https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 03:09:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-keep-calm#post-2555351 Tue, 24 May 2016 09:53:36 +0000 Foodnerd81 2555351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: we threaten to take away the bedtime books but rarely follow through on that one since it just makes going to sleep harder. So usually if she shaped up I give the books back at least. Toddlers are hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-keep-calm#post-2555306 Tue, 24 May 2016 09:15:09 +0000 hellobeeboston 2555306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: yeah, timeouts are usually pretty effective actually - and they help me too! it's a good cool down time for everyone. we threatened no books, but we had already taken away the iPad for the day, and feel so bad not doing books at night... we almost never take that away, but I'm sure LO would have a complete meltdown if we did. and yeah - i can't help but yell, i hate it, i don't know why i keep doing it.</p> <p>@JoyfulKiwi: Yeah, walking away is probably going to be my best bet. I KNOW that he's enjoying seeing me react and i just feed into it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-keep-calm#post-2555019 Mon, 23 May 2016 20:21:23 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2555019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I know how you feel. My son is very emotional and had lots of tantrums. I know they're good for him and get his feelings out, yada yada yada. BUT the crying drives me nuts! My therapist recommended modeling a "time away" for myself. So, when I get super frustrated and can't keep my cool, I say "I am very frustrated that you are not listening and I think I might yell. I'm going to take a break in my room, I'll be back soon." I go and take some deep breaths or, honestly, punch a pillow or whatever. When I come back I give the follow through/logical consequence: loss of story time, can't eat a "fancy" breakfast, etc. Lots of times he still tantrums when I return, but I'm usually more composed and can ride it out.<br /> We've been doing this approach for MONTHS and he's only just know showing improvement. He'll ask for help to calm down or ask to go to his room to take a break or struggle to take deep breaths. It's so hard, but I try to remember it's normal (I hope it is!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-keep-calm#post-2554987 Mon, 23 May 2016 19:46:30 +0000 hilsy85 2554987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Deep breaths, bite my lip....sometimes telling him that he is making me really angry and disappointed works. Othertimes I threaten a consequences ("if you don't come and get into the bath right now, we won't have time to read stories before bed."). Sometimes I yell, but that doesn't usually work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-keep-calm#post-2554959 Mon, 23 May 2016 19:17:05 +0000 Foodnerd81 2554959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know exactly what you are talking about. I don't have a good answer just know you are not the only one. The best I do is put her in timeout (which is in her room) and leave and say I can't come back until she calms down. I also say we don't have time for bedtime stories. Often this results in her having a meltdown. But generally me saying I won't accept this (yelling at me, acting crazy, not listening) and leaving her and going to do something else is the most effective. Yelling at her is a sure fire way to get her to act up even worse, though I do it again and again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-keep-calm#post-2554946 Mon, 23 May 2016 19:05:50 +0000 hellobeeboston 2554946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tell me how you keep calm and not lose your temper. I need some strategies. My 3.5 year old can really push my buttons and I feel myself losing my cool and I am not handling myself the way I want to. </p> <p>Example: tonight I was giving LO a bath, and right after getting dressed he was starting to act goofy and wild, was not listening, and started with the potty talk that we have been trying to get him to stop doing.... I ask a bunch of times to stop, he hears me and keeps doing it. I start getting mad, start to talk very sternly, he starts laughing, enjoying watching me get mad. I want to scream... But I walk out of the room and let DH deal, as he sees I'm going to lose it.</p> <p>How do you deal with these types of situations? I have tried many things, but feel like 1/2 the time whatever I try works, and 1/2 it doesn't. </p>