https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 12:08:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431528 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:47:26 +0000 Rocker2014 2431528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You too?? We call this boneless baby girl :silly: </p> <p>LO is 15 months, and started this around 12-13 months too. It always seems to be a response to an overwhelming feeling - often being told "no" and not understanding why - or sometimes hangry!.</p> <p>I will briefly try to pick her up, but if that's not working I'll put her somewhere soft (carpet, her alphabet floor pad) and offer sensory input to help her calm down. Sometimes I'll put on music, offer a drink/food, offer a toy that lights up or vibrates, give her something soft to touch (or bang on the floor!) and talk to her in a soothing voice about how hard it is to feel overwhelmed. </p> <p>She usually can chill out in a few minutes and be ready to reengage in the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431481 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:28:33 +0000 Boogs 2431481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally ignore it and let them work it out. As long as they aren't going to hurt themselves, they are fine and eventually get over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431480 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:28:30 +0000 bees_knees 2431480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>+1 on "No Bad Kids" and empathizing. It seems so crazy but it really actually works! Janet Lansbury's blog is a great resource to get started. Hang in there, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431477 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:25:49 +0000 pmrlady 2431477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for the advice! It's good to know this is common. I will definitely try ignoring/redirection and see what works better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431467 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:20:05 +0000 Kemma 2431467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pmrlady: I think at that age tantrums are just an overflow of feelings so giving them words for their feelings (you're feeling sad / hungry / frustrated etc) and just staying close and remaining calm are the way to go. They're totally not a reflection on your parenting so try not to take them personally or let them get to you - hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431440 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:07:08 +0000 Adira 2431440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ignore it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431434 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:05:32 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2431434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just went through this! I have a 16 month old that used to throw tantrums when she was around 14-15 months, and it was weird. I ignored them for the most part, and it has gotten a whole lot better. Now, she'll throw a tantrum every now and then when she isn't happy about something, but is more reasonable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431433 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:04:45 +0000 psw27 2431433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm reading No Bad Kids right now, so my plan is usually to say, I understand you are upset about XYZ. I'm going to let you cry and when you're ready we can play again and then I ask him if he wants a hug. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I don't react though, I just stay very neutral and acknowledge his feelings. It sounds crazy, but it seems to work and validate him and he calms down and usually wants a hug. He is 17 months, and has been tantruming since 12 month-ish. He has big feelings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431428 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 16:04:09 +0000 MamaCate 2431428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pmrlady: I would do redirection at that age! So LO gets mad and cries and falls down. I would move nearby, take out a toy and start playing with it, narrate what I am doing and act excited. LO usually would stop be uses she was curious about what I was doing and come join the play. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431420 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:59:10 +0000 rachiecakes 2431420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I walk away. </p> <p>The other night my 4 year old had an epic meltdown and I went downstairs to read! lol<br /> He eventually came down and asked me what I was doing. I said I couldn't talk to him while he was crying/yelling, so I came downstairs to read a book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431418 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:58:02 +0000 snowjewelz 2431418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 13, almost 14 mo old... She doesn't throw tantrums like that, but def gets upset about something where there really isn't consoling apart from giving her what she wants. I def find that when I am firm (not to her, but firm that I'm not giving in), she will get over faster than if I try to hug her, give her something else, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431399 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:50:03 +0000 Smurfette 2431399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ignore it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431367 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:38:49 +0000 pmrlady 2431367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: she's 12 months. Sometimes it happens out of the blue and sometimes it's because I tell her No or that she can't touch something or do something or put something in her mouth she's not supposed to. Other times I think it's because she's overtired.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431365 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:38:38 +0000 Bubbles 2431365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there's lots of different ways to handle tantrums and whatever you do you should be consistent. Personally I would empathise with her (e.g tell her you understand she is hungry and being extra hungry can make you feel emotional), and then I would just sit with her while she lets out her feelings. If you need to leave after a while eg to prepare food, I would tell her that is what you are going to do, and where you will be if she wants to join you. If the tantrum is about wanting something she can't have then I would definitely not give in, but would always make sure she knows you hear that she is upset. </p> <p>My DS gets furious about being held (or even touched) when he is tantruming, so the only instance I would hold him is if it was in the street or something. Sometimes if he's flailing on our hard wood floor I will put a pillow under his head and tell him why I am doing that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431363 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:36:37 +0000 LovelyPlum 2431363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is 21 months, and we had an epic tantrum last night. She didn't want us to put her down, didn't want us to pick her up, arched her back and cried for almost 2 hours. It was awful. We tried to soothe her, to hold her, to rock her, and eventually we just put her down. But of course, then she wanted to be held. She eventually snapped out of it enough to let me snuggle next to her in my bed.</p> <p>I don't know what the answer is, but I do try to let her get out the frustration, when she needs it. Sometimes, distraction or hugs or her paci will work. If we can stop a meltdown before it starts, that's even better. At this point, I'm playing it by ear and hoping it gets easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431362 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:36:26 +0000 pmrlady 2431362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you. I will try to ignore it next time, but it makes me feel bad when she's hysterical like that. Especially because she's only 12.5 months so I can't really reason with her yet and she can't express what she wants either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431358 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:35:04 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2431358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ahhhh yes... the limp noodle trick. My girls loved to do that... Sorry to hear you're going through it. </p> <p>How old is your LO? (I know you said 1 yr, but there's a big difference between 12 months and 23 months, so I'm just trying to gauge what she's going through behaviorally)</p> <p>Is she throwing tantrums because you told her she couldn't do/have something? Or is it just for no apparent reason? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431357 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:34:47 +0000 avivoca 2431357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my experience, just letting her do her thing helped the tantrums to stop sooner. I just picked her up, put her in the crib with no toys/paci/blankets, and let her feel her feelings until either she or I was ready to talk about it. Holding onto her made things worse and I almost dropped her a couple of times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431356 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:33:57 +0000 LBee 2431356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tell him that he appears to have very big feelings right now and that when he is ready, I am available to comfort him / help. I've found that trying to pick him up just prolongs everything. I try to let him feel his feelings though... and dude has a lot of feelings, it seems. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431354 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:33:46 +0000 lawbee11 2431354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as LO isn't in any danger I ignore it. Luckily she's done all of her on-the-floor tantrums at home so it's easier to walk away. Not sure what I would do if we were out in public... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-tantrums-where-lo-refuses-to-stand-and-just-lays-on-the-floor-crying#post-2431347 Thu, 21 Jan 2016 15:30:04 +0000 pmrlady 2431347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello bees,</p> <p>This is a new issue for me as a FTM with my 1 yr old and I'm not sure how to handle it. </p> <p>Lately she has started getting tantrums when she's not happy about something where she arches her back and refuses to stand up (she's already walking well). She lays on the floor and cries. If I pick her up and try to hold her she arches her back which makes holding her difficult. I try distracting her with a toy but she just pushes the toy away. Eventually I find something that she's interested in to distract her and break the tantrum. Sometimes I know it's because she's tired or hungry but then I have to do things to get her ready like change her diaper or prepare her milk/food. I can't exactly do those things while holding a screaming toddler.</p> <p>So should I just let her lay on the floor and cry until she stands up herself? Should I hold her until she snaps out of it? Any other tips with dealing with this?<br /> TIA! </p>