https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 14:36:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213544 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:11:38 +0000 Silva 1213544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: I just sent a message to my friend about it! I don't get why all these moms can't just chill out and worry about their own kid. The judging is so...rabid....it seems defensive. I'm working on some larger sociological perspectives.</p> <p>Like, maybe this generation of women was encouraged to both excel in school/work, and also to fulfill more traditional roles of housekeeping/child rearing. But there isn't a whole lot of external recognition in those more traditional roles. So we get super defensive about our way being the "best" way because we have to be "the best." And other people have to be worse than us, if we are the best.<br /> (I use the general "we," of course. I'm cool as a cucumber :wink: ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213543 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:11:35 +0000 littlebug 1213543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't usually unfriend, but I'll ignore. On occasion I'll respond, but if they continue to post ignorant things, I'll unfriend. For example, a friend of mine is an atheist and posts really obnoxious things about how religion is a lie. One time he posted something about how people who believe in religion are stupid (or something along those lines). I responded saying that I'm all for him expressing his own beliefs, but that post was flat-out disrespectful. He responded to me that respect is earned, not given, basically implying that he doesn't respect people whose beliefs are different from his. So I ignored him. We're still friends, but he doesn't show up in my feed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213537 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:10:22 +0000 wonderstruck 1213537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they're family, I block them so I can't see their post. And if it's some totally made-up crap, I'll sometimes post a snopes link or something and try to phrase it like a friendly FYI. Even though in my head I'm calling them an idiot and telling them to learn how to use their brain, or if they don't have one, at least Google search.</p> <p>If they're not family, I un-friend. And thank god I LOVE my FB moms group, we're all really supportive and nonjudgmental. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213535 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:10:03 +0000 Dandelion 1213535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I have removed family members for being hateful people. If they wanna ask me why I unfriended them, I'll be happy to tell them. They usually don't care, anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213532 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:09:02 +0000 HabesBabe 1213532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's just FB... so I either block or ignore. I don't get into any "arguments" because there's no point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213531 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:08:44 +0000 Dandelion 1213531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I use snopes on people all the time, too...and debunk a lot of stuff with links. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213529 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:08:09 +0000 Silva 1213529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: ha- yeah, there are some things that make me snap. I posted an angry rant awhile back about drug testing folks who receive state assistance.<br /> I always feel kind of foolish after I lash out though- because, you know, its facebook, calm down. But for stuff like blatant racism/sexism/etc I also think "I can't just be quiet about this." And I think the way people use facebook is changing- everyone just seems to "like" these random quotes or photos. Its strange. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213528 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:08:05 +0000 Mae 1213528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I unfriend anyone that annoys me that wouldn't cause drama to unfriend. For people I can't unfriend (for example, a cousin of mine who looooves to post inflammatory things) I just block all his posts from showing up on my wall so I don't have to see the crazy. </p> <p>Still though, he had a habit of bringing his fight over to my wall. If I posted ANYTHING political, even if it was a positive "yay i'm happy about this" rather than a negative "this is stupid" he could not help himself from trying to start a fight with me. The first few times he did it I couldn't help commenting back and getting into these long drawn out battles. Then I realized it was just annoying me and not really getting anywhere. So the last time he did it I just told him that it was fine that he had a differing opinion but that was what his own wall was for. I was done with debates on facebook and I wouldn't be responding to any further comments on the topic. Then he tried to post again and I just deleted his comment. He's not bugged me since. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213522 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:06:04 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1213522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is the reason why I left one of the local mommy FB groups. Too many of those types commenting just got on my nerves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213520 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:03:47 +0000 googly-eyes 1213520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't really stay friends with people like that because my instinct is to post "...says she whose baby sttn at 2 months!" Haha. Very mature, I know. On the other hand my LO sttn (8-9h) before 3 months but it didn't stay that way so I guess it could be she's going through a rough patch with sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213519 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:03:14 +0000 MsLipGloss 1213519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: If that were possible, there would be a lot more *smacking* going on! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213516 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:01:47 +0000 Arden 1213516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't. I just posted snopes links on like 15 posts on my newsfeed. This stupid "Obama Muslim prayer curtain" nonsense is making me want to smack some sense into people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213513 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:00:11 +0000 Reese 1213513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: ditto.</p> <p>FB needs to shrivel up and die. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213504 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 12:54:28 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1213504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I ignore and unfriend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213442 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 12:34:39 +0000 MsLipGloss 1213442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't FB. I think it is just recipe for disaster, especially for family stuff. I wish it would implode. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213437 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 12:33:05 +0000 Silva 1213437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: The other annoying part is that I was talking with her at a playgroup this week, and she shared that she felt guilty about supplementing with formula. I went out of my way to be super nice about it and encourage her, and talk about how terrible it is that we are all made to feel guilty about whatever choice we make when it comes to parenting. AND I talked about how I was in tears all morning because my kid had been up every hour for a week. Grrr. I think she's just clueless, not malicious. But come on!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213434 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 12:32:27 +0000 pui 1213434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably respond a few times respectfully and then leave with a "well I told you my opinion, we'll just have to agree to disagree". I'm pretty good at just dropping a debate like that and I like to make my points known (mostly for other people reading, not necessarily the poster themselves). However, I know some people find that once they comment on something like that they can't really tear themselves away. So if that's you I think you should probably just ignore them. :\ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213428 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 12:31:24 +0000 illumina 1213428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww. See I'd be tempted to post something on the contrary, like, "babies that CIO are given the opportunity to learn to self-soothe". But I'm sure I wouldn't...! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213427 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 12:31:20 +0000 loveisstrange 1213427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sanctimommies can't be reasoned with. It's best to just ignore them.</p> <p>I really really do my best to scroll past and just not respond to stuff like that. I'm pretty quick to put people on ignore or hide them when they post crap like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-stay-calm-on-facebook#post-1213417 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 12:28:47 +0000 Silva 1213417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try really hard not to get sucked into arguments on Facebook. I usually click ignore when something obnoxious or offensive pops up. If something is really over the line, like racism or sexism, I will typically unfriend pretty quickly. </p> <p>A mom from my mom group posted some quote about going to your baby when they cry to teach them that you can be trusted (in the context of anti- CIO). The thing that bugs me is I know that her baby has slept through the night since she was 2 months old. I am talking myself off the ledge of responding by repeating in my head "I am confident in my decisions." I think if I respond, it would be out of defensiveness. And I have nothing to be defensive about.<br /> *deep breaths* </p>