https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 23:11:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-needy-behavior#post-2913687 Thu, 09 Apr 2020 20:55:37 +0000 newlypregnantlady 2913687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My youngest daughter is almost 3 and still like this. At that age what I'd do is strap her into a stroller and go for LONG walks around the neighborhood (like 3-5 miles). It would put my older daughter to sleep but my youngest still felt stimulated by everything she was seeing. It really helped ME deal with her because she'd be calm and I could get out and just walk wherever. </p> <p>I'm actually still unable to sit near her without her sitting on me. Is he standing? I have one of those "kitchen helpers" and I'd put her next to me in the kitchen so she could watch me cook, and she was SUPER young (definitely not walking). Maybe a high chair would work? If she was raised up and near me she was okay with being close instead of on me. But I definitely ran all errands and did many chores with her strapped to my back.</p> <p>I've just had to embrace having a sensitive needy kid because she absolutely needs WAY more physical touch than I was prepared for. She is able to articulate it now though: she'll be playing and stop and then come up to me and say "I need some mama-love, can we snuggle?". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-needy-behavior#post-2913681 Thu, 09 Apr 2020 20:07:22 +0000 Madison43 2913681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby carrier for sure. Take the path of least resistance for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-needy-behavior#post-2913680 Thu, 09 Apr 2020 20:00:43 +0000 MrsSRS 2913680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another vote for strap him to your back! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-needy-behavior#post-2913614 Wed, 08 Apr 2020 16:27:16 +0000 foodiebee 2913614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh these are great suggestions, ladies! Thank you! I was actually wondering about leaning in vs. pulling away and what approach was best, so this is tracking with how I was feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-needy-behavior#post-2913609 Wed, 08 Apr 2020 15:57:21 +0000 peaches1038 2913609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, I agree with the pp. I’d just put him in a carrier. If there’s something you can’t or don’t want to do with him in a carrier, then put him in a safe place where he can still see you and let him know you hear him when he’s crying and reassure him that you’ll be right back. I particularly enjoy Janet Lansbury’s perspective on most parenting queries so this might be helpful for you: <a href="https://www.janetlansbury.com/2012/04/calming-your-clingy-child/" rel="nofollow">https://www.janetlansbury.com/2012/04/calming-your-clingy-child/</a></p> <p>You’re doing a great job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-needy-behavior#post-2913608 Wed, 08 Apr 2020 15:51:22 +0000 Kemma 2913608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At this age his wants and needs are the same thing and he may just need the extra closeness to help him get through the change in routine and the increased anxiety that we’re all feeling. If you have a carrier then I would recommend just throwing him up on your back so he can be close to you but you still have your hands free to cook or do housework etc (I legit still do this with my 5yo when he’s starting to lose it!). You could also set up some new activities to try that might hold his interest so you can still do your thing (Zaziplays is a great IG account run by a speech therapist and she shows lots of cool activities for babies).</p> <p>Also, in my experience often the more you try to separate yourself from baby the harder they cling so sometimes the quickest way to independence is to lean in to it which often gives them the security to detach from you.</p> <p>Hang in there, you’re doing a great job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-needy-behavior#post-2913597 Wed, 08 Apr 2020 14:41:00 +0000 foodiebee 2913597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our 10 month old son is very social. He loves to go to daycare and be around the other children of all ages, especially kids in the class above him, who he loves to watch and learn from. He's very curious and *always* on the move and learning and exploring. So, quarantining is starting to get hard. </p> <p>We have a lot going on at the same time right now: ear infections (he needs tubes but can't get seen right now with everything going on), a developmental leap, separation anxiety, teething, and quarantining with only DH and me. DS has been struggling with wanting to be ON us at all times. If we put him down, he loses it. If we sit on the floor to be closer to him and play, he'll climb on us (or at least he would if we let him. He can sit in our laps but he can't use us as a jungle gym!). Yesterday he dropped something he was holding a few inches away and totally lost it, just sobbing. So, there are a lot of emotions in the house right now! </p> <p>Some days it feels like we can't be away from him even inches without him starting to fuss and cry. If I successfully distract him, he'll grin and be interested in the new thing until he figures it out, then it's back to fussing. I want to support him emotionally without coddling him, you know? I guess I'm looking to hear from you other experienced mamas about how you'd handle and interpret these big emotions he has right now. :heart: </p>