https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 06:10:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-708728 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 16:13:38 +0000 Honeybee 708728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycrz: Ohhhh! Little cutie! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-708024 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 13:19:27 +0000 SugarplumsMom 708024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycrz: I love that picture! I've just started noticing how fast they really grow. It's funny, but I'd noticed through YHL's Clara. She looks like a teenager and she's barely turning 3! Adventures to look forward to with DD! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-707993 Thu, 11 Apr 2013 13:06:53 +0000 babycrz 707993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This picture really puts into perspective how fast they grow. It's a photo of WT the past 3 years at our town Easter egg hunt. Baby... Baby... Pre-Teen!! ;)</p> <p>CC just figured out forward movement this morning! Ah! It's part army crawl, part scootch, part flop, part crawling on all 4's. The moral is she can quickly get to whatever of her brother's toys she wants!! Ruh Roh. WT did well this morning but I see MANY MANY battles in the coming weeks. </p> [attach=75/13/ml3rnj.600x267.Warren123Easter.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-702419 Tue, 09 Apr 2013 13:00:47 +0000 Honeybee 702419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycrz: W sounds like he is always on the go, hahahaha! I can't believe how grown up our babies are. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-702395 Tue, 09 Apr 2013 12:55:35 +0000 babycrz 702395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been really lucky with things like tantrums. He doesn't really have them (knock on wood!). He has meltdowns when he doesn't get something he wants... but not really tantrums. And he's pretty easily redirected.</p> <p>Now getting him to listen when I want him to, or not drive me insane by touching everything he should not touch while I'm making dinner, or getting into his pajamas when I'm at the end of my rope at bedtime.... I haven't mastered these situations. I probably should finish that positive discipline book and spend some more time on that... but who has time. I'm a little scared about the 3's for sure!</p> <p>He's a boy.. and he's ALL boy.. as in he'll hit (really just swinging and touching not 'punching') random people as we walk through a restaurant.... he needs to KICK EVERY whatever as we walk down the street... he doesn't walk or run... he JUMPS everywhere. But it's not defiant behavior... the energy spews from him. A common phase is - "thank god he's cute".</p> <p>As they get older... many things get easier... but then you get NEW difficult things :)</p> <p>Honestly - I predict CC will be our stubborn head-butting difficult child... so WT feels like a breeze as I brace myself for 18 years with her ;) haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-702248 Tue, 09 Apr 2013 12:11:59 +0000 Honeybee 702248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycrz: lol! Luckily the first one toughens the second one up! Has W started the terrible threes yet? DD just started and let me tell you, everything just got so much harder in the last month! I feel like DS actually got a lot better as he turned 1, but now DD is in a really tough spot. If it's not one, it's the other, right? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-702214 Tue, 09 Apr 2013 12:02:42 +0000 babycrz 702214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just love to figure out how to get WT to stop being so rough with CC. He loves her. But he just has SO MUCH ENERGY. Luckily she's not breakable but he is all boy which means often throwing, kicking, jumping etc. In close proximity to her. Ahhh. Soon she'll be able to defend herself better :)</p> <p>As for conflict...she's clueless right now that she's causing it but if she gets something he doens't want her to have... I TRY to have him get her one of her toys and offer it in exchange. Similar to when he has friends over... he HAS to share some toys... but doesn't need to share them ALL.</p> <p>He's not only rough with her.... he's been know to make older kids (like 4 times his age) cry as well by hitting them with toys.</p> <p>I always tell my mom... he's really sweet and cute... except for when he's NOT! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-550256 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:17:57 +0000 Honeybee 550256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Lol, videos are a great weapon! </p> <p>I think girls are so much more independent than boys! At least in my family and with some of our friends, the girls seem to be more independent from an earlier age while the boys demand a little more attention. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-550220 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:04:11 +0000 mrbee 550220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Olive is crazy independent! She's mostly drawn to Charlie when he builds things with blocks and she wants to knock them down... she's less into knocking things down now, so they are having less conflict lately.</p> <p>When they do conflict, I've had a lot of luck with having them both sit in my lap and reading to them. Or I will hold them both in my arms and dance with them to music (they cab get heavy though!).</p> <p>I find that if we all do things together, then that seems to satiate her desire to be near him for a while. If all else fails, I distract her with a video of Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star that she loves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-550192 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 10:53:10 +0000 Honeybee 550192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: DD will go play in her room by herself but then DS cries because he wants to be in there, too. Or DD will sit up at the table, but DS will cry and pull on her pants legs because he wants to be up there with her. Olive doesn't mind playing apart from Charlie? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-550176 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 10:47:58 +0000 mrbee 550176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When the kids conflict, I will ask Charlie to work on his puzzles or building on the dinner table. Olive can't get up there too easily yet, and so she usually wanders off and does something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-fighting-between-your-toddler-and-older-infant#post-550159 Tue, 05 Feb 2013 10:39:56 +0000 Honeybee 550159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 2.5 and DS is 10 months. Although they generally play pretty well together, DS wants to be everywhere his sister is, doing the exact same thing. Often I can give them both the same work to do (we have enough puzzles, books, blocks, etc... to share) but sometimes DD gets upset if DS is too intrusive. Right now, I encourage DD to use her words and tell DS when she doesn't want him to play with her instead of pusbhing/kicking/hitting. If she uses her words, I pick DS up and move him to another activity. I also encourage her to help him find something to play with if she doesn't want to share.</p> <p>I really don't know if this approach is working, lol. I think I spend most of the day navigating between the two of them. How do you handle these situations? </p>