https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 22:15:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950956 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 14:38:32 +0000 kodybear 1950956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Lo turns 2 on Saturday and I don't think she grasps the "say it nicely" just yet. I usually do the happiest toddler on the block method and repeat what she's trying to say. So if she wants me to read I say "read! Read! You want to read!" Something like that and it usually stops. If I acknowledge what she's saying or what she's feeling then it usually stops. (I think a couple ppl have blogged abt this method) But if she's tired or hungry all bets are off :bummed: I usually just try to tune it out even tho it's like nails on a chalkboard!!</p> <p>Eta once she stops whining I ask her to say please read or whatever it is that she wants </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950944 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 14:34:29 +0000 littlebug 1950944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Same. I say "How do you ask nicely?" Usually that's all it takes - he'll say please in a non-whiney voice. Once he asks nicely, I'll get it, and I'll reframe what he's asking for in a way I'd like him to ask for it. Like if he's whining for milk, I'll say, "It sounds much nicer if you say, 'Mama, can I have some milk please?'" He's only 22 months, so he doesn't quite get that yet, but I figure the more he hears it.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950908 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 14:24:19 +0000 hilsy85 1950908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually just say, Can you ask nicely please, and he will repeat what he wants in a normal voice. If he still can't have it then it at least usually leads to crying rather than whining, which is preferable sometimes! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950875 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 14:13:45 +0000 Bao 1950875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys! Looks like I need to tell her I can't hear/understand her when she whines, wish me luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950845 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 13:58:11 +0000 Cherrybee 1950845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, i feel you. I got stuck in traffic bringing LO home tonight and she whined /fake cried in the back of the car for an hour. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950843 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 13:57:20 +0000 LuLu Mom 1950843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do the "I can't understand you when you whine" but it's about a 50/50 shot if it works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950655 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 12:33:53 +0000 yoursilverlining 1950655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very blunt with LO - I straight up tell her "you do not get what you want when you whine". When she starts the whining now I will ask her: "E, do you get what you want when you whine?" and she will tell me no. </p> <p>The hardest part is sticking to that "threat"/rule. If you tell your LO they don't get what they want when they whine but then give in....you've lost the battle. </p> <p>When she whines I try to redirect her into using her words to ask me what she wants or tell me how she is feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950547 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 11:43:34 +0000 SeptMomma12 1950547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always say "I can't help you if you're whining, please use your words." LO is just over 2 and will just stand there and make this horrible whiny/grunting noise when he's unhappy - drives me absolutely insane. I can't say it makes it any better, but at least I feel like I'm trying to do something constructive. The doctor recommended just ignoring him, but I find that makes me lose my patience even faster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950464 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 11:06:15 +0000 Synchronicity 1950464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PPs - I always say, "I can't understand you when you're whining, please ask me in your regular voice", and I don't ever give in to a request while they are doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950453 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 11:01:55 +0000 blackbird 1950453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of ignore it but say "i can't understand you when you whine". Not like she can talk, anyways....but still. I get used to saying it and then i wait for her to stop before i give her what she wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950445 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 10:58:51 +0000 erwoo 1950445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use the can't understand what you're saying to get my boys to speak without whining. My 5.5 y.o. whines more than his little brother. He doesn't whine as much, yet (??) at 2.5. If it's constant whining to get attention I just ignore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950438 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 10:55:56 +0000 MaryM 1950438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't comment from my own experience, but I think my mother is a genius when it comes to whining.</p> <p>When my brother and sister's kids were really little, my mom convinced them that she couldn't hear them when they whined. She'd ask them to speak in their normal voice and she would help them. </p> <p>I'm sure it's harder to stick to that when you're with the kids more often though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-handle-whining-1#post-1950434 Wed, 19 Nov 2014 10:53:08 +0000 Bao 1950434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO seems to be whining a lot more than usual lately, and it's one of those things that drives me crazy. I would rather her be getting into things causing trouble than listen to her whine! I know whining is normal, and it's going to happen, but I need some tips on managing it. I ask her to please stop whining but I'm not sure she quite understands what that means at this age (she's 2). Maybe I just need a way to cope through it on my own so I don't lose my sanity. If she wakes up whining it's almost a sure thing the day will continue that way, even if she gets more sleep. </p> <p>Any tips on handling whining? Do you know what triggers your LO to whine more? Did it seem to go in phases? </p>