https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 07 Jun 2026 12:44:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2328108 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 07:28:04 +0000 BSB 2328108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: How young was DD when you bought that wool mattress topper?</p> <p>My twins are like your LOs. They don't like flat surfaces like the bassinet inserts that came with the PnP. They are however sleeping right now in the RnP, swaddled and white noise machine and they are a little over 6 weeks old, but adjusted age is 4 days old since they were preemies. Not sure if that makes a difference. I just assembled the RnPs 2 days ago but before then, I was using the mamaroo for them to sleep in. It was still much better than the bassinet insert. I think they did not like sleeping swaddled on a flat surface. With the mamaroo &amp; the RnP, I think the babies like being in the position like they are being held... something the bassinet does not do. Eventually, we want to transition them to the crib. I did definitely see a difference when we started using the white noise machine, and then the mamaroo and now the RnP. We've been swaddling them from the time they came home. Though for us our preemies were more sleepy in the beginning but now that they are full term now they are definitely more awake now... which is why I had to start bringing out the RnP when the mamaroo alone wasn't working. I do love the mamaroo (bought used, so I save a lot of money), but the RnP is so small, light and portable that it's great. The mamaroo is a bit big to move from the living room to the bedroom. Anyway, that's what's working for now for my 6 week old (4 day old adjusted) twins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2328006 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 01:22:54 +0000 shopaholic 2328006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: Hang in there mama! I know it's so frustrating! I know I had to do the 20 min. deep sleep before I could put DD down when she was little. </p> <p>This might sound a little strange, but I feel like both of my babies slept better on soft, cushy surfaces. I mean, who wouldn't. Both my babies sleep/nap better on my bed, even when I wasn't in it. I know it's not "recommended" to have babies on soft bedding vs. hard, but DD did not sleep as well/long in her crib until I got her a wool mattress topper thing. IDK if that really did the trick, but let's just say I was too scared to try without it until she moved into her big girl bed! And even then, I got her pillow top.<br /> DS is only 6 weeks today, but stopped sleeping at all in the bassinet a couple of weeks ago. He was congested and has reflux, so that's another story, but I noticed he'd get all stiff in the bassinet, and instantly relax in our bed. He's spent a week+ sleeping in the swing in our room. I think it's a combination of softness and warmth (like being close to you) vs. a hard, cold surface. Also, his favorite sound on the sound machine is the heart beat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2327958 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 22:05:20 +0000 Dagny 2327958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CAM- I've typically waited at least 15-20 minutes but have tried longer and shorter.</p> <p>@SHOOTINGSTAR- thank you, that's helpful. Sounds like a good way to approach it. I think I'll start trying twice at least for the first bedtime feeding. I'm not sure I could manage in the middle of the night.</p> <p>@MFA_LADY- well it's nice to hear that there's a light at the end of the tunnel. I did CIO a few different times with LO1 so I'm not opposed under the right conditions when LO is older but I am terrified that LO2 may react like LO1 did - a lot of hysterical crying (an hour plus...). Hopefully LO2 will adjust better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2327898 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 20:58:12 +0000 mfa_lady 2327898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This probably isn't super encouraging, but my DD was just like this until she was about 4 months old. It took usually two people and two hours (we had to take shifts!) to get her down for her first long stretch. It was MISERABLE.</p> <p>Then, she learned to self-soothe (for her, sucking her first two fingers and rubbing her hair--cutest!) and all of a sudden around 4.5 months started being able to fall asleep better. We kind of did CIO, but since we waited until she was ready, it only took a couple nights with crying on and off (soothing in between) for about 15 minutes. Before 4.5 months, she was like your son--huge, escalating screams within minutes of us leaving the room.</p> <p>Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2327896 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 20:56:13 +0000 ShootingStar 2327896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: I kept trying. I co-slept a lot, but my goal was always to get him in his own bed. Usually I'd give it 2 tries and if he still kept waking up, we'd co-sleep until the next feeding, then I'd try again. It usually got harder as the night went in though. So sometimes I'd just give up by 1 or 2am and co-sleep the rest of the night. </p> <p>Eventually he was spending all night in the PnP and I'd just co-sleep and nurse in the early morning so I could get more sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2327882 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 20:37:59 +0000 MrsBrewer 2327882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is 4.5 months, and I generally still nurse to sleep, hold her for a couple minutes till she's sleeping then put her down.</p> <p>I'm always with her at bedtime, so it doesn't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2327786 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 19:49:15 +0000 simplyfelicity 2327786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO just turned 4 months old and he usually falls asleep after his last feed and I stick him S.L.O.W.L.Y. into the bassinet. Sometimes, I put him in there sleepy but awake and he falls asleep. I will say, however, that he has always been an easy sleeper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2327746 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 19:17:50 +0000 cam 2327746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long are you waiting before you put her down? When he was little I had to wait quite a while before I could put him down (like 15 minutes of being completely asleep) and then it gradually got shorter. I hope you find something that works! At that age mine was still going to bed late like around 9 I think </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2327033 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 11:38:52 +0000 Dagny 2327033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: did you just keep trying to move LO each night and found one night it started working? How long would you wait before trying to move LO (once asleep)? </p> <p>@ROSEGOLD - thank you for the support! It's really nice to know I'm not alone.</p> <p>@MAMABIRD - yeah, it must be the transition from warm arms to a cold firm co-sleeper that wakes her. Once she's asleep I have tried to lie down with her and then slowly slip away since our bed would be warm and is softer than the co-sleeper. I've gotten lucky twice but usually it doesn't work. I guess I should keep trying that every night, I just get so discouraged that it doesn't work most of the time.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2326793 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 09:14:59 +0000 Mama Bird 2326793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still nursing my three month old to sleep, but I think she's still a bit too young to change anything... DS did the same thing and learned to fall asleep by himself OK when he was maybe 10 months. </p> <p>But if you have to go to bed when she does, that's really frustrating! Maybe the bed is cold and that's waking her up, and your SO could put in a warm bottle so it's toasty when you bring her to bed? Our room was really cold a couple of weeks ago and she also refused to sleep in her bed - I don't blame her, cause the one time I left her there, she woke up at 3 AM cold all over, despite warm PJs and a blanket. So we co-slept after that until heating season started, and now she's back in her crib.</p> <p>I've also had to nurse DD to sleep several times over when something's keeping her up. That usually makes me fall asleep too, but sometimes I manage to wake myself and get something done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2326783 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 09:08:57 +0000 rosegold 2326783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm in the same boat but my boy is 4m, nearing 5. by 6m I know I will be ready to get some space while I sleep. i have no advice but wishing you the best!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2326758 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 08:54:57 +0000 ShootingStar 2326758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When DS was really little he refused to sleep on his own. After a while I was able to get him to sleep and put him in the PnP next to me, but he had to really be asleep or he'd wake up as soon as I put him down. During this phase DH took care of all the household stuff, like washing dishes. It kind of sucked for both of us - I was frustrated at being left alone to get the baby to sleep and then being trapped in our room, and he was exhausted with having to do a ton of stuff like dishes and dog walking on his own. But like everything else it was a phase that eventually ended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2326727 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 08:35:30 +0000 Dagny 2326727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have tried that but it quickly escalates into intense crying within 2-3 minutes. I'm okay with fussing, but she's only 10 weeks and full on screaming crying is too much for me.. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2326590 Tue, 20 Oct 2015 00:35:19 +0000 sapphire 2326590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried not putting her down already asleep? It sounds like she needs to learn some self soothing. I'm not suggesting CIO at this stage but a bedtime routine, put down drowsy but awake, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-put-your-newborninfant-down-for-bed#post-2326530 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 22:00:52 +0000 Dagny 2326530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO2 is 10 weeks and we're having a lot of trouble with sleep. LO1 was a terrible sleeper - for the first two months, LO1 only slept on me, nursing to sleep- for naps and nighttime. Around 2 months, I tried the miracle blanket and that allowed me to nurse LO down at bedtime and once LO was in deep sleep, I could move him to our co-sleeper where he would sleep for the first stretch of the night. LO2 is exactly the same in the sleep department, however I cannot get her down at night by herself at all! It is killing me. She will be swaddled, in a dark room, with white noise, and when I try to move her to the co-sleeper she wakes within one minute. It doesn't matter how deep of a sleep she is in. I really need to have some time in the evenings to keep our household functioning but I can't get her to bed without me. :sad: I've just been going to bed with her around 7 but it's starting to become unsustainable... I've tried rocking/bouncing her to sleep instead of nursing and she still wakes up as soon as I try to set her down. </p> <p>How do you put your infant down for bed? Am I just screwed? </p>