https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 02:56:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1638263 Thu, 15 May 2014 20:23:42 +0000 lovehoneybee 1638263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think MIL calls/texts more, but I've never been shy about initiating a visit to their house or out to dinner or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1638261 Thu, 15 May 2014 20:23:01 +0000 Tidybee 1638261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually make DH deal with it, but sometimes I am the one who exchanges emails and/or texts with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1638252 Thu, 15 May 2014 20:20:05 +0000 Adira 1638252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: haha, no, no drama!! I'm planning on making some plans with my ILs this summer, and I was just curious what other people do! Usually it's my ILs that are inviting us over, but I'll probably be inviting myself over a bunch since they live on the water and I want to take Xander swimming, haha! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637707 Thu, 15 May 2014 17:57:40 +0000 fancyfunction 1637707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband usually makes the plans if it's for something with the family. If my MIL wants to come see M during the week, she'll initiate the convo with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637706 Thu, 15 May 2014 17:56:08 +0000 charmed 1637706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They're out of state so it's not very often. But when we do get together, DH talks to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637703 Thu, 15 May 2014 17:54:28 +0000 Mrs. Coral 1637703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH handles the arrangements and asks me schedule-related questions. I never do the contacting unless it is girls only-like a shower or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637400 Thu, 15 May 2014 16:10:55 +0000 prettylizy 1637400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually call or text MIL. I shouldn't bother texting her though because she reads the text and calls me back :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637395 Thu, 15 May 2014 16:09:26 +0000 MrsStar 1637395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh handles it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637373 Thu, 15 May 2014 16:06:35 +0000 Running Elley 1637373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I either text or call MIL. Both of us initiate. Sometimes DH will call but only when I absolutely make him. I get along with my ILs so I don't really mind doing it! I know that LO absolutely adores spending time with them so I feel like it's important to maintain that relationship! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637281 Thu, 15 May 2014 15:48:48 +0000 illumina 1637281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: uh oh, I sense another IL drama is brewing ;)</p> <p>I tell Dh what I want the plans to be and he communicates them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637267 Thu, 15 May 2014 15:45:37 +0000 swurlygurl 1637267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I either email MIL throughout the week, or text MIL and SIL. If it involves a phone call I typically make DH call. I really hate talking on the phone, so I just refuse to do that one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637250 Thu, 15 May 2014 15:42:19 +0000 Applesandbananas 1637250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I make the plans. Love my ILs :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637242 Thu, 15 May 2014 15:39:56 +0000 JerricaBenton 1637242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't. Lol :-D they live far away so if we're going to visit, dh plans it out and talks to his family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637239 Thu, 15 May 2014 15:38:23 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1637239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll call, text or bring it up in person. We have a very natural, smooth relationship. Plus, I have the type of husband who is too busy to keep up with social scheduling, so I do that and he kind of just follows along in that area of our life (yep- even with his own parents). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637233 Thu, 15 May 2014 15:37:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1637233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I call my mil or she calls me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1637229 Thu, 15 May 2014 15:35:25 +0000 Meridian 1637229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's strictly DH's job, I rarely communicate with them directly (their English isn't very good). It's pretty much a given that we spend part of Saturday with them, whether it be lunch + afternoon outing (dread this cuz it can drag on), or dinner. </p> <p>From June - October, I'm busy working weddings almost every Saturday (I'm a wedding planner), so that's my free pass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1636498 Thu, 15 May 2014 12:51:00 +0000 Mommy Finger 1636498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH handles that. I don't even have my FIL's cell number. I feel like that's weird. Though, I've never had the need to call him myself . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1636118 Thu, 15 May 2014 11:30:43 +0000 Alivoo01 1636118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they're coming into town, BIL or MIL will call the hubby and coordinate something. If we're going to visit them, DH calls his mommy and lets her know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635926 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:46:05 +0000 cascademom 1635926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's a holiday, we discuss it first. Then, DH makes arrangements with them, flights, etc. I have DH deal with his parents and visits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635916 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:44:27 +0000 jetsa 1635916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH handles it normally. Mil babysits on Mondays and we see them most weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635905 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:41:30 +0000 MrsB2012 1635905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hubs deals with it. We try to avoid his mom/brothers as they're all pretty crazy. His dad comes over every Sunday. His family will text him, he doesn't initiate it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635904 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:41:24 +0000 Foodnerd81 1635904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They live across the country, so it doesn't happen often! MIL will contact DH or me-- more often me since I actually get back to her. And it's usually planning way in advance since it involves a flight. FIL deals only with DH and I just go along with whatever they plan. </p> <p>BIL lives around the corner and he and DH will usually talk if he wants to come over or something, but he will also call or text me if he just wants to stop by. And DH's grandmother lives not too far away and DH calls her to make plans.</p> <p>So, I guess I just never do the initiating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635901 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:40:30 +0000 Weagle 1635901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually DH makes the plans with them. They live 12 hours away and refuse to fly, so we usually only see them if we travel there. They will visit if we have a baby :) If it's a big family trip, SIL and I make all of the arrangements. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635888 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:38:13 +0000 Smurfette 1635888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well they live 4 hours away, so usually we just have to go (holidays) or we kind of talk and say we need to suck it up and go visit. </p> <p>I have to tell DH to call his Dad all the time. I text SMIL all the time otherwise they wouldn't see pictures of R. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635882 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:35:23 +0000 Crisark 1635882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both handle it equally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635864 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:29:15 +0000 Ra 1635864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I make plans with one SIL pretty regularly. We are really close and talk/text several times a week.</p> <p>My husband makes plans with the rest of his family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635856 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:26:00 +0000 snowjewelz 1635856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH texts w/ his two siblings to make plans usually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635839 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:22:19 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1635839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Its really tough to get them to come to visit us. They come once a year tops and we have to kinda force them into it. Otherwise we are visiting for the holidays and we'll randomly visit like one other time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635827 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:16:59 +0000 BlueWolverine 1635827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH does it. They live four hours away, so it's never just a quick thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-make-plans-with-your-il#post-1635826 Thu, 15 May 2014 10:16:17 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1635826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's about a holiday or family event, the ILs call us. If it's a weekend plan or watching the kids while DH and I do something, hubs calls them. If it's about a doctors appointment or same-day, I call my MIL. </p> <p>I usually try to spend as little time talking/with my ILs as possible. Especially my FIL since he invites himself over a lot. If he's dropping hubs off for whatever reason, he comes inside and 'helps out' which usually results in me being PO'ed that he's interrupting family time. </p>