https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 05:07:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2814663 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 21:48:42 +0000 Boogs 2814663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just last week, I mowed the lawn for DH so it was one less thing for him to do when he was home and we had just a little more time to do something more fun. Our lives have been so hectic that I’ve been trying to do more of those types of little things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2814658 Thu, 05 Apr 2018 21:26:11 +0000 DesertDreams88 2814658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made a list based on this and categorized it according to the love languages, just so I could try to be well-rounded. Figured I'd post to share. </p> <p> nWORDS OF AFFIRMATION<br /> 1. Random texts of love &amp; affirmative words<br /> 2. Handwritten notes / post-its with love &amp; affirmative words (lunch bag, work bag, card at work)<br /> 3. Asking him what to pray for him<br /> 4. Send Bible verse image</p> <p>ACTS OF SERVICE<br /> 5. Making dinner (mashed potatoes, quesadillas, egg dish)<br /> 6. Taking both kids out of the house so he can get some "alone" time<br /> 7. Make his lunch<br /> 8. Encourage/Help him to do things with friends like a happy hour (plan a time)</p> <p>PHYSICAL TOUCH<br /> 9. Initiating physical touch (holding hands, hugs, kisses)<br /> 10. Initiating DtD<br /> 11. Massages</p> <p>QUALITY TIME<br /> 12. Plan a family outing that he’ll like<br /> 13. Plan a date night out (secure babysitting)<br /> 14. Plan a date night in (game night)</p> <p>GIFT<br /> 15. Buy him clothes you know he likes<br /> 16. Buy a gift card to a “splurge” place (fast food or rock gym)<br /> 17. Buying a treat I know he likes (funfetti cake, donettes, Kringle, donut holes) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813379 Sat, 31 Mar 2018 17:01:44 +0000 808love 2813379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cookies. He likes lots of cookies, preferably with milk. Also when I don't nag him and instead thank him for doing<br /> basic house/car/chores/being with my daughter when I'm not home and things like that which I generally expect and don't think he deserves a medal for....but HE really likes it when I acknowledge it and it feeds his spirit, even more than cookies. Go figure!?!! :( :) :? :/ :silly: :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813173 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 13:46:26 +0000 youboots 2813173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We plan meals together so he always has input and I cook foods he wants/is craving. He’s been extra helpful around the kitchen lately.</p> <p>I get him random clothes- boxers, shorts, button ups, his favorite socks- whatever I just leave them on his desk 1x a month. He does not shop for himself and ask me to pick up what he needs- but I like suprising him. I’ll also grab small things like a book or candy occasionally.</p> <p>When he travels I drop notes in his suitcase. When it a 4+ night trip I’ll priority mail a note to his hotel.</p> <p>I always try to have our side entrance (the kitchen) clean when he comes home. I know he appreciates it and feels more relaxed.</p> <p>I encourage him to do things with friends like golf. This is hard for me because of his demanding schedule but if it’s a freeing I really like them I may even set up a T time.</p> <p>I don’t do anything super sappy but I post nice things about him when he’s in a photo that I post on social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813122 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 11:57:03 +0000 LuLu Mom 2813122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my husband's language is physical touch - so the same as people above have said. </p> <p>other things I do to show I care: I'll grab him a drink when I get one from the fridge without him asking, I pick up his favorite candy/chips/snack even though I try not to keep that stuff in the house, I don't watch ahead on the show was are watching together (or in our case we watch a show together after the girls go to bed to encourage snuggles and time together.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813098 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 10:53:32 +0000 Mama Bird 2813098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH loves when I sneak something special into his lunch - chocolate, or an extra creative sandwich... he knows I hate making lunch and this is a big effort for me :grin: </p> <p>He also loves when we spend time together just the two of us, but sadly we only get to do this once or twice a year. I'm going to have to beg my parents for a couple date nights this summer, before we have even more kids and even less time for ourselves.</p> <p>And of course lots of hugs :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813086 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 10:14:40 +0000 MrsADS 2813086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following. We really, really, really need to do better at this (and it's going to get a lot worse once baby #2 arrives in May, I'm afraid). We are both just tired and worn out from work, taking care of our challenging 2.5yo, and keeping up with the house and everything. Not an excuse, but I wish things were better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813079 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 10:00:52 +0000 SweetiePie 2813079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You covered a lot of things we do, but something else cute that we do is send each other songs that remind us of each other or are special to us or have a message we want the other to hear. Either lyrics or in Spotify you can send the actual song.<br /> Also, not sure if you’re religious, but I send my husband bible verses that either relate to us/marriage OR I know will help him through something he’s dealing with. He doesn’t do it for me (he’s not as devout) but he appreciates when I send them. I subscribe to a couple of IG accounts that provide daily inspiration/verses and I either screenshot or send a link. </p> <p>I have a couple friend who also spent a week texting each other something they appreciate about the other each day. But I guess that’s not one person vs both. </p> <p>Oh and if quality time is his love language, maybe make sure that once a week or however often you can manage (I know you have a toddler and a newborn like me) you either get all household stuff done before he’s home or let it go for a night to guarantee him some time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813075 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 09:48:32 +0000 snowjewelz 2813075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're def not perfect but we've had so many arguments since #2 was born about this, so we've worked really hard on it! And I think after you have kids, your love language can definitely change/shift so it's very helpful to figure out what it currently is and bounce ideas off each other to make sure what you put effort into is how they can receive/feel it the most. Otherwise both parties will be frustrated. </p> <p>For DH, he feels loved when I do these things -<br /> Sex/cuddles/kisses<br /> Attention (listening to him)<br /> Make effort to plan date day/night (making time for him) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813073 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 09:46:37 +0000 avivoca 2813073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to make sure he has space for his hobbies. We've both had to give up a lot with two kids and two daycare payments, so I go out of my way to be accommodating when he needs time to write or to train for a bike race. If there's a race that is far away, I usually stay home with the kids so he can really enjoy the experience, get a good night of sleep, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813068 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 09:37:13 +0000 ineebee 2813068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH’s love languages are physical touch, quality time and acts of service. We’ve had a lot of talks about what acts the other does most effectively shows love since we are so different. The things he loves most are cuddling and watching something we both enjoy on TV, and also when I do unexpected things to help him out, like taking things off his plate that have been on his to-do list for a long time. Those are the first things that come to mind! I feel fortunate that he doesn’t really like the big gestures because I’d be horrible at it! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813065 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 09:29:06 +0000 lindseykaye 2813065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following as well! We can get it a rut with the after-kid is asleep evening routine and even weekends too. I love these ideas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813022 Fri, 30 Mar 2018 04:12:59 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2813022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The single best thing I do is camp out with DH. He literally is glued to the couch on the weekends, so he can work on his laptop and watch TV when he needs a break. He likes to have me near him and prefers I sleep on the couch too. Sometimes I will. </p> <p>I cook his favorite foods when he is home. He appreciates out of the blue compliments and thank you s.</p> <p>I’m sure I could do more, but things that come to my mind are not things he wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2813001 Thu, 29 Mar 2018 23:25:57 +0000 Autumnmama79 2813001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: bake his favorite goodies, cook his favorite meals once every two weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2812999 Thu, 29 Mar 2018 23:21:55 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2812999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: Lol! Yeah we once got into an argument and I listed several things I had been doing to make his life easier so he could do other things, blahblahblah, turns out he really, truly doesn't care for that as a loving gesture, at all. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2812996 Thu, 29 Mar 2018 21:50:16 +0000 crazydoglady 2812996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sex? 🤣 But my DH's love language is physical touch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2812994 Thu, 29 Mar 2018 21:41:29 +0000 yellowbeach 2812994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following for sure </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2812991 Thu, 29 Mar 2018 21:29:52 +0000 Hypatia 2812991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great ideas! Gretchen Rubin calls these "proofs of love," in one of her books, and she tries to be intentional about expressing her love to her husband as part of her daily habits. </p> <p>It sounds kind of lame, but we made a schedule for each night of the work week with things we'd like to do together when he kids are in bed. We don't follow it religiously, but it helps us stay out of the, "What do you want to do?" quagmire. Monday is game night, Tuesday is movie night, Wednesday is audiobook night, Thursday is crafts night (we each work on our own hobby), Friday is massage night. </p> <p>I try to notice things he hates to do (like going grocery shopping) and make sure I take on those responsibilities. I make his lunches and write him notes sometimes. I send him sexts. He thrives on the outdoors, so I try to plan family hikes on weekends. I bake him brownies for no reason. I'd like to hear other people's ideas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-show-love-to-your-spouse-so#post-2812985 Thu, 29 Mar 2018 21:17:05 +0000 DesertDreams88 2812985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd like to be more proactive about showing DH love. Date nights and getaways and purposeful conversations have their place, for sure. But basically, I want to do small acts of love, more often. Things that are mainly on me, they don't take both people. Do you have ideas?</p> <p>Ideas: random texts of love &amp; affirmative words, post-its with love &amp; affirmative words, cooking a favorite dish or buying a treat I know he likes, initiating physical touch and/or BD, taking both kids out of the house so he can get some "alone" time..... other ideas?</p> <p>I was thinking along the lines of the love languages? He likes quality time the most. </p>