprout 2483532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My kids can ask why and even make a case for why they want a yes. But after that there's no more whining or persistent asking. When it becomes a problem I usually have to resort to a time out or keep away the item their asking about for longer. For mine ignoring it just makes there be more whining later. 2littlepumpkins on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483480 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 15:10:42 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2483480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't like that five phrases article but I do agree with the idea of being consistent. I do acknowledge LO's feelings though. I do have conversations with her. I just still follow through. MamaG on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483324 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 14:19:29 +0000 MamaG 2483324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO is 4.5 but I often use something like "asked and answered". I will say, I heard you, answered your question and because you don't like my answer doesn't mean if you keep asking I will change. Electronics were such a struggle for us on this topic. We had to just eliminate. She's gone months now with very little electronic entertainment. The first week or so was hard on us, but now it's just no big deal. BananaPancakes on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483280 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 14:06:18 +0000 BananaPancakes 2483280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @pregnantbee: We do "asked and answered!" Probably because I was raised on it, and I'm the one around DS the most. The 3's have tested my limits, but as long as I'm firm, he usually gets it quickly. Freckles on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483215 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:41:23 +0000 Freckles 2483215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ At this age, it's more effective to use words other than "no." I find that a blunt "no" gets her to escalate quickly. I also find that the more detached and nonchalant I am with her reactions makes things easier too. pregnantbee on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483205 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 13:37:58 +0000 pregnantbee 2483205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I saw this posted...maybe on FB a month or 2 ago and thought it could be really helpful: <a href="http://www.yourtango.com/2015278597/5-phrases-that-will-instantly-make-your-kids-stop-begging" rel="nofollow">http://www.yourtango.com/2015278597/5-phrases-that-will-instantly-make-your-kids-stop-begging</a> NovBaby1112 on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483066 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:46:33 +0000 NovBaby1112 2483066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've learned that if I want my LO to accept/ listen, I need to follow through with what I mean. If I say "no, you cant have another cookie" and she tantrums or flips out, I need to just stick to my guns no matter how much she flips. usually after 5 minutes or so, she will move on to something else. Now, if I am trying to get her to do something, like get dressed or brush her teeth, I use motivation- if you want to go to park you need to put on clothes, lets get dressed so we can go play!, and sometimes I make up random stories if I want her to do something lol- "I talked to your dentist today, he said you need to let mommy brush your teeth really good so you don't get a cavity. when mommy was a little girl she had a big cavity and it hurt so bad!" and I usually tell the story to distract her while I am having her do the activity she doesn't want to do JoyfulKiwi on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483062 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:45:55 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2483062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We do our best impersonation of a broken record :silly: Here is a conversation we have like Every Single Day-- Us: No, you can't play iPad games. Him: But I LIKE iPad games Us: I know, they're so much fun! But you can't play iPad games right now. Him: (some other reason/argument) Us: "Hmm, interesting. You can't play iPad right now. Do you want to do X or Z?" Him: NOOOOOO! Us: Okay, come find us when you figure out something else to do. It used to lead to a big tantrum, but he's starting to understand that he can't change our minds about whatever it is and follows directions easier now that we've been doing it for a while. It also makes us chuckle when he's not looking because he comes up with the most offended faces when we don't accept his reasons! tinyperson on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483046 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:38:38 +0000 tinyperson 2483046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have the same issue. "No, you can't watch a show" gets "but I like [name of show here]." "I know you like it, but we're not going to watch it right now." "But I like it" -- then cue meltdown. She was 3 in December, so it's definitely the age. I just repeat and ignore the reaction and carry on with whatever I'm doing. Distraction sometimes works. "No we aren't going to watch that right now, but maybe you'd like to come and help me with X in the kitchen." Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. mediagirl on "How do you get your child to accept being told no?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-get-your-child-to-accept-being-told-no#post-2483035 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 12:33:22 +0000 mediagirl 2483035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ On that same note, how do you get them to accept that sometimes they are going to be asked to do things they don't want to do - and they need to cooperate? 3.5 has been really, really tough on us. The biggest problem is our headstrong 3.5 year old flips out if you tell her no or make her do something she doesn't want to do. How do you help them with this?