https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 18:17:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2317534 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 10:37:29 +0000 sorrycharlie 2317534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: ha!! at what h our does wine become ok to drink? this starts from 6 am.. :shocked: </p> <p>so I tried saying, "please don't speak like that. that's fresh, and I know Olivia is nice" and she said "well, I want to." so..ok then.</p> <p>next up is blatantly ignoring! nothing to lose, right?! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316833 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 13:46:49 +0000 littlejoy 2316833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: AMEN! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316800 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 13:28:25 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2316800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pour another glass of wine........ ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316737 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 12:55:58 +0000 regberadaisy 2316737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: haha I like your explanation much better. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316716 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 12:38:45 +0000 littlejoy 2316716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: If you've never heard any RIE philosophy, I guess that might seem pretty different. I don't conform to any parenting style either. Diehard RIE parents don't use pacifiers or baby carriers -- two things that I probably use too much. </p> <p>I do appreciate the RIE perspective on communication.</p> <p>I ignore the RIE jargon (enlightenment, etc.), and see this: "The back-talk is getting a rise out of you. The solution is simple: deactivate this button so the behavior loses its power."</p> <p>These responses:</p> <p>“Well, I guess we disagree on that one.”</p> <p>“Hmm… Thank you for your opinion.”</p> <p>“Interesting!”</p> <p>I dig it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316697 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 12:23:00 +0000 regberadaisy 2316697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: wow. I kinda regret clicking on that link. Proof that there are many different parenting styles in this world.<br /> I don't conform to any one style. But I would hardly say time out is the same as spanking your child. Or that I'm not an "enlightened" parent because I put my daughter in time out. I will absolutely agree time out is not effective for all children...... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316684 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 12:08:21 +0000 littlejoy 2316684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I'd look into some RIE philosophy. It encourages respectful communication. Our LO can't even talk in full sentences yet, but she's very stubborn at times. It's taken me to learn that I need to pause, think about what she's really upset about (or asking for), and then explain why x is not okay ... or what we CAN do ... or how she CAN talk to me to get what she wants. </p> <p>This article is really helpful!! </p> <p><a href="http://www.janetlansbury.com/2013/03/sassy-bossy-back-talk/" rel="nofollow">http://www.janetlansbury.com/2013/03/sassy-bossy-back-talk/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316367 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 07:49:15 +0000 mediagirl 2316367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. I have the hardest time with this. I find her being mean to us is easier to handle than her talking back like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316364 Mon, 12 Oct 2015 07:47:16 +0000 LuLu Mom 2316364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Olivia and Emme could be the same person! Emme is super defiant right now and anytime I tell her something I get "you've got to be kidding me" or "I don't think that's a good idea" or a flat out "momma I'm gonna freak out." I just try to be very clear that "mom and dad are the boss and you do what they say." She also could carelss about timeout, it works better now that we do it on the stairs instead of her room (toys) but she still is defiant. threeager for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2316284 Sun, 11 Oct 2015 23:59:04 +0000 Boogs 2316284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine is a year older and also sassy. Time out never works. Occasionally the loss of tv or tablet works, but not always. Sometimes I straight up just ignore him so he can't even get a reaction out of me. These kids are just so damn smart! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2315997 Sun, 11 Oct 2015 15:22:03 +0000 hilsy85 2315997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually just ignore, or say, I knownyoure upset but we don't talk like that. You can tell me that you're sad/mad/etc.<br /> I try not to give the words too muchc power/reaction! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2315972 Sun, 11 Oct 2015 14:39:30 +0000 regberadaisy 2315972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I take things away when time out doesn't work. Whatever her current favorite thing is and/or TV time.</p> <p>3 is fun! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2315967 Sun, 11 Oct 2015 14:30:09 +0000 matador84 2315967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say, "You're being rude. Is Olivia rude? No, Olivia is sweet. Next time you say something rude like that, I'll have to take away X/you'll go to your room/other consequence here."</p> <p>She sounds like a sassy little thing. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2315960 Sun, 11 Oct 2015 14:19:23 +0000 MrsSRS 2315960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would pick one simple phrase and always use it. With as little emotion as possible. Something like a calm, "that is disrespectful. You may not speak to mommy like that." Then a consequence with no feedback. So, for example, silently take a favorite toy and place it within sight up too high to reach. Then repeat exactly the same way every time. At the beginning of the day bring the toys down and remind her that she needs to use a respectful voice to keep her toys. She's probably enjoying the give and take and your reaction. That power is exciting! But if you are predictable hopefully it will lose its appeal and she will get tired of losing her toys. Worth a shot? When I was a nanny I thought three was the most challenging!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-respond-to-back-talking#post-2315947 Sun, 11 Oct 2015 13:38:15 +0000 sorrycharlie 2315947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>okay sooo..three is super fun. and by fun, I mean poke me in the eyeballs.. she is super sweet, but man.</p> <p>anything I say to my daughter, she has a comeback for. she doesn't care if she ends up in time out, or if she has something taken away. truly. she marched herself to time out yesterday and sat there swinging her feet. </p> <p>she says things like..<br /> "don't tell me no, or I will NOT be happy!"<br /> "stop saying 'Olivia!'"<br /> "just stop talking."<br /> "don't tell me (insert anything here)"</p> <p>etc. what do I do?! haha..as stated above, she really doesn't seem phased by anything. she genuinely just wants me to stop telling her no..or whatever. I'm running out of things to say because she spits it all back at me! so I just look like a gaping fish at some of the stuff she says.. </p>