https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 29 Jun 2026 01:10:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254979 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:06:08 +0000 dookie32 254979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Will the staff let you come in with your LO for a meet and greet with the teachers before she starts? They do this at my day care and it helped a lot with my anxiety about someone else taking care of him. His teacher asked me a lot of questions about his routine, his personality, what he does when he's hungry, tired, etc. It made me feel a lot better to know that they wanted to get to know these things about him and try and make the transition easier. She also tells me to call or text her anytime I want to check in which is nice (my husband does the dropping off and picking up so I don't get to talk to her a lot). Our center is very big on communication between the parents and teachers- I think that helps with the trust level. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254859 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:59:57 +0000 purrpletulips 254859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD started daycare at 8w and the best advice I can give is: 1) pick a daycare where you feel comfortable with the staff [we chose one where all the administrators and head teachers were not just out of college although many of the secondary teachers were], 2) make some drop-in visits prior to LO's first day where you can watch how the interact with the different children and perhaps your child too [if they don't allow such visits I would question them as to why not]. Trust your instincts, however if you are really wanting to be a SAHM and that isn't possible you need to look into how much that desire is influencing your concerns because it may just be a conflict between what you want and what is feasible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254844 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 13:48:41 +0000 Mommy Finger 254844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: I love everything you have written b/c that's how I've been feeling. Granted, DS isn't here yet so my feelings could change but I trust my instincts that I've found a great daycare </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254459 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 10:26:51 +0000 ladyfingers 254459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure I'll have these issues as well. I have to go back to work after 12 weeks and we don't have any family close by except my dad who is an hour away. My boss said I might be able to bring him/her into work sometimes, but there's nothing concrete worked out. I'm really dreading it because I have major paranoia about people doing things the right way. I'm even putting off visiting daycares because I'm worried they'll all be horrible. We're pretty limited geographically to the area where I work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254433 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 10:15:42 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 254433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you don't feel comfortable with who is taking care of your LO, you need to trust your instincts. I know it's not always easy to just pick them up and move them to another place, but maybe you could just start with talking to the director about how you feel and what you've seen/heard? </p> <p>It's never easy. I don't like two of the 3 women that take care of DD in daycare right now. They would rather sit (or lay) on the floor and talk to each other or play on their phone than interact with the babies in the room. They never smile and they seem irritated at everything all the time. </p> <p>But there is one lady that shows so much love for my daughter and treats her as if she was her own, and I know that she's getting great care. So, I have to overlook the other two and know that she will be taken care of as long as she is in the room. I also know that in two weeks, DD will move to another room and the ladies that will take care of her absolutely adore her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254419 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 10:09:30 +0000 Mrsbells 254419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its hard because as moms even we get frustrated with our LO's but the love we have for them keeps us going. So its difficult to trust that a stranger will give the same amount of time and care to your baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254411 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 10:03:09 +0000 Nskillet 254411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a hard adjustment no doubt. My advice is to ease back into work slowly if you can. I started back with 4 half days at my job. DH went with me to drop her off day 1 where I promptly cried and was a complete basketcase my first 4 hour day working. However, this enabled me to see how DDs care was operating. I ended up unhappy with her first daycare and was able to move her ASAP.</p> <p>Trust your instincts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254250 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 08:23:43 +0000 Lozza 254250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry to add to what was already a ridiculously long post, but to actually answer your question: I find my interactions with older kids at my daycare center reassuring. I see the kids that are 3 or 4 years old and have been at the center since infancy, and they're smart, awesome, happy kids who love each and are very close to their teachers and their parents. I'd be thrilled if LO ends up like them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254245 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 08:21:15 +0000 Lozza 254245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never really had these issues. LO started daycare at 12 weeks, and there is a ton of choice in daycares in our area, and I spent a @##$! load of time researching them and I felt great about our center. I know there are bees on here who've worked in childcare or early education, and I think they can probably reinforce the point that even if it's not THEIR child, if you find a good person or good center, the person taking care of your kid loves kids and knows a lot about them. I don't even generally like kids, but I'm human enough that if I were working in a daycare and a baby was crying, I'd pick it up and cuddle it. (And if you're worried about a center letting babies CIO as a matter of policy, I think that's something you discuss with a center when deciding if it's a good fit for you). The ratio may not be 1:1, but if parents of multiple children can manage to give kids individual attention, I don't see why daycare can't.<br /> LO's teachers may not be as attached to him as I am, but there's no doubt that all the teachers at his school, and especially HIS teacher, are very, very attached to him and love him. I guess when he was really little I could've worried that daycare wouldn't be able to adjust and respond to all of his needs the way that I could if I were home with him, but I think they were perfectly capable of keeping him rested, fed, amused, and loved during the day, and now that he's older, I'm not at all convinced that I'd do a better job of caring for him (not that I'm a crappy mom, but I think it's hard to weigh what i could offer him at home against the socialization and the activities and the structure that he gets automatically at school and come up with a clear decision in my favor).<br /> I'm sorry that this post probably comes off sounding defensive- I'm happy with my choice to send LO to daycare, but I also had a SAHM growing up and I LOVED it. So I'm definitely on the side of "whatever makes for a happy parent and happy family environment," but I just want to emphasize that unless you live somewhere where your options are really, really limited, it's totally possible to find a wonderful, caring, stimulating environment where your LO can thrive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254199 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 08:01:05 +0000 Rubies 254199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is a year already and starting daycare later this month and I'm a wreck! But I know I'll be okay because I've visited the daycare and love it and the people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254186 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 07:53:14 +0000 autumnlove 254186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had horrible trust issues for the first two months until I learned to let go a little! It was a rough adjustment period but her teachers are very capable and caring people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254185 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 07:51:44 +0000 MaisyMay 254185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO isn't here yet, so this may change, but I can see me reminding myself that they are professionals and that Hubs or I can stop in to see her at any point. That being said, we'll research local day cares to death before LO is inside any of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254162 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 07:35:26 +0000 regberadaisy 254162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea! I don't think I will ever trust them completely the way I would trust my mom to watch her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254115 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 06:34:09 +0000 Andrea 254115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is tough! I was able to wait until DD was 6 months old to send her daycare. I felt like she was too little before that. By 6 months she was crawling and cruising so I didn't feel like she was so helpless. She could get around and play on her own without having someone do everything for her. I plan on waiting until 6 months for DD #2 as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-254103 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 06:29:10 +0000 chopsuey 254103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't send Lo to daycare and not sure I could because I have trust issues! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-learn-to-trust-daycare-staff#post-253643 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 19:13:34 +0000 mediagirl 253643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm one month from going back to work and hugging my little girl tighter and tighter every day. I think I would feel better if she wasn't so darn helpless. :( How does anyone care for your lo as well as you do? What happens if she cries and no one picks her up? </p> <p>How do you learn to just let go and trust the daycare staff to treat your lo well? </p>