https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 19:40:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679823 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 16:37:16 +0000 LilSprinkles 2679823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We move every two years, so I feel like I am always making new friends. I usually make friends through a local running group and at work. I'm an introvert, so it's not always easy for me to put myself out there. This time around, we live in a great area with lots of supporting neighbors, so I have made friends with them. When I wasn't workkng, I would join mom groups for play dates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679821 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 16:32:38 +0000 shellio 2679821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm struggling with this too. I know you said no meetup groups but would you be open to meeting people in other organized settings? Do you have any interests that you could take a class in? Music, photography, or any other kind of art? Physical activity groups are also an option. I know of several people who are in bike groups and go for group rides on Saturdays, etc. Do you like to drink beer/wine? If your area has a local brewery or winery they may host recurring events, if you go to the same thing a few times you might see some familiar faces and get to know them. There are many facebook groups for various neighborhoods etc, might be worth searching on facebook and seeing what you find. Are you on Nextdoor? That's a neighborhood site I've recently discovered that is kind of like your local coffee shop bulletin board - people post restaurant recommendations, warn about recent burglaries, ask for help finding a runaway dog, look for nannies, buy/sell stuff, etc. I have seen many posts on there along the lines of "Anybody want to join us in a group run on Sunday?" ... "I've just started quilting and would like to chat with others about it"... "Are there any other moms of 4-5 year olds who would like to meet at XX Park on Thursday evenings?" etc. Hope these help and maybe one day I'll take my own advice. I've made close friends wherever I lived throughout my life until having kids - it is just so hard to make the time and when I make the time, it is hard to get other people who have kids to make the time. Good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679686 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 14:09:14 +0000 MrsADS 2679686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uhhh... I don't really? I know that sounds sad. I work fulltime and have a 16 month old so I don't go to any play groups or the gym or anything like that. We're friendly with some couples from church and hang out with them, but not like I'd call up the ladies to chit chat or hang out on my own. But I probably could do that, I am just too tired honestly! </p> <p>My best friends are from college/law school and we talk/text very frequently, but we all live far away from each other.</p> <p>If I was single or no kids it would be different. I'm ok with it, though. My husband is always encouraging me to make more friends because he's super social. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679655 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 13:42:33 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2679655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aside from the friends I've had since high school/college, newest friends are neighbors, and day care. We have one family who has 2 girls, and they're in my 2 boys' classes. So we see them a lot at drop off and pick up as well as at the older kiddos' birthday parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679436 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 10:04:59 +0000 ElbieKay 2679436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No matter how many new people I meet, I still prefer my oldest friends. They are just the most comfortable people for me to hang out with. Unfortunately I don't live near most of them so I only get to see them infrequently. I have a hard time thinking of new people as anything more than acquaintances for a very very very long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679266 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 22:31:38 +0000 youboots 2679266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've made 2 good friends in the last year or so- one I met through MOPS and she lives in my neighborhood, the other was an introduction through a mutual friend- she also lives nearby. We hang out as whole families too sometimes with the husbands- I've lucked out with new friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679188 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 20:51:46 +0000 nana87 2679188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is something I'm struggling with. My bff moved last fall, as did her roommate who was also a good friend, and my closest grad school friends also have moved. I still have some grad school friends nearby, but I'm not as close with them. I'm friendly with other daycare parents but don't really see them outside of pick up/drop off except class wide play dates I organize (I'm class parent, partly an effort to make friends...) and birthday parties. My closest friends live far away, and I've been feeling sad about it this week-- it was my birthday, and neither dh nor I even attempted to make plans with anyone else, whereas in past years we've had really lovely dinner parties to celebrate. I'm really worried about being lonely on maternity leave with lo2. I've tried meeting mom's at classes for lo1 (but it's usually all nannies since it's on Fridays when I have off with lo1....) or at prenatal yoga class, but it never extends past an occasional brief conversation. I'm going to try to do more stuff with lo2, like mommy and me yoga....I think some of it is just living in a big city-- people just are busy and assume you are too. My brother and sil have an amazing network of parent friends in their small town and it makes me jealous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679098 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 17:03:51 +0000 Modern Daisy 2679098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved two years ago and I can finally say that we have a good amount of friends - at least all we can handle with our busy lives. I got lucky and literally the day after we moved I met two moms at a Gymboree open gym who invited me into their larger mom group and I've made a few close friends through that but also meet up with the group too. We also meet people through DS's school! And we are just starting to organize a neighborhood mom happy hour since there are a ton of moms with small kids in my hood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679065 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 16:12:07 +0000 lioneyes 2679065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we moved to a new city when i was pregnant. i knew people here but didn't really have friends. i found it easy to meet people with a newborn, just from walking around the neighborhood and frequenting the same coffee places. i also made friends at stroller workout class, and then at mommy and me classes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2679054 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 16:06:07 +0000 Boogs 2679054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm meeting more people through LO's school and sports. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678991 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 15:02:19 +0000 autumnlove 2678991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Through activities and school. My best mom friends are through LO 1 &amp; 2's soccer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678925 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 13:30:52 +0000 skipra 2678925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved and I knew no one in our new town. After feeling very lonely and isolated for a few months I joined a MOPS group at a church. It was great for my oldest to play with similar aged kids somewhat regularly but it just wasn't frequent enough and I didn't connect with the other moms outside the group. One of them mentioned another group in the town. It was much larger and the hosted activities, set up playgroups, sent out emails with all the local kids activities, etc. I joined a couple different playgroups and made friends that way, also friends of friends and just seeing the same people over and over at events. I know you don't want to join meet up groups and trust me, I didn't either! But you really have to put yourself out there and deal with uncomfortable awkward situations to really meet people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678922 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 13:25:53 +0000 lilteacherbee 2678922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've known my best friend since kindergarten, but my other close friends I met through church groups and work. I've also met a few new friends through DS1's preschool this year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678920 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 13:22:50 +0000 Truth Bombs 2678920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The two people I would consider my best friends in the world right now I met through daycare. Our kids started together when they were young infants and they all just had their 4th birthdays. I literally don't know what I would do without them. So start hitting up the moms at your kid's school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678851 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:27:40 +0000 rattles 2678851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved when I had a preschooler and newborn, and I've made friends through my church's moms group and through my local MOMS club chapter. I also joined the local alumnae chapter for my sorority and college. Though I wouldn't say I have any great friends as a result of the latter groups independently, one of my MOMS club friends is in the sorority group, and having both in common has given us shared events and made us closer outside of either group. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678849 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:27:03 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2678849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took me FOREVER to make friends. Like I've been looking for new friends for a good 3 years and was really struggling. I still have one friend (my best friend) from high school and a small group of really close friends that I met through hike it baby. No storytime or meetup group or even church (which is a mother issue I guess though, shouldn't church be the easiest place to make friends?) was helping me cultivate friendships. And even my "new" friends I basically just came out and said "hey, I really like you, want to do other stuff together?" lol I felt really lame saying that but I really needed friendship and I knew who I wanted it with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678848 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:27:02 +0000 looch 2678848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I've made friends at my son's school. It's so easy, especially because it seems like there's a high concentration (at least in my son's class) of only children! Everyone is extremely motivated to get together and we're all like minded, which is cool too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678845 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:25:52 +0000 Anya 2678845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've made two new friends over the last 18 months or so. One at one of my daughter's activities and one at yoga class. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678840 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:21:58 +0000 mediagirl 2678840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: @snowjewelz: the preschool age is so hard! I'm past the "how do i parent a baby" stage and going into elementary school this year. Maybe something will change with elementary school if we get involved with the PTA/school events. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678825 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:12:02 +0000 snowjewelz 2678825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah.. No new friends. It's hard enough to maintain existing friendships! If I do meet new people it's always through church. I recently went to my first baby wearing group meet up... But I doubt I would go often enough to strike up friendships. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678821 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:10:52 +0000 Silva 2678821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of the people I'm friends with now are either people I've known my whole life, people I met at work, or people I met at various playgroups when my daughter was a baby.<br /> It's really, really hard to make friends in this season of life. My daughters preschool has a parent book club that I've joined- hoping to make a friend there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-meet-friends#post-2678811 Thu, 12 Jan 2017 12:03:31 +0000 mediagirl 2678811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved recently and it hit me after we moved that some of my closest friends were neighbors. We would talk at the playground, while walking down the street and just pop in to say hi. I don't have that in my current neighborhood and we only have one family that has adults near our ages (the other neighbors are all in their upper 50's, into 60's. </p> <p>I don't really want to join a meetup group. There are 3 women at my work and none have friend potential for various reasons. How else do you meet people? </p>