https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 00:38:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-increase-the-quality-of-the-attention-you-give#post-2549436 Mon, 16 May 2016 07:14:18 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2549436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started saying things like "OK LO2, it's LO1's turn now." Or "LO2, I'm helping LO1 right now, can you wait a minute?" because I realized that I was saying those things to LO1 a lot and she felt like she was always second place. I guess I'm trying to verbalize to LO1 the attention she is getting. It seems to have helped some, but I do feel ridiculous telling a 4 month old to wait his turn to be held. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-increase-the-quality-of-the-attention-you-give#post-2549429 Mon, 16 May 2016 06:56:11 +0000 Cole 2549429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't read your other post so you might have talked about this but are there specific times or activities leading to the behavior? It might be less about overall quantity/quality and more about you being with the new baby or something?</p> <p>Maybe you could try telling her you have to change the baby but could she build you a super cool block tower while you're gone. You could build up to this by taking turns surprising her with towers during your play time together (pepper in lots of things like "don't peek!" "I can't wait to show you when I'm done!" Etc)</p> <p>Maybe while you cook would be a good time for coloring or play dough in the kitchen with you. Feeding the baby you could have a special basket of stuff for her to do? (I don't have any brilliant suggestions for this but maybe you could try searching for busy bags on Pinterest.)</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-increase-the-quality-of-the-attention-you-give#post-2549423 Mon, 16 May 2016 06:20:42 +0000 looch 2549423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you doing things that she likes to do or things that you like to do? I had to take a hard look at myself when answering this very same question...what my son likes to do and what I like to do are two different things and I realized that in order to get him the most engaged, I had to change up the content to suit his interests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-increase-the-quality-of-the-attention-you-give#post-2549419 Mon, 16 May 2016 06:05:25 +0000 MrsSRS 2549419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you keep any electronics on you or on? Can you turn them off? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-increase-the-quality-of-the-attention-you-give#post-2549405 Mon, 16 May 2016 03:42:25 +0000 Cherrybee 2549405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm. I've been thinking! I posted yesterday about E's misbehaviour but the more I think about it the more I can see that she is attention seeking. Alongside her deliberate defiance and potty shenanigans, I'm also hearing "Mummy, look at me!" and "I cant do it" 10,000x per day. </p> <p>I feel as though I give E plenty of my time - I get down on the floor and play regularly, we do lots of fun things like the park, soft play, we have a once a week dedicated afternoon where I drop the baby at grandparents' and take E swimming/dinner out......</p> <p>......but its clearly not enough. I cant increase the time I spend with her, but can I increase the quality? Can I make it more obvious or significant to her? </p>