https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Jul 2026 00:13:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2279974 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 07:01:17 +0000 Ajsmommy 2279974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs mama! I remember when I came back to work after DD how difficult it was. We are currently ttc #2 and if we do the plan is to keep DD in daycare even during my maternity leave. I think I might keep her home here and there but I don't want it to be a shock to both our systems when I have to go back to work... of course this is all just a "plan" as of now </p> <p>good luck and I hope your transition goes well for both you and DD#1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2279886 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 22:57:19 +0000 TiredmommaMD 2279886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: yes. I would love more than anything to SAH, but it's not possible. The best we could do would be part time, but not for at least another year. 😥 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2277700 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 10:33:25 +0000 sungirl 2277700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice but I just want to say I understand. It was way harder to leave DS1 after my maternity leave with DS2 because he and I both got used to the time we spent together. He just turned 2 when I went back. All I can say is that it got better and now a year later it is fine although I still really wish I could spend more time with both of them. Good Luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2277699 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 10:33:24 +0000 mediagirl 2277699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. I know the feeling. It is so, so hard to send our kids into someone else's caring hands at such a young age. We had no choice either and I totally feel your pain. :( Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2277655 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:57:53 +0000 regberadaisy 2277655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. I went back at 7 weeks with my first so I absolutely know how you're feeling. Is it your desire to SAh? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2277652 Mon, 31 Aug 2015 09:54:43 +0000 snowjewelz 2277652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: :heart: I feel ya!! It's 100% my desire to be at SAHM, but I WOH and it will be that way pretty much forever! It's STILL hard and DD is almost 9 months, but DH watches her for a day, my mom does the rest of the week, and she also goes to her cousin's so I tell myself it's great that she spends time with family in general. When she goes to daycare, I also know that she will be getting the stimulation/social interaction she needs. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2276461 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 04:01:37 +0000 MamaCate 2276461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TiredmommaMD: Oh hugs mama! Going back to work is so hard and especially when we have to be aware of not setting off our little ones! I remember driving my LO to daycare (as a baby when she first started) for a while and talking to her about who she was going to see and how much fun she was going to have, in an effort to convince myself of the same. It might also help to think about the reasons you working is a positive for your family to help reframe the issue--I need to work to support the family, advance my career, maintain my sanity, whatever applies to your situation. You will find a new groove in time! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2276386 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 22:37:36 +0000 daniellemybelle 2276386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I could give you a hug. I didn't go back so soon, but I really struggled with having to work and send my LO to daycare, especially because she did not adjust well. </p> <p>I don't have any great tips but I did very consciously think about that my negative energy would affect her and I wanted her to like "school," so we talked a lot about school and I forced myself to be upbeat. We would look at pictures of her teachers and classmates on social media and talk about them with excitement. The more I did it, the more I kind of bought into it.</p> <p>It also helped a lot to have DH drop LO off when she was having her really hard days in the beginning. I'm sure your LO will be excited to go see her friends again but maybe that would help YOU? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-on-a-brave-face#post-2276376 Fri, 28 Aug 2015 22:24:48 +0000 TiredmommaMD 2276376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am coming to the end of a way too short maternity leave next week, and these last 9 weeks have been some of the best in my life. I have a demanding job, but I dream of being a SAHM. It's just not an option for us though, neither is part time. Spending everyday with my girls, especially my toddler has been so wonderful. I feel like I've gotten to know her so much better over these last two months and my heart is completely broken now that I have to go back to seeing her only an hour or two on weekdays. I am crying every night already. I know the transition will be so hard for her, and me crying hysterically when I leave for work is going to be very counterproductive. However, my sadness is so overwhelming that I don't know how I am going to put on a brave face. When I came back from maternity leave the first time, it didn't matter that I bawled every morning because she was a baby and didn't know the difference. My heart just aches thinking about it.</p> <p>ETA: DD1 is 2.5 DD2 is 8 weeks. Of course my heart breaks for leaving DD2 as well but I am mostly worried about my emotions effecting DD1. </p>